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What Do You/Don't You Let Them Share?
I've been thinking about this recently as far as day to day stuff goes, but also with the holidays coming up. I think it's important for the girls to have their "own" toys, but also share stuff. My siblings and I had our own things and shared as well, so I don't see it differently because they're twins.
With toys and acitivity stations, etc. I see an easy distinction. They each have their own soft rattle for the car, they share the jumperoo b/c we only have one, etc.
But there are some things that are different like....
If they're eating solids, I have one bowl that I feed them from. But they each have their own spoon. Is that weird? It's just a PIA to clean double of everything! So that's a share and a don't share (spoons).
I always change the bath water so they each have a fresh bath. Don't share.
They each have their own color for their pacifier. Don't share- ever!
They share clothes and PJs. This will end eventually - but when?
They don't share sleep sacks, I have each one designated to a baby.
I don't put them in a specific car seat. I have different toys hanging from each, so I put them in a different one (or at least I think I do- I don't actually keep track) each time. So they share those.
Just wondering what you all do......
Here comes Baby #3!
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Re: What Do You/Don't You Let Them Share?
My girls share everything. They each have their own designated crib, but that's just about it.
I have a friend w/ 5 kids. She has a toy basket for each kid in their room. The toys in that basket "belong" to that kid. Sometimes she even writes their name on it w/ a sharpie. All other toys are shared by everyone. I think I'll do this when mine are older.
***Twin fraternal girls born at 35w6d in 12/2008***
Mine have always had their own car seats... they are different sizes- so it wouldn't be safe to keep switching them.
they don't share their clothes b/c they are different sizes...
they don't share their cribs.
that's about it- everything else they share now.... I will make separate bowls of food but feed with one spoon- this way i know how much each is eating.... I really don't see how one bowl of food with 2 spoons helps anyone - the germs are still going together... i'd go with 1 spoon if you are going to do 1 bowl.
They get their own milk cups - but often swap them around... i try to keep them separate b/c Gray drinks whole and Gibby drinks 2%... but i don't freak if they drink from each others either.
when they are older and understand I'll have them have "their" toys.... but right now they don't get it- so they share all toys.
Griffin has things that are HIS and the babies can't play with - b/c of the age difference... but he also knows that he needs to share HIS toys with the babies, too (those that are age appropriate). We discuss often how we are a family and we all share our things... we have a small house and can't have 2 or 3 of everything- so they need to share. They share at daycare with bunch of kids- they can manage it here at home with 3.
My boys share everything except toothbrushes, cribs, shoes (esp. since they're different sizes now), and of course their loveys. There are some clothes that I tend to put more on one boy than the other based on fit or what colors they look good in.
For a while we were careful about them each having designated car seats but now they're closer in size again so we don't really have to readjust the straps if we switch them around. They do have color-coded sippies (and we did that with bottle rings, too, to keep track during feedings) and snack cups so that's the other thing they don't share. Alex is green, Will is blue, so as long as we have a cup in one of those colors the other boy can have whatever other color is available.
Mine share just about everything (I have B/G):
All the big stuff when they were little-swing, exersaucers, play mats etc.They each have a specific crib, but I don't hesitate to put a sleeping baby in the wrong crib if the other one is full of toys, etc when I go to lay them down.
Even little things: pacis (I would have gone stark raving mad if I had to keep them seperate), cups, spoons, etc. as they got older and they ate on their own I kept food/bowls seperate so I could tell who ate how much. I did try to seperate things if one was sick.
Now I make them share just about everything. They are almost 2. My girl has one speciifc stuffed animal that is hers and I don't let him take it away, but if she wants to share, all the better. He has one book he loves to carry around, so I don't let her take it away. I try to emphasize how much more fun we can all have if we share things-can you tell I have toddlers?
Mine share everything except car seats. (DS2 is bigger, so the straps are moved up.) Otherwise, I'd lose my mind if I tried to keep everything seperate. DS1 still fits into most 0-3 month clothes, so we do have a few of those hanging around just for him if I'm too lazy to do laundry.
I'm sure when they get older I'll try to give them a few of their own things. I agree that it's important they know they're individuals and not just "the twins". But right now, I'm not about to run a new bath for someone who's just going to pee in it and try to drink the water.
As of right now they share all toys since they are only 3 months they don't really know any better.
They are not on solids yet but I plan on using one bowl and one spoon
They have their own bottles only because DS is on the medium flow nipple and DD is still on the slow but we are starting to transition her to the medium so once she is on the medium they will share
I change the bath water, I wouldnt want to bathe in someone else's filth so I don't expect my children to either
They each have their own pacis although sometimes if DS is crying and DD's paci is near I will give it to him and vise versa
They have their own clothes not only because they are B/G but DS is slightly larger than DD but they do share their white onsies
due to size difference they do not share carseats
when they get older they will each have their own toys but big toys will be shared my brothers and I always had our own toys but had to share the larger stuff like computers and gaming systems
We share everything. As far as toys, whichever toy/object a child is holding is HERS at that moment. Audrey is attached to a certain lovey, that Vivienne doesn't usually mess with. Other than that, there are no boundaries yet.
For bath, I will bathe them at the same time in the tub, but would change water if it were one baby after the other.
Share spoons and bowls. Share sippy cups. If Audrey's finished and wants more, and Vivi has some left... ABSOLUTELY Audrey is going to get some of Vivi's.
Clothes are shared depending on size/fit/style. There are some things that look hideous on one child or the other. Also, lots of times mine are in different sizes. If it works for both, they share.
Mine always shared toys. They shared neutral clothes (onesies, socks, and that kind of stuff) since i had boy/girl. They did share a bassinet/crib for a while. Preston took a pacifer but Jordana was (still) a thumb sucker.
They had their own car seats. Other than that they shared!
I would say mine share almost everything that is the "same"- I have b/g so they dont share clothes. they are different sizes so they dont share carseats since the straps would need to be adjusted each time. they have their own cribs. they don't use pacis, but i do keep bottles seperate mostly because they were on different formulas, so I am used to it by now. i do share a bowl and spoons when I am the only one here to feed them - one scoop for you, one for you lol. they share all toys, play areas everything else. If my DS who ie bigger grows out of PJs and they aren't ratty, I will let DS wear them. If they are sick, the sharing will probably be no more, but that depends because they are all over each other anyway, so they will probably have given it to one another already - will cross that bridge when I get to it. oh and I always change the bath water when I bath them seperately. when I have extra hands for bath, I will bath them together so its more for the water getting cold than anything.
Kids don't understand possession until they are 3, maybe older. So don't even worry about ensuring they each have their own things for awhile!
That being said, my kids share everything except toothbrushes, carseats (they are different sizes) and clothes (again, different sizes). One of my guys has decided that one of the stuffed animals in our house is his only, so that is his special toy that he doesn't have to share. But every single other thing is shared in our house.
Hee hee. I know they're too young to understand now! I don't know why I designate sleep sacks...just a weird quirk.
When they get stuffed animals or soft rattles, we usually get 2 different ones. LIke my Dad just bough them stuffed dogs, one chocolate, one light brown. But we designated which dog was for which girl. I think it's also more so that family doesn't treat them as "one." But it's definitely early!
It doesn't make sense at all! That's what I mean...sometimes I make a distinction with things and I don't know why.