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Toddlers: 24 Months+
Anyone not having tantrum issues? Is this normal?
I am not posting this to brag...Trust me.....my son has a severe expressive speech delay, and has a mild developmental delay, so I try to find out what might just be his personality, and what might be related to his speech disorder.
Anyone have a kid who just really doesn't tantrum? DS gets frustrated sometimes when I can't figure out what he wants, and he has some shyness / anxiety around strangers, but for the most part he is just really well-behaved. Good listener / good at following directions - I can't really remember the last time he had an all out tantrum
Anyone else's kid just really easy-going? Or is it possible that my kid just hasn't hit this phase yet due to his delays? Anyone have or know of an older kid who just never really went through the terrible twos?
(I realize of course that since I wrote this I have probably jinxed myself and he will start tomorrow morning on a tantrum spree....)
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Re: Anyone not having tantrum issues? Is this normal?
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DS did not start doing anything that seemed remotely tantrum like until about 28 months. Now sometimes he will yell and cry or stomp his feet but rarely for more than a few minutes. We just pick him up really matter-of-factly and carry him to his room and say when he is ready to act nice he can come out.
If he starts looking like he's going to act ugly, I say, "If you are going to act ugly you're going to get in trouble. Are you going to act ugly or nice?" Usually he will make up his mind to act nice.
He has always been a very even-tempered kid. I think that's just his personality, because I can already tell his little sister is going to be a handful and a half.
One time he did scream and cry when we made him leave the park. Only for 5 minutes or so though.
Griffin hasn't thrown a tantrum since he was about 16mo old... that's when they started- and they ended soon after b/c we completely ignored them- he learned that they got him nothing- so he stopped.... and hasn't done it since.
when he cries and whines about wanting things- we remind him "crying/whining gets you nothing" and he stops pretty damn fast. he's very easy going -- he was a GREAT 2 y/o... 3's have been a little harder- more attitude, more likes/dislikes/preferences, etc - but that's expected. All around he is a great kid... I hope it's more about our awesome parenting so our twins will be just as good, lol
My son will be 2 and 1/2 on Christmas eve - I have to figure out how to update my ticker.
He's not really picky - if he wants a drink he doesn't really care what cup or what kind of juice as long as he gets a drink. Same thing with snack - he doesn't really care whether it's fruit, or goldfish or whatever, as long as he gets a snack. He can be particular about what book he wants to read, or something like that, but he loves to go to new places, and is always happy wherever we end up - the beach, the museum, the mall, wherever. He just likes to be out and about.
No joke - if we go to the supermarket, I don't need to put him in the cart. He walks alongside of me or right in front of me (or holds my hand) and then loves to go find whatever is on the list in the aisle and put in the cart (bananas, cereal, whatever). And then he stands paitently in line at the check out with me. He does touch everthing though, but he'll stop if I tell him no or redirect.
He has a speech delay / disorder, so he can't talk back yet, so that probably elminates a lot of bad behavior right there. And I am really laid-back, so I wonder if maybe he does do things that other people would tell their child No for that I let slide. The other thing of course is, since he does have a speech delay, I can't always tell if he understands what I'm telling him. So every now and then if I ask him to do something (like a multi-step direction - for example - take of your shoes and coat, hang them up, then come into the bathroom and wash your hands) and he doesn't do it, I'm not sure if he's 'disobeying' or simply didn't totally understand or got overwhelmed with all the steps. So I give him the benefit of the doubt and help him out instead of assuming he's trying to not do what he's told.
Behavior wise though, he just doesn't hit, spit, kick or anything (and again, he can't talk back yet). When playing with DH the other day, he did gently bite him while he was tickling him, but it wasn't malicious. We did firmly tell him No and redirect him though, because I certainly don't want him to think it's ever ok to bite someone even when playing. I've been a little hesitant to use time-outs because of his speech delay. He has 2 and 1/2 year well visit at the pedi in January, so I'll talk to her about it then. I also figure his speech and occupational therapist can help if his behavior does become a problem.
My one concern though is that he is shy, and will be starting preschool in the fall. I can see him being nervous about participating in all of the activities if I'm not with him. I hope that doesn't cause him to tantrum if they try to force him to do the parachute or craft, or whatever if he's anxious about being there by himself.
You're not implying that kids who tantrum do so because they "learned" how to yell from being yelled at, are you? I sure hope not.
My DD rarely has tantrums, like maybe a small one every couple of weeks. Even when she had them a little more frequently, they were very short, a few minutes at the most.
She's been way easier as a toddler than she was as an infant
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Some behaviors (like tantrums) are just a product of being a human child. They're not necessarily learned.
This was my first reaction too. Before I had DS, I would have said something like this too but now I know better. I just think she has a sweet boy who hasn't yet given her a reason to doubt this belief.