Do I send a 'thank you' card??

csweet311 · November 2010

As I'm finishing up DD's birthday Thank you notes,I'm confused as to whether or not to send one in particular.A friend came to the party (barely-arrived late,left early), didn't eat, gave a card with a Monkey Joe's frequent user card that you can just get at the place. Her kid didn't really fit in with the others (very anti-social),played alone and never came into the party room to sing/have cake/open gifts.....So do I just thank her for making an appearance and not mention the MJ's card? Honestly,she wouldn't care at all if I sent one or not - she doesn't believe in proper etiquette of such. But I do.....

desmerelda317 · November 2010

Yes, send a thank you. It isn't about the kind of gift/card that is given. It isn't about how social her child is or how long she stays. It is the fact that she showed up at all and made any kind of effort that warrants a thank you.

mytwobabies · November 2010

I'd send a thank you card just thanking them for coming. Lame on their part but its just common courtesy on yours

Violet's Mommy · November 2010

I don't see why you need to ask really. If your sending thank-you's to the rest of your guests that showed up/gave gifts then why wouldn't you to them all?

MrsJMB · November 2010

mytwobabies:
I'd send a thank you card just thanking them for coming. Lame on their part but its just common courtesy on yours

This exactly.

fairychick77 · November 2010

If you are sending thank you cards for people that attended your DD's party, then you send your friend one. It doesn't matter what gift they brought or if her kid didn't fit in.

csweet311 · November 2010

Thanks for the responses.I will definitely send a card. I just don't know how best to say 'thanks for coming' and then what else? Can't say we had fun playing,let's do it again.... Ugh.

Violet's Mommy · November 2010

csweet311:
Thanks for the responses.I will definitely send a card. I just don't know how best to say 'thanks for coming' and then what else? Can't say we had fun playing,let's do it again.... Ugh.

Maybe it's just me, but what's wrong with just saying that "thanks for coming" or "it was nice to see you, thanks for joining us on ____'s birthday" and if it wasn't at least nice to see your friend why was she there? kwim?

EastCoastBride · November 2010

I'm obviously alone on this, but I truly don't udnerstand the point of sending "thanks for attending" cards. I've never gotten one, and never sent one.

I know people started doing this w/ weddings, but now it's moved to b-day parties too?

Oy.

CandKmomma · November 2010

EastCoastBride:
I'm obviously alone on this, but I truly don't udnerstand the point of sending "thanks for attending" cards. I've never gotten one, and never sent one.

I know people started doing this w/ weddings, but now it's moved to b-day parties too?

Oy.

I agree. I only send thank yous for gifts. If she just gave a card I wouldn't send a card for a card. Seems strange to me.