i just need some sympathy or encouragment

breaheckusa · December 2010

do any of you have DH who is off at school, deployed, or maybe work weeks at a time?

DH and i seperated for 3 months but recently are back together. but while we were apart he enrolled in school and now lives 1 1/2 hours from our family home that were renting. we only see each other on the weekends. were starting the process to move to Colorado next summer but in the mean time.... i miss my husband. its very tough for me to accept that iam living like a very single mother, full time job that i hate, paying my own bills that i cant make, and on top of this fighting cervical cancer.

DH has moments when he is my prince charming and he says all the right things... more often than not though its like i am a check in the box to call me at the end of the day. he has a whole group of friend (men and women) who i dont even know. and i feel like were living two seperate lives.

iam tired, iam sick, and i just want to sit and cry.

i know i need to change my state of mind...

i just need some advice from my girlfriends...(which are all of you..i dont have many others) LOL

Liss_37 · December 2010

I'm really truly sorry that you're going through this on your own.

if I can, i have to tell you.. I think your DH is being beyond selfish right now. it makes me angry that he is living apart from you and making you do this on your own.

i think you need to have a heart to heart with him. he needs to come home and take care of you right now. this is the most important battle of your life, and you shouldn't have to do it alone.

*hugs*

Ivana_Stolichnaya · December 2010

I agree, your husband is being selfish. He has a wife who's dealing with cancer and a baby at home and he's choosing school over all that? He needs to reevaluate his priorities. It's not all about him anymore, he has a family he needs to think about now.

slmcronelaw · December 2010

I agree with both pp's...he is being selfish.

Hugs to you!!!

mr/mrsseeling · December 2010

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way! And I can't imagine having to pretty much take care of LO all on my own, PLUS fighting cancer. You might not feel strong, but you are in my book!

I know it's not the same, but my DH and I went through the same thing in college. He was an 1 hr away and when we did talk on the phone it was always at the end of the day, and it was me who usually called.

He lived with 3 of his best friends so it was always a party at his place and I sometimes felt like he'd rather be just hanging out with them rather then talking to me for the 5 min that I could drag words out of him. We got into fights over it, but once he understood how I felt about it he came around. Have you talked to him about this?

Is there anyone around that can give you a little bit of a break so you can just do something for yourself? Even if it's just taking a long bath and giving yourself a manicure, the little things seems to help me more.

mmkerr · December 2010

lisswastaken:
I'm really truly sorry that you're going through this on your own.
if I can, i have to tell you.. I think your DH is being beyond selfish right now. it makes me angry that he is living apart from you and making you do this on your own.
i think you need to have a heart to heart with him. he needs to come home and take care of you right now. this is the most important battle of your life, and you shouldn't have to do it alone.
*hugs*

I completely agree with all of this. While school is important, YOU are more important. School can wait. I'm really sorry you're going through all this.

Hollywood214 · December 2010

I am so sorry you are going through this. I don't want to sound mean, but your DH is being very selfish. Why can't he take classes at a school close to you and LO. He doesn't need to be that far away. He needs to understand your side here. Being a "prince charming" isn't just about what he says, but his actions as well!!! I would have a serious talk with him. GL with this, hang in there. Hugs!!!

breaheckusa · December 2010

mr/mrsseeling:

He lived with 3 of his best friends so it was always a party at his place and I sometimes felt like he'd rather be just hanging out with them rather then talking to me for the 5 min that I could drag words out of him. We got into fights over it, but once he understood how I felt about it he came around. Have you talked to him about this?

Is there anyone around that can give you a little bit of a break so you can just do something for yourself? Even if it's just taking a long bath and giving yourself a manicure, the little things seems to help me more.

so you have got to totally understand how i feel.

i really dont have many friends. we moved to SC from Cali 5 months ago we were apart for three of those 5 months so i never had time to make friends.

he always says that too. "why cant you make friends''.....ummm iam raising your daughter dude. DD and I are out of the house at 6am and were home at 6pm ...doesnt even leave us two time to play before bedtime:-(

breaheckusa · December 2010

AshPal61:

Want me to go kick him in the crotch?

YES! ...but i do want more LO's when we get staightened out .....so do it lightly! ;-)

curlychic · December 2010

AshPal61:
breaheckusa:
AshPal61:

Want me to go kick him in the crotch?

YES! ...but i do want more LO's when we get staightened out .....so do it lightly! ;-)

ok, maybe just flick him in the balls...I hear that hurts like a mother

OMG!! LMAO reading this!

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