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Telling Family Your TTC?
Future DH and I decided TTC right away. We aren't sure if we should share with our families. My sister has been TTC for 9 months now. What did you do? Keep it to yourself or share?
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Don't do it. If you have any problems along the way, you'll just get people making you feel pressured every time they ask. And do you really want to basically say to your family that you and your STBDH are having sex in order to conceive? No thank you.
I think it can work out either way. All of my family (and his) knows the approximate time that we would like to have a family. We moved to Boston in June for just one year for work, nd everyone knows that we just didn't want to have a baby while we were here. There is still an element of surprise...I'm sure they expect us to come back pregnant, which we are! Found out yesterday, and I'm 5 weeks (I think). They are all going to be thrilled once we finally tell them the news. If you have a close family, I think it's okay say how you feel about it. If you want to keep some suspense in there and allow for difficulty in TTC, then maybe you could say something like...."we imagine that we will either have a baby or try to have a baby in a couple of years..." or "I could see us with a baby a few Christmases from now..."
There doesn't have to be heartache over telling family. And you could confide in one member more than another. For me, it's my sisters.
BFP 12/05/10 (EDD 8/8/11), empty gestational sac 12/31/10, natural miscarriage 01/05/11
BFP 03/03/11, EDD 11/09/11, We love you so much already, our sweet little munchkin!!!
*Congrats to buddies MrsAtch, cflocco, MommyandKate, luckylady55, opallover, trishiepoo, stephsteph77, and Pachita! Praying for healthy babies for all of you!*
*Congrats to my buddy, Izabella22 (BFP 5/11/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
*Congrats to my buddy, myaddiwaddi06(BFP 10/31/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
I made the mistake of just telling people we "pulled the goalie"...didn't even tell them we were really trying and I get questioned all the time. Each passing month becomes more painful so I do regret even mentioning it. Now, you may be one of the lucky ones who tells people and then has wonderful news to share a few months later...hopefully it'll happen quickly for you. IMO, I wouldn't tell or if you do, be as vague as possible.
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012