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MandyBrownNoser
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"You should be trying for xx amount of time and see how it feels!"
MandyBrownNoser
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Honestly- this accomplishes nothing.
All it does is make you look like a participant in the "my life is worse than yours" olympics.
Is it ridiculous to freak out over cycle 2? Absolutely.
Is that because there are people here who've been trying longer? Not at all. This is a general board therefore you are going to get people from all different stages. If you can't handle the whining (because it will not stop, sadly), go to a different board- and no this is not a endorsement for yet another "special" board here on the bump because that needs to happen about as much as I need another ***.
It is ridiculous because it is cycle 2. Or cycle 3, or 4, or 5, or....
On cd1 there's nothing you can do. Moping or whining or taking to your bed will not change it. And like I said to whoever the cycle 2 chick is- if you are freaking out that much over cycle 2, you better be praying to every higher being out there because you will bed damn near certifiable if you reach the IF game.
Message of the day? Get a grip. Whether it be on the reality that you only have a 20% chance each month or that you happen to be one of the unlucky ones that don't get pregnant easily- get a grip.
Fuuck TTC - I'm moving on.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
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Re: "You should be trying for xx amount of time and see how it feels!"
Oh excuse me! I thought it was a pissing contest.
*zips up pants*
Sulf, you are nothing short of amazing.
BFP #1 - BFP #2 - Blog
and Luck to my BFPB StephK!!- Emma is here!!
Married 8-02-08
After 3 years TTC with PCOS and two losses Olivia Nikelle was born 4-08-13
TTC #2 Since August 2014
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you Sulf
Married 8-02-08
After 3 years TTC with PCOS and two losses Olivia Nikelle was born 4-08-13
TTC #2 Since August 2014
I love you, Sulf!
Trying to get sperminated since February 2010
Mar-May 2011: 3 Cycles IUI + Clomid = BFN Jan 2012: Injectables + TI = ??
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I didn't understand it that way, Papps. I agree with Mandy in that point that we are not all here on the board to say "You don't deserve to feel sad, because I have it worse". I found June's thread ridiculous because she is on freakin' cycle 2 and if she gets so upset about moving on to cycle 3 that she has to spend the whole day in bed and can't clean the house (or do whatever), she needs to grow a thicker skin. Not because I am trying longer than her. That's all really
Personally, on CD 1 I retreat to the woman hut and hide in my uncleanness until my period's done.
Hol-leeeeeey hell that post is ridiculous.
FWIW I didn't take anyone who said trying being on cycle 8,9,10 or whatever as a pissing contest, just as a dose of perspective which is so desperately needed.
Started TTC #1: July 2010 DX: PCOS
BFP: 12/5/10 Natural M/C: 12/17/10 (5w6d)
Cycle 10 - 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
Cycle 11 - 50mg Clomid + IUI converted to TI = BFN
Cycle 12 - 50mg Clomid + IUI #1 = BFN
Cycle 13 - Clomid Break + Charting + Dr. Recommendations = BFN
Cycle 14 - Clomid Break + Charting + meeting with URO (all clear!) = BFP!!
Beta #1 - 105 Beta #2 - 336! 1st U/S (@5w4d)- gest. sac and yolk sac, measuring 5w2d 2nd U/S - 1/16 (will be 8w2d) Stick and grow, little bean! My Ovulation Chart
* Congrats to my girl SarahRuthG on her new baby boy!*
It is possible to offer perspective without saying "yea well I've been trying for this long".
All that does is turn into a "you are just a bunch of bitter biitches" which completely misses the point.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
I gigglesnorted at this myself. (Yes, that's one word.)
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BAHAHAHAHA! You are an amazing woman!
No but seriously...I can outpiss you all!
That is a challenge.
I totally agree, on one hand the newbies (myself included) need to lurk and get a tad educated before making random posts AND those who have been here longer should give advice..BUT there is a difference between genuine advice/guidance VS. feeling entitled to give "perspective" a.k.a "a jab"....this is a community board. you will have those who range all across and so if you dont want to see someones post or cant comment with a little tact dont lurk/comment, its that simple...we are all still learning
Love this lol. I totally just pictured you as a cave woman locked away from the men folk.
From my perspective, and from what I've seen on this board, that second or maybe third cycle is a big wake up call to a lot of people.... Getting pregnant does not happen nearly as easily as we were perhaps taught in school and made to believe as teenagers. And you've gotta get a grip on yourself quick, because the more you stress about not being pregnant the more it can impact your chances of becoming pregnant.
One thing I noted on here, is there are a lot of questions from people regarding information that is already in the "newbies read this before posting" section. Perhaps it would be considered to make that section in big, bold letters with neon lights dancing around it at the top of the posting board to make it even more obvious to people? I think a lot of grief could be avoided if people read that first, hence its purpose. Education and understanding is key to remaining sane through an incredibly emotional time.
I think this is very well said. I wish this board could be a place where people could come for support no matter their stage of the process without fear of backlash. Regardless of how long someone has been trying, their hurt is real to them in that moment. There is a lot to be said for being tactful and sensitive to those who have been trying longer, but I don't think the post crossed that line. And I didn't really read it as her taking to her bed over it. More like just a bad day, and we've all had those.
Little brother was born October 1, 2012.
Definitely agree with this Moose. As someone who just got a BFN for cycle #3 and waiting for CD1, it is a wake up call. Although I believe I am pretty realistic and KNOW it could take up to a year to get a BFP, I still FEEL let down. It is emotional no matter what stage in the game. Having ladies who have been TTC, and can snap you out of those low points, in a nice way, is what is nice about his board.
Really? I'm not sure that was the point of this thread. BTW, your siggy says you've been trying for 3 cycles.
While I agree it shouldn't be an I-have-it-worse-than-you contest, I'm only nearing the end of my 3rd cycle, and it sucks. But being upset is one thing, being "Pity, party of one" over the end of cycle 1, 2, 3, etc seems like a slap in the face to people who have been trying longer than that and are still able to go on with their lives on CD 1. I try and be mindful of the people who have been on here longer than me, which is something that not a lot of people do and that's probably why they get the comments they do.
*Added a thought.
Yeah, but there's a difference between:
"Damn CD1! I'm off to buy some chocolate and wine.
On to cycle three!"
and whining about going back to bed because you didn't get pregnant on your second try. Get an f'ing grip.
BFP 12/10/10 - DD1 8/16/11
BFP 10/29/13 - c/p 11/2/13
BFP 11/29/13 - DD2 7/18/14
BFP 3/20/18 - DS1 due 12/2/18