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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Echowysp
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I thought I found my mom dead today (long)
Echowysp
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And it scared the crap right out of me.
My mom is older (turns 80 next May) and has already had an incident a few years ago that she got the flu so bad that she couldn't get up off of the floor and the phone had died, so she almost died. My brother kept trying to call and finally went over, only to find that she had been on the floor for 2 days. Doc said she would've died the next day.
She's recovered, but we still worry about her. She lives alone and refuses to move to assisted living. Most of the time she does ok, but she's got high blood pressure, congestive heart failure (from laying down 2 days) and poor kidney function. She still acts young for her age though.
Today she was going to watch ds while I took dd to PT. I stopped by, to find her door locked; she normally leave the door unlocked when she knows we are coming. I knock because I don't have her key with me. Nothing. Knock loudly. Nothing. Call her name. Nothing. I go to the window of her bedroom and see her laying on the bed. I knock on the window right above her head. Nothing. I start pounding and yelling her name and she doesn't move. I started crying and swore she looked dead.
Here I was with an infant in a car seat, crying because it's 25 degrees out and snowing and a toddler running around. I run to the car and call from the cell phone. Thank god I see her get up and get the phone. She had fallen asleep and couldn't hear me pounding. I think she's getting hard of hearing. Sigh.
I was so upset that my fingers were shaking as I unbuttoned Adam's coat. My mom thought I was being silly and I don't think she appreciated that she's now at an age where if she doesn't answer the door, people are ready to start burying her. But that's the problem with having an older mom. And I'm now the same age as she was when she had me, so I'm going to be that same old mom. :-(
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Re: I thought I found my mom dead today (long)
Echo, that must have been scary.
Is she open to the idea of having a home health aide come in? Or even some high school kid just check on her every day?
We live in a different time. Things are so much different for us (I hope).
I am sorry you had a rough day. I think most people would have been just as scared as you were.
Go Phils!!
No because she's overall pretty ok. What needs to happen is I need to make sure to call her every day and visit her more often. I'm a failure of a daughter in that department.
I'm ok. It just makes me so sad to realize that I don't have as much time with her as others have with their moms. My dad has already been dead for 16 years.
I better take really good care of myself so Adam and Ava will have me for a long time. This is why dh doesn't want to have anymore kids (he's 43).
OMG that is SO scary! My sister had something like that happen once. She picked me up at the airport and when we got to her house at 10pm we were locked out and she hadn't taken the key. Her husband and 3 boys were inside. We were POUNDING on the door, yelling, throwing rocks, calling on the phone and nothing. We seriously thought they were all dead inside and my sister was crying and flipping out. We ended up calling the cops, but my sister broke into the house before that and found her husband asleep on the bed with ear drops in his ear!! He never heard a thing and the boys were sound asleep. We were SO shaken up and my BIL thought it was funny!
I hope you can figure out something for your mom. My parents are 71 and I know my mom will never go to a retirement community if the time comes. She insists on still trying to keep up her large home and she just can;t do it anymore, because she is so frail.
I hope she's going to live a very long life. :;hugs::
Thanks. I hope she is there too! :-)
What a scary thing for you to go through. I hope that your mom is around for another 20+ years! My grandmother refused to leave her house at age 82, but it was unsafe for her to be home alone. My parents brought her home for a week and found a beautiful assisted living place nearby. Grandma resisted at first, but she ended up loving it there. She made friends and had lots of activities everyday. She had someone to eat all of her meals with and enjoyed living there. This place was much closer to us, so we could visit more often.
There are also adult day care centers/activity centers that are open M-F. They can come by and pick up a person at their home if that is necessary. Maybe your mom would enjoy that 3 days a week? Hugs...
You tell my mom about these places and she will tell you it's for old people...lol. We've tried, but she's not interested.
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I would have flipped out. How scary for you. I'm glad she's okay.
My Grandma is almost 94, my mom has my Grandma call every morning after she wakes up and at night before she goes to bed. Maybe your mom would be willing to do that, since it may slip your mind with the LO's to call her every day?
I imagine my mom will be the same way (a bit "stubborn") when she hits that age, because she already is starting now. Good luck.