Realize why I'm so down and anxious

MoFree · November 2010

First, I hate to be a complaining Debbie Downer who only sees negativity and am so happy for all the recent successes.

I have been particularly down and anxious recently and realize a possible explanation for it. Hanukkah begins tomorrow evening and my husband's automobile crash (refuse to call it an accident when the other driver is focused on a video text instead of on the road) happened during this time. It elicits all kinds of not happy memories and flashbacks. Maybe once the anniversary passes and the holidays are over I'll be more optimistic and less feeling like the biggest loser.

No point except thinking out loud.

kimarino13 · November 2010

That makes total sense. I mean, your lives were changed forever this time last year, and that's a hard thing to not only reflect back on, but still deal with on a daily basis.

I really hope you are in better spirits soon, my friend.

madelyn07 · November 2010

kimarino13:

That makes total sense. I mean, your lives were changed forever this time last year, and that's a hard thing to not only reflect back on, but still deal with on a daily basis.

I really hope you are in better spirits soon, my friend.

What Kim said!

Thinking of you Molly...

vanessagorc · November 2010

I feel like that too sometimes, like i need the anni to pass as a type of closure.

Maybe after this is a full yr behind u, u will feel a lot better.

I'm looking forward to shutting the door on 2010. It marks our IF dx, IVF, BFP, then m/c and d&c. All in between this Christmas and last.

So i get it...i can't wait to put this yr to bed.

Sunshine05 · November 2010

I can definitely see how being back at this time of year would start bringing up some very bad memories. Hoping you can get through this together and see how far you both have come from last year! *hugs*

MoFree · November 2010

vanessagorc:

I feel like that too sometimes, like i need the anni to pass as a type of closure.

Maybe after this is a full yr behind u, u will feel a lot better.

I'm looking forward to shutting the door on 2010. It marks our IF dx, IVF, BFP, then m/c and d&c. All in between this Christmas and last.

So i get it...i can't wait to put this yr to bed.

That's a lot of losses to absorb in a short period of time.

Dec 2008-Dec 2009 wasn't such a great period either-DH's beloved grandfather's death, IF diagnosis, DH's reaction and then resistence to treatment and the effect it had on marriage and then the crash.

Let's hope that 2011 is a better year for both of us.

vanessagorc · November 2010

MoFree:
vanessagorc:

I feel like that too sometimes, like i need the anni to pass as a type of closure.

Maybe after this is a full yr behind u, u will feel a lot better.

I'm looking forward to shutting the door on 2010. It marks our IF dx, IVF, BFP, then m/c and d&c. All in between this Christmas and last.

So i get it...i can't wait to put this yr to bed.

That's a lot of losses to absorb in a short period of time.
Dec 2008-Dec 2009 wasn't such a great period either-DH's beloved grandfather's death, IF diagnosis, DH's reaction and then resistence to treatment and the effect it had on marriage and then the crash.

Oh no, so u have 2 yrs you need to "shut the door on". Sometimes it's just too much. I hope time helps to heal both of us... AND a much better 2011!!!!!

Let's hope that 2011 is a better year for both of us.

Edwina.McDunnough · November 2010

That sounds totally reasonable. I hope that the new year is a fresh start for both of you. Big hugs.

scooterq · November 2010

Hopefully things start to look up for you once the anniversary passes!

i know I won't miss 2010 either!

Big ((hugs))

lovemymonkey · November 2010

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

babylove0511 · November 2010

huge ((HUGS))

etoyama · November 2010

I hope that 2011 brings you only good things! ((hugs))

SLPMel · November 2010

I'm sorry it's been such a tough year for you-hope 2011 brings you everything you deserve-health, happiness and a BFP! Big Smile

Do you see a therapist? I think you've been through so much, maybe it would help to have someone to talk to about it?

kthappy76 · November 2010

(((huge hugs))) here's to a much better 2011 for you and yours! Drinks

SweetDahlia · November 2010

I can totally see where you are coming from. You guys have been through so much in the last year and the holidays are just a reminder of what happened. Our first loss and D&C was Christmas Eve 2 years ago, but it still really gets me down.

I hope next year is better for you hon.

theworms · November 2010

of course you're feeling down and anxious, a year ago you were scared to death for your husband and everything that lay ahead for his recovery and your future.

it makes perfect sense. i'm so sorry cutie.

((HUGS))

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