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STILL battling with daycare...week 2.....ugh

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I posted last week how all of a sudden DS would start crying when it was time for school (he only goes 2 days a week) and would cry all the way there and in to the building.  It was horrible.

Well, I thought for sure we'd be over it today--but no--it was worse.  I'm talking screaming like I never heard from him (like screaming in fear or something), didn't want to get out of the car, it was horrible.  The director said that last week when this happened he stopped right when he got in the classroom and was perfectly happy--and they kept a close eye on him just in case. 

I actually called a little while ago and talked to the "big" director (who kind of owns the whole multi-school organization) and althoug she wasn't there for drop-off, she said that when she came in just a few minutes after he was fine and happy.  She also said that at the 2 yr mark many kids will go through this--and they recently had a couple that were also part-time like our DS and actually had them come every day (no extra charge) to help change their outlook and stop the behavior in a way to help them.  So if he does it Weds then we will take him Thurs and Fri for basically a little over half a day (after naps are over). 

I felt SO horrible that he was still so upset this morning.  I hate having him look at me like "please don't leave mommy" and reaching out.  Ugh....breaks my heart.  She also said to stay in the hallway for a few minutes after so that I could "see" for myself that he was ok after he got in to his classroom. 


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Re: STILL battling with daycare...week 2.....ugh

  • Mrs.JLCMrs.JLC
    My DD went through a phase like this. She LOVES going to daycare but she through a fit for about 2 weeks. I did hang in the hall and then peek in through the window in the door to see that less than 5 minutes after I was gone she was absolutely fine. It made me feel much better. Then just as the phase was here it was gone. Good luck.
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  • CiconradCiconrad member
    I'm a SAHM so I haven't dealt with the same exact thing but around age 2, DS went through something similar.  I had a nanny one morning a week who he normally loved.  I left without any problems.  For like a month all of the sudden he would FREAK out when I tried to leave....screaming, crying, holding on to my legs.  He was the same way with the babysitters we used for date nights and even my SIL when she was visiting for a weekend.  If DH or I weren't around, he was freaking out.  It only lasted a few minutes after we left and he was fine.  He was like that for about a month and then it went away as fast as it came.
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  • k8elee03k8elee03

    DD went through this exactly. She's been in DC since she was 12 weeks old, and nothing changed at the time she had this phase. Literally, she went from "bye bye mommy!" with kisses and smiles to "no no mommy!" with screams, cries, and reaching for me. Every.single.day. (we're only 3 days now, though.) 3 minutes later, she was fine and dandy. In fact, there were a couple of times that she cried when she had to leave, the little stinkpot.

    I feel bad telling you this, but it was probably 6 weeks for us. I agonized and stressed. I wondered what happened? what changed? (WTF?) It was exhausting. I asked questions, and they assured me that it's just "ages and stages." The best thing that I could do was leave quickly. And then I felt so awful, I just wanted to go buy her a pony or something. (That's just a joke.)

    Sure enough, one day, I braced myself for the screams as her teacher reached out for her. To my shock, she opened her arms and went right to her. She smiled, kisses, and said by mommy. It's been just like that ever since. It was the weirdest thing. Like she turned on a switch one day, and then just shut it off one day. IDK.

    I wanna say she was about 26 months or so when this happened. 

    Good luck, it gets better. 

     

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  • LizzieandGarLizzieandGar

    My son just went through this. One day he was blowing kisses and shutting the door to the room in my face and the next he was kicking and screaming when I left. This was going on for two weeks and it was just getting worse. I was genuinely worried that something was going on that was upsetting him and thinking about dropping in one day to just see what was going on.

    I rang the manager of the daycare and discussed it with her. She said that seconds after I would leave he would stop crying but she understood my worry. She was there to meet me the next morning to go through a routine with us for dropping DS off. We already had a routine to begin with, a habit of going in, taking off the coat/hat, saying bye bye, but she told me to be more consistent. Say something like, "Bye DS, I love you, I will be back later." and then leave. The more I would try to hold on to him and console him, the worse it got.

    And wouldn't you know the next day it stopped. Completely. He's back to saying "bye bye, mummy!" with a kiss and running in. It's just a stage, but I completely understand your worry.

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