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NBR-DH's job dilemma

BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member
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DH is a military contractor.  He likes the company he works for, good benefits, is well paid and works from home, for the most part.  But, the economy has really taken a toll on his work.  Congress has zero-funded a large portion of his contracts.  His bosses have been trying to keep him on, but the handwriting  is on the wall.   He is applying for several other jobs within the company, but they're kind of longshots.  (One would be right down the road from our house, but in a completely different field.)

He has an offer to go work for the military directly.  They need an answer by tomorrow.  The money is a little less and he'd have to return to being a civil servant, which he's not too thrilled about.  The work isn't really what he wants to do, either.  If he turns them down, he pretty much torches a pretty big bridge, since people stuck their neck out for him and he'd still need to work with them in the future.

SO... do you take the new job or hold out for something within the current company?   We could handle a few months of unemployment and he'd very likely find something again fairly soon (maybe not quite as good of a match, tho)

What do you think?

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  • steverstever member
    I'd hold out for something within the current company and, if nothing materialized in the next few months, maybe take up the military on its offer.

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  • M.AmyM.Amy member
    I would be worried about burning bridges.  That is not reason alone to take the job but your husband definitely should think about how not to upset the people who tried to get him a job within the military.
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  • PeskyPesky member
    If I were him, I'd have a come to Jesus meeting with his bosses.  At this stage, he has nothing to lose and everything to gain.  I would want their input (and weigh it according to past truthfulness) before deciding one way or the other.  I would be very hesitant about "torching" a bridge he is likely to need in the future.  On the other hand, if he accepts the job and ends up leaving in a couple years, would that be worse or better than if he turned it down in the first place?  That's how I would view it because given what you are saying, it is unlikely to be a long-term position for your DH anyway.


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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    Yeah, Amy.. that's his biggest concern.  The military met his initial demands for more money, which he wasn't really expecting.   And even though people are "professionals", there would probably be a big grudge held against him and he very well could be black-balled from future jobs in this area.

    But on the other hand, he really doesn't want to leave his current company.. they're so good to work for and take care of their people really well.

    One thought is that he takes the military job but if something better shows up back at his old company in the coming months, he could jump back.   Still burning a bridge, tho. 

     

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  • pahokiepahokie

    How good is his relationship with his bosses?  If it is good, can he talk to them on the DL and say he has noticed things are not looking good and should he be looking for other opportunites? I doubt they will straight up tell him to look for another job, but they may give him a hint one way or another.

    My concern is you relying on DH being able to find something quickly.  That has turned out to not be the case for many people lately, and I would hate for it to happen to you guys as well.  DH's company can't be the only contractor having projects axed.

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  • Piranha54Piranha54
    Know I'm late to the party, but I agree with the pp that suggested a come to jesus meeting with his current company and see what comes of that.  Otherwise, I think I'd avoid burning bridges and take the govt job - I'm personally finding that when people go out of their way to hire you, it's rather nice.  And since it sounds like anything could be a bit temporary at this time, making those folks who went out on a limb for him happy could be worth it.  GL
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