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His middle child really trying to dampen the baby coming for everyone else!

olyprincessolyprincess
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Hello All!!

My blended family is my bf his 3 kids and me (and now baby). The oldest and youngest kids are super excited about baby brother but the middle child is getting on my nerves. I don't expect her to be fall down happy but I hate that she is trying to poison her lil brothers excitement for it- e.i- Dads is not gonna love you anymore, as soon as i have the baby I am going to leave with him, etc. I think alot of it is Birth Mom but I am trying to be patient and work with her. She is not a bad kid, in fact most of the time she is helpful and full of life! Any help here??

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Re: His middle child really trying to dampen the baby coming for everyone else!

  • sweetie0228sweetie0228 member

    Has her father discussed this behavior w/ her and gotten to the root of the problem, whether it's her own fear of being replaced or out numbered by boys or if it's indeed coming from the BM.

    He should have a daddy daughter date and really have a heart to heart that his love for her isn't going to change and she is a very important part of the family. He should also be telling her there will be no more negative talk about the baby coming.

    The wonderful thing about love is it doesn't get used up and everyone only gets their slice of  the pie and no more, love gets bigger for everyone as we love more people.  And there is always more than enough love in the family to go around.

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  • mrstarawalshmrstarawalsh member
    This probably has little to fo with the BM and more to do with the child's fears of being diplaced. Your bf should sit her down one on one and explain that he wiill always love her just the same. I agree w/ the PP about a daddy/ daughter date. Also after baby comes your bf should make an effort to spend one on one time with each one of his children on a regular (weekly if possible) basis.
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  • SWmamaSWmama member

    She is most likely verbalizing her personal fears about how the baby will change her life.

    I agree with pp's who say that your DH needs to ensure that he gets 1-on-1 time with the older kids once the baby gets here. My DH uses his weeknight visitation to spend 1-on-1 time with SS. They may go to dinner or to a park for a few hours, nothing big, but it means the world to SS. DH says he wants to do something similar with DD when she gets a little older.

    And as a working mom, I love the 1-on-1 time with DD in the evenings. Smile

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