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F/U to my anxiety/depression situation

Married2MrWrightMarried2MrWright member
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First of all, thank you ladies for you kind advice and words of support, it is so appreciated. My PCP saw me yesterday and wrote me a script for counseling so that I can use my FSA to cover the costs.

She also offered me a low dose seritonin receptor uptake medication and I declined, at least for now. I am going to try good, old fashioned talk therapy and see if that does it for me before I go popping pills. She said she just wanted me to be aware of my options and that there are BF-safe anti-depressants available, if I feel I want to try them. 

She also mentioned finding a church, which I thought was sort of strange, but then again, I am living in the bible belt, so whatev. She recommended three therapists, two are at a religiously affiliated center so I most likely won't be calling them. Nothing against spiritually-based counseling but I am just not in a place where I can be open to "you need Jesus" and all your woes will be taken care of....I know it has worked for others, but I want less religion and more support right now.

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Re: F/U to my anxiety/depression situation

  • KShizKShiz

    I'm sorry you're going through a rough time (I don't know the back story).  Try to go easy on yourself, I know you have a lot going on.

    If you need medication, try not to beat yourself up about it, you won't become a "pill popper", it can simply be something to help get you through a rough patch.  The benefits of a happy mom is going to far outweigh any risk of taking serotonin meds while BF'ing.  Xanax and the like of course are a different story.

    Talk therapy is a great start though. 

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    i'm glad you're getting help.  i don't like taking meds either...doesn't matter if it's for mental health or something like a headache.... so i understand where you are coming from....but like kristen said, don't be afraid to take them if you need to if it will help you be a better mom/wife.  i hope the therapist is able to help you and i am always here too if you want some non professional talk therapy :)
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  • redshoegirlredshoegirl member
    I'm really glad you'll be seeing someone (and glad you found a non-spiritually based counselor, as I understand where you're coming from with that). Like the others said, don't be afraid if you do need the pills to help - I know addiction runs in both your and J's families so I'm guessing that's where some of the hesitancy is coming from, but if it turns out that there's the possibility of a chemical reason for what's going on, then keep your options open. Left HugRight Hug
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  • MrsZizMrsZiz member

    Lori, I'm glad you talked to your dr about all of it. I know I had a hard time and felt SO overwhelmed being a full time working mama and wife! It finally got better in time. I have went to "counseling" in the past and I really enjoyed it and it made me feel a lot better. I'm also not a "churchy" person (no offense to those that are) so I wouldn't want someone affiliated with a church either. Hopefully you'll find someone that you mesh well with and that you can enjoy. I also found that taking some me time (even if it was going to get gas in my car alone) made me feel better. I still need that from time to time! 

    Also like pp said, don't feel bad if you need a pill to help. I hate taking meds so I would try talking it out first but then if that's not helping, don't feel like you've failed! My sis is on meds and she's a million times better when she's on them! I can tell a GIANT difference when she tries to go off. I think she's super sensitive and they help de-sensitise her a little bit, like taking the edge off if that makes sense. Anyhow, good luck and keep us posted! You have a lot on your plate mama! 

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  • expatjenexpatjen member

    So glad you were able to get the names of some therapists! Having someone to talk to, who won't judge but be there to support and offer suggestions, is a great thing.  :)  

    When I first moved to India, I was super depressed and missed my friends, family and culture.  I had no one to talk to and felt alone, even with MH and in-laws around.  What helped me a little was journaling my day - writing down all the things that bothered me, but also writing down at least one thing that made me smile or happy during the day (it could've been something as simple as the dog learned how to sit on command or that I saw a pretty butterfly in the garden).  It wasn't so much a diary, but a list of things and it only took me about 5-10 minutes every day.  

    Anyhow, I hope you feel better soon and keep us posted! Take care, Lori! 

    **a girl from Hawaii, living and driving in South India**

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  • inamrainamra member
    I'm glad you're able to use your FSA to cover the costs--that's really good news! And I'm glad you're able to find a therapist to work with. It looks like you're definitely taking the right steps to find and get the support that you need. I really hope that you feel better soon! I also agree with pp about taking the medication if you're not feeling better, esp if they have BF-safe ones. And like J mentioned, we're all always here for you if you ever need more talk therapy here =)
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