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purplecrayon
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Vent: Family not helping (long)
purplecrayon
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I'll try to make this as short & sweet as possible. This is not at all characteristic of my family & was completely unexpected.
SO is a SAHD. Just before Halloween, SO's family asked him to go to California for 2-3 weeks to help remodel their house. They said they will pay him & we could really use the money. Since I work full time & we don't have daycare, the easiest solution was for LO to go with him.
2-3 weeks goes by & the remodeling isn't done. I refuse to miss LO's first Thanksgiving so I decide to fly out there. Before I leave, my family tells me that LO belongs with me, I should bring him home with me & that between the 3 of them, they'll figure something out to take care of him while I'm at work. SO will still be in Cali for another 2 weeks or so.
I flew back from Cali with LO this past weekend. On Sunday night, my family asks me if I've found anyone to watch him on Monday. I had assumed they would since that is what they had told me in the first place. They tell me, "Oh, well this is a pretty busy week for us. Not sure we can help. We'll have to check our schedule. Have you looked into any daycares?"
They ended up rearranging their schedules to watch him on Monday & in the meantime, I've lined up other people to watch LO for the rest of the week (different house each day ranging from Crapids to Lakeville).
An hour ago, the person I had lined up for tomorrow just let me know their kids are sick with head/chest colds & have had on & off again fevers. I'm extremely appreciative that they let me know but now I don't have anyone to watch LO tomorrow.
I'm so upset. I don't have any vacation/sick time left to take off work. If I had known my family wasn't going to help me like they said they would I would have left LO in California with SO for a couple more weeks. Yes, it would suck. I would miss him a ton like I did for those first 3 weeks. I just don't get why my family insisted that LO "needed to be with [me]." He was with his dad & being very well taken care of by SO's family.
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Any advice or constructive criticism is appreciated.
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Re: Vent: Family not helping (long)
wow - that totally sucks! if i knew you, i'd offer to watch your LO for you, since i'm a SAHM, but i'm guessing you don't want a complete stranger watching your child :P
sorry i don't have any advice or constructive criticism - but good luck!
I thought the same thing actually... "Awww, poor gal, that sucks......Hey, I could watch her kid!....Wait, that makes me look creepy."
:P
Hugs to ya, mama!! I hope it all works out for ya!
Wow! That does super duper suck. I'm guessing it was one big mess of miscommunication and your family was all upset that your kid wasn't with you and gave *ZERO* actual thought to agreeing to the promise.
I guess the only thing I'd do is to get them on the phone and say how extremely frustrated you are that you've had such enormous stress and hell figuring out childcare due EXCLUSIVELY to their promise to take care of him if you brought him back from CA. Really lay on the heat so they maybe rearrange their lives rather than making you do all the work they promised to help with.
I personally would love to hear the feedback for my own sanity in this situation to see their thought process. It may teach you they are totally utterly clueless and should be ignored forever more around kid issues!