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Discipline while nursing...
So generally we are getting along well with 2u2. DS1 loves DS2 and hasn't shown any anger/aggression/etc. toward him at all. DS1 still throws the normal tantrums and throws things/hits (only adults so far) out of anger, but time out is working really well for him.
However, when I'm nursing DS2, how do I discipline DS1? Inevitably, while I'm nursing Eddie, Alex will throw/hit or do something unacceptable and I have no way to instantly discipline the negative behavior unless I put DS2 down (mid-nurse). I know it's important to have INSTANT repercussion for actions but I hate to make Eddie start/stop during nursing sessions.
I feel like if I don't stop to make Alex serve time-out then the hard-core effort that I put in the rest of the day goes to waste.
Ideas?
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Re: Discipline while nursing...
::sits back and waits for answers::
I'm nursing DD2 right now and DD1 just came up and bit me
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I've walked around while nursing DD quite a bit. Could you maybe get up and go to him while still nursing?
Obviously I haven't had this situation yet, and now I'm wondering too lol!
LOL
That is me in the evening, but I think DS bites because he thinks it is funny because when he does it, he also screams like a girl to mimic me (I need to stop reacting but this is a new behavior and always catches me off guard!)
Brady Phoenix, 8.29.09
Claire Zoe, 10.26.10
Probably not what you want to hear but you CAN do both at the same time.
Tuck the baby into a football hold, get up and take care of business.
You can do a LOT while nursing. Granted.... it's not very relaxing but it's functional.
My best advice is to approach it with a preventative approach instead of a disciplinary approach.
If you're noticing that the behavior increases when he knows you're tied down... work a bit more on providing TONZ of interaction and positive attention during nursing.
One of the best tools I learned was something called "narrative play" in a book called "Parenting the Strong Willed Child"
You basically play verbally with them by narrating every thing they do like you're broadcasting a football game. It feels REALLY akward at first but it worked REALLy well for us.
No questions, no directions, just narrate: "Dylan's zooming the red car behind the blue one. Dylan's drawing a cool picture." etc.
It sounds simple but it really pays off. What it does is lets them know that you're tuned into them and giving them the attention they're seeking. It's a great tool for 2 kids close together because you CAN do it while nursing, changing, cooking, etc.
Try it. Start about 30 minutes before a nursing session (or all day for that matter... it's a great tool in general). Continue during the nursing session.
Or... be sure to involve him in an activity you can do with him while nursing.
For us that was reading, drawing on magnadoodle, sitting at the kitchen table while he colored, heck... I even played soccer in the living room while nursing.
GL!
Good to know I'm not alone! Thanks for the advice. I have been able to get up with DS2 still nursing, but it's hard. I have a very forceful letdown and depending on the timing, DS2 pulls off to breathe and milk is everywhere, etc.
I'll give the narrative play a shot as well as some of the preventative ideas.