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December 2010 Moms
A really chubby girl jealousy vent
I have to say...at 37 weeks now I'm kind of just wishing just once or twice I'd get some kind of pregnancy comment about how people couldn't believe my due date is right or someone wanting to touch my pregnant belly to try to feel baby kick or just some random stranger saying something, anything, to me about my being pregnant. Basically, I'm fat...like I was 150+ lbs overweight when I got pregnant which I know is MY fault but still it sucks! I just don't have some cute little round baby belly and I guess people are so worried about offending me or not being sure if I'm pregnant or just extra fat they just don't say anything. I was at Wal-mart a few weeks ago buying stuff off my registry and some other baby things and the girl at the check out was like oh how sweet of you to buy all this for your friend, blah, blah, blah...never even considered that *I* could be the one pregnant. You'd think she'd have figured it out since she saw I was paying with a Baby gift card. I was so busy trying to hold back the tears I didn't even correct her.
Anyhow my point - because I think I have one - is that I get that a lot of you are missing your cute skinny bodies and you hate all the comments about how big you are or how you're bound to deliver soon or people wanting to rub your belly, but seriously I'd LOVE for that to happen just one freaking time to me and wish some of you knew how lucky you are. 
Sorry for the rant/ramble. I'm beautiful even being fat and I'm completely accepting of it (so is my DH), this is just something that is really bugging my emotional hormonal self today.
On the other side and one I know just about ALL of us can relate to...I was told by four different people today about how I needed to have to baby on X day because they have A, B, C going on next week or whenever and it wouldn't be convenient for them. The fourth one got an earful about my thoughts on that because by then I was sick and tired of it. Most of these people are from my work texting me...guess what...keep bugging me and I'll be staying home after this kid is born and won't come back at all. Ugh!
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Re: A really chubby girl jealousy vent
I'm sorry you're feeling so down about your weight. I go through days when I get so mad at myself for not getting in better shape before I got pregnant. I'm quite overweight myself and carry it in my belly to begin with, and it's hard to not have the super cute belly. I hate getting the "are you having twins" question. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Honestly, some people are just idiots, so try not to take what they say to heart. Being heavy during this pregnancy has given me more motivation to get fit for the next.
I've had people say stuff like....I think Friday would be great for you to have the baby. I think they are just getting excited, but the people that have said that to me could really care less when I have the baby...they just want it to happen now
I'm sorry that you are feeling all down about people not being able to tell you are pregnant. I have the opposite problem of people thinking I'm pregnant when I'm not (I was 100lbs overweight and have A LOT of excess skin/belly flub after I lost it all and I'm anxiously awaiting the day I can get a tummy tuck after having kids).
Hopefully things will get better for you!!
Oh, I am so sorry that you are having such a rough time. In a few weeks, your LO will be here & then you can concentrate on that!!
The cashier was a jerk, and I'm so sorry that happened. And sometimes people are just insensitive too. It WILL get better though!! (hugs)
Thanks ladies! I never really have an issue with my weight, I've always been big so it's just part of me, and this is something that's been bugging me alot the past few days. I think it might be because I know I'm nearing the end and I'm frustrated with things going on (like them inducing which I didn't really want) and kind of reviewing the pregnancy in my head realizing the kind of stuff that I sort of missed out on. It's probably not helping that I've been on modified bedrest for the last 8 weeks so I've been stuck at home, I have no friends or family that live within an hour of me, and no friends under the age of 50 that have kids that aren't already all grown up. I need more local friends but it's not like I can get out to meet people right now and before I was on bedrest I was working so much I was never home before 7 or 8 and by then I just want to spend time with my DH before bed.
I know my co-workers and family mean well about the baby coming but like others have said before it's not like I have alot of control over it. Everyone is also bugging us like crazy about baby's name since we haven't told anyone what it is...you'll find out soon enough people get over it and stop asking.
My LB took the words out of my mouth. Hope the rest of your weekend goes better.
~*Christine*~ TTC #1 with PCOS since September 2005. 8 rounds of clomid- 4 HSG- 3 failed IUI's HSG 11/16 showed no fill in right tube-First RE visit 4/12/07 (my 26th b-day)started injectables with IUI- 75 IU's of Follistim- increased to 100 IU's- HCG 5/4/07 - IUI on 5/6 BFN 5/21 Increased Follistim to 125 IU's tested again 6/18 BFN & AF showed up. Last IUI before starting IVF 6/30/07 ******BFP 7/14/07,7/15/07 & positive blood test 7/16/07****** Our little Bean was due Easter Sunday, 2008 (March 23rd) Kaitlyn Jean arrived 1 week late 3/30/08 7lb 10.5oz 20" perfect! Myla Grace was our little gift, BFP first month off the pill arrived on her due date 12/16/10 BFP number three August 4, 2013 Due March 27, 2014
My problem with the friends thing is time/schedule. DH is in the Army and leaves at 4:30am and I leave by 7:15. He gets home after 5 and I the earliest I get home is 7. My job is an hour away so with our schedules it doesn't really leave much time for either of us to socialize. Since he will deploy again in a few months the time we do get together is precious and we don't want to lose that time. This is one of the big points in our discussions about me possibly becoming a SAHM. There are LOTS of things I can do on post that are family oriented, they just don't fit into my schedule because when I'm not on bedrest I'm not here that often when those groups are together. Being on bedrest for the past 2 months has just sucked because I know there's all these activities I could be involved in if I wasn't stuck laying down all the time. It's just frustrating.