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istalkgeeks
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Do your in-laws stay with you when visiting?
istalkgeeks
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I guess this would only apply if your in-laws live out of town, but do they? My in-laws are visiting this week and are staying at a hotel. We offered but they chose not to, but I knew that before we offered. Everyone seems surprised when they find out. To be honest, I don't like anyone "making themselves at home" in my house, so I'm ok with them not staying here. I'm a bad DIL, right?
DS 09.11.10
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Re: Do your in-laws stay with you when visiting?
I'm a bad DIL, right?
Nope, you offered! Good enough for me. LOL. To answer the question, no they don't stay. They're only an hour away so they tend to just come over for the day and then leave a little while after dinner. Same with my parents.
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
IL's stay at our house. If our house is not available (because of other guests in the guest bedroom or like last Christmas when MIL and I were not speaking) they stay at DH's grandmother's house. DH's grandmother recently moved into an 2bdrm apartment style assisted living facility and they are staying there for Christmas this year. They stayed with us for Thanksgiving, but Christmas is sore subject in our house, so they didn't feel "comfortable" here.
They've always stayed with us or other family.
I wish they stayed in a hotel.
My in-laws & parents both stay in a hotel when they visit. If my mom comes alone she stays with us. If I had a much larger house I probably wouldn't mind as long as they had their own bedroom/bathroom, but as it is, I prefer them to stay at the hotel so we both can have our own private space.
No, but my parents do, now that we have a guest room again.
You're not a bad DIL, you just have specific requirements for your home and lifestyle. They will have to learn to live with them.
My in-laws do stay at our house when they come to visit but to be honest with you, I would love if my FIL and his trashy girlfriend went to a hotel instead. I'm perfectly ok with MIL and her husband staying since my MIL helps out and watches the kids and makes dinner...so yeah...she can live with me for all I care!
I don't think you are a bad DIL, if they are more comfortable in a hotel and you don't have your house invaded, I say it's a win win!
Don't even get me started on this issue. My in laws are sooooooo cheap.
They think they can move in when they visit- it begins and ends VERY badly and involves me closet drinking (just kidding... well sort of).
I have put a 2 night maximum on their overnight stays. I can't do it any longer than that. I put my foot down after a 2 week 'visit' about 2 yrs ago. Needless to say I was NOT happy.
One of my biggest fears is my ILs staying with us....
Luckily, they only live 10 mins away, so right now there is nothing to worry about. If we ever move away (and we probably will in 5-10 yrs), I absolutely shudder at the thought of them staying in our house. Maybe we can find a home with a detached in-law suite
Yes. All our family stays with us when they visit...it is one of the reasons we bought a bigger house. We have no family in the area and we have a revolving door of people visiting most of the year. I love having visitors and really do want them to make themselves at home.
I don't think your a bad DIL. I think the fact that you offered even though you would prefer otherwise makes you a considerate DIL and wife.
You offered, they declined. It's probably going to be less stressful.
MIL is 2.5 hours away. She stays with us.
My parents are across the country. They stay with us, but they usually take off for a few days and visit places on the east coast. So it's the best of both worlds. Plus my dad cooks for us
Yes they do but my parents usually don't. We actually had 6 members of DH's family out our 2 bedroom house at one time but that was before DD was born so it wasn't as much of a problem. If we had more room, my parents would stay with us too but my dad likes to have room to not be in anyone's way and in our current house they would have to bunk down on our sofa. He would rather just stay in a B&B nearby. When my mom visits by herself she stays with us.
ILs have no problem sleeping anywhere and no real understanding of being an inconvenience. And it isn't a money thing - they have more than enough to pay for a hotel/B&B they just like to all stay together. DH thinks it is perfectly normal but it drives me crazy. I just keep my mouth shut!
One day when I have a bigger house (read: guest suite) I would love for everyone to stay with us - I just currently hate stepping over sleeping ILs while trying to get to my kitchen.
m/c at 13 weeks - March 23, 2011
My IL's live in another country and come to stay with us every year for 4-6 weeks at a time! It can be really hard, and I wish they would spend at least some time in a hotel/someplace else, but it is customary in their culture for the family to stay with family. Plus, my H only gets to see them once a year. The only plus is that now that we have kids, they offer to babysit A LOT while they are here and DH and I can go out later at night once the kids are sleeping and not rush home.
You are not being a bad DIL. My mom would never stay with us, she prefers a hotel and her privacy and that is fabulous :-)
My in-laws stay at our house-we have a guest room so I dont mind. I wouldnt feel bad,you offered.
MIL stays with us when she visits which has only been 3 times since we moved 3 years ago.
FIL and SMIL do not stay with us or SIL when they visit. They always get a hotel.
You are not a bad DIL. You offered and they chose to stay in a hotel.
Our ILs live about 15 hours away so they never stay for less than a week. Most of the time they will stay with us for half of the time and then get a hotel for half of the time, which is fine with me because I seem to be in a real minority when I say that my ILs are awesome... And the nice thing is that DH can get them a great deal on the #1 hotel in town because he works there so he gets a hefty discount. It's a win-win when people come to visit.
You have no reason to feel like a bad DIL. If they wanted to stay with you, then they would have said yes when you offered! Simple as that.
This exactly and it goes for everyone else too (my parents included). The only person that has, and will ever, stay with us is my best friend who is single. We don't have much room, only one bathroom and we don't have a guest bed (aerobed for when she comes). It really works out for everyone to have their own space/place to retreat to when they need to!
Sarah, 35 bumping from NE Ohio
Married my love 4/22/2006
DD born 10/12/2009
DS born sleeping 2/23/2013 full trisomy 18
Baby 3 due 2/13/2015