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A Poll of Sorts

ECUPirate04ECUPirate04
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So over the course of my adult life (especially the last 2 years) people have done a ton of very nice stuff for myself (and DH).

I'm (we) are grateful for all of it however most of the time I don't feel like a handwritten thank you to express my gratitude is enough.

Often times I try to remember them in order to "pay them back" for being so generous.

Is this crazy?

I just would not ever want someone to think I'm not grateful but I feel like saying thank you or writing a thank you just isn't enough.

What do you guys think?  I guess I just continued to be overwhelmed by the generousity of others.  We are pretty generous too but we don't always give back to the same people.

For example if someone does something for us we may in turn do something for someone else in need down the road.  Does that make sense?

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  • MRSGOLABONTEMRSGOLABONTE
    I am the same way. 2.5 years after my baby shower, I'm still trying to "pay back" everyone that was there and gave me gifts. I've also paid it forward to others, so I don't know if it's also necessary to pay it back, but I can't stop myself. I totally know what you're saying!

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  • ECUPirate04ECUPirate04

    imageMRSGOLABONTE:
    I am the same way. 2.5 years after my baby shower, I'm still trying to "pay back" everyone that was there and gave me gifts. I've also paid it forward to others, so I don't know if it's also necessary to pay it back, but I can't stop myself. I totally know what you're saying!

    I'm so glad you just summed it up and I don't feel so crazy.  Or if I'm crazy then we both are :)

    Thank you, thank you!

    P.S. I'm coming your way for Christmas.  Maybe I'll see you at HT.

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  • starz080starz080

    I know what you mean.  I just realized the other day that a friend of mine from back home came to my baby shower and then I never got an invite to hers.  I figured it was because my shower was much closer to where she lived and hers was 3 hours away from me.  But it definitely wouldn't have bothered me if she'd sent me an invite.  I, of course, would have sent her a gift. 

    Sometimes the opportunity doesn't always present itself to pay people back.  But normally opportunities do present themselves to pay it forward and that's what I try to do.

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  • WendyNCWendyNC
    I hear you, but you shouldn't feel that way.  I don't think people expect you to do something in return.  Or if they do, then they are not doing the nice thing for the right reasons.  You don't do something nice for someone expecting it to be returned in the future.  A handwritten or even just a thank you is enough. You shouldn't feel pressure to pay everyone back. 

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