So sick of family drama (VENT)
jenniann87
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My Dad has a rather large family, 6 brothers and sisters, all who are married and have kids. I have about 35 cousins. Growing up everyone was all so close and I have 4 cousins that were around my age and we were inseperable. Now I know that people grow apart but those 4 still talk to each other, I make the effort to talk to them but it just isnt reciprocated. I seem to be the "black sheep" of the family as all four of them went to private all girls schools and either are in college or have graduated. I on the other hand went to a private but co-ed high school, started college but dropped out after 2 years (I am planning on going back next year), am living with my BF and was pg.
I never heard a single thing when I announced to the family that I was pg or when they found out that we lost the baby. I am still extremely bitter about that as they are my family and to me family is supposed to be there through thick and thin no matter what and not judge even if they disagree with choices that have been made. That is how I was raised and that is what I believe, yet I still have been given the cold shoulder. And it is not just by these cousins but the whole family.
Well today I was lurking on fb and come to find out they are doing a "baby shower/gift exchange" for my cousins wife who is 21wks pg with a girl. REALLY?
I just cant get over how judgemental they are. I am sorry I am not perfect, nor will I ever be but I can admit my mistakes and have learned from them. And just bc they dont agree with some of the choices that I have made I dont feel like I should be given the cold shoulder for it.
I have talked with both my mom and dad about this and they know how I feel. The family Christmas party is 2 weeks from this Saturday and I plan on going but am not sure how long Ill be able to keep quiet if something is said to me.
Sorry this is long. I needed to vent this out. Thanks. If you have made it this far you deserve a drink. 
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Re: So sick of family drama (VENT)
Ugh, I'm sorry. Feeling like you are being judged by others is a horrible feeling. Even worse when its your own family.
Can you maybe just avoid them and/or have a few drinks and suffer through the Christmas party?
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I am so sorry you have to deal with that ((((hugs)))) especially coming from family. Do you guys get together at all on your own? The 4 of your close cousins I mean - I'm not sure what the family dynamic is like, but maybe you could arrange a g2g and ask them about what's going on?
I hope that you find something that works for you and get through the family Christmas party as painlessly as possible.
We used to see each other all the time but then when their families moved out of town - 1 to MI and 2 - to Cleveland. It became less frequent. When we do see each other its like picking up where you left off. But trying to get a conversation out of them any other time whether it be on fb or text or email is like pulling teeth.
That just sucks. I am so sorry that are so shallow like that. I agree that you should just avoid them if you can. Or just show up with a good buzz so it takes the edge off.
and you can join Cashew and I in drinking this evening. Here is one to start you off.
That is my plan. Its about an hour and a half drive to the party. My dad is driving since BF cant go cause of work so I plan on getting a nice buzz going on the way there.
Thanks for the drinky drink too. One of my favs