Do you ever feel like you get enough "me" time?
anna7602
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Just wondering if I am totally pathological here or if it's completely normal for a super engaged mom to feel like there's never enough "me" time. We just spent a wonderful week at my ILs during which they were willing to watch DD just about any time so DH and I could go out, go to the gym, go holiday shopping, catch up with friends or just sit in a corner of their house and read a book. Nonetheless, I was still 100% responsible for DD when she woke up in the middle of the night disoriented by her surroundings, when she refused to go to sleep at night, when she spiked a fever on Thanksgiving day, etc. It's not like I was completely relieved of my duties as a mother.
DH thinks it's absurd that I'm already asking about his work schedule this week to see if I can make it to a yoga class or something some night this week. Is he right? Should a week of "me" time be enough to last the rest of the year?
Re: Do you ever feel like you get enough "me" time?
Has your husband ever been with your DD 24/7 for weeks, months etc?
Don't get me wrong I love being a sahm but you NEED regular breaks it's good for you AND for your daughter since you will be a better mom because of it. I don't think he gets it if he works out of the home and nights and stuff aren't all on him.
I am trying to work on allowing myself "me" time without feeling guilty. I am staying with my mom while H is deployed and she has been pushing me to go out by myself. She made a very good point that when I am gone for a few hours and come home it makes me cherish that time even more.
I teach group fitness classes. It is truly my "me" time and as a bonus, I get paid for it. DD is in preschool, DS goes to the gym daycare and I get a workout. It's wonderful.
I would be waaaaaaaaaaay overwhelmed without it.
Nope, not alone. I love being a SAHM and always being with DS. But I also feel that I never get a second alone. Even during nap time I'm trying to get stuff done and I'm "on".I need that time to just ompose and do things I love. You deserve that to.
Get out of my head! I was just having a similar thought today. For me today it's less getting enough "me" time and more having twinges of missing my old life. When we stay with family I don't have to pre-plan anything if I want to leave the house and there's always like 3 people shoving me out the door eager to watch M :-) No remembering snacks and a sippy, pre-arranging a night out a week ahead of time, paying a sitter, balancing schedules etc. I can just run out the door with a quick "he'll need lunch and a nap afterward" and enjoy myself without worry.
Uh, no, that's ri-donk-ulous.
Not to mention that "me" time when you're totally sleep deprived is not exactly the best quality "me" time!
I don't see anything wrong with making sure you get a night or 2 each week for yourself. At the very least you could divide up the weekends. For an example...DH likes to watch football with his friends on Sunday afternoons, so he gets up with our son on Sunday mornings and takes care of him all morning and puts him down for his midday nap. Then I take over for the afternoon. It's great because I get to sleep in on Sundays, go get a pedicure or whatever, then DH gets his own time.
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If DH said something like that to me I think I'd have a very difficult time not responding in a completely nasty manner.
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I always feel like I'm "on." There's always something weighing on my time and mind. If DS is napping, I either need to clean the house or work or do a million other things. If I take time out to bump, I'm always thinking about what I should be doing. Even if I'm not with DS, I'm thinking about what I should be doing.