If you are waiting to TTC....why?

Baby428 · November 2010

I am waiting until DD STTN because until then I am a stressed out basket case and can not imagine handling another baby! Why are you waiting?

j+s · November 2010

DS started STTN around a year and right now, I am going to enjoy it. I couldn't imagine not being able to STTN again for awhile. DH and I want to wait until we have more money. I am also waiting until DS is potty-trained so that I don't have to buy or change twice as much diapers. Last but not least, I just want to enjoy being the three of us for right now.

Baby428 · November 2010

j+s:
DS started STTN around a year and right now, I am going to enjoy it. I couldn't imagine not being able to STTN again for awhile. DH and I want to wait until we have more money. I am also waiting until DS is potty-trained so that I don't have to buy or change twice as much diapers. Last but not least, I just want to enjoy being the three of us for right now.

TELL ME YOUR SECRET!! lol! I am desperate!

milkyway · November 2010

I don't think I could handle two babies much less than two years apart. Plus, the next infant opening at our daycare (that I LOVE) will be when DS turns 2. That pretty much solidified our decision to wait and try to have another LO when DS is 22-26 months old.

mrs.n22 · November 2010

We are waiting until we can buy a bigger house. hopefully in the next year!

Aimlc1281 · November 2010

Since I'm a teacher, I'm waiting until this summer to TTC. That way the baby would be born around April, give or take. Perfect timing for a teacher! $ is also a slight issue since DH just started a new job and we're waiting until things become a bit more secure for us.

Baby428 · November 2010

hijoi:

We are waiting until spring to hopefully make ourselves a little healthier and quite frankly, I don't want a Septmeber, October, November or December birth (if I could pick). That's another whole year of daycare to pay for. (If it happens, we're thrilled, of course, and we would adore a baby.)

ETA: to OP: we used the sleep easy solution. One week later he STTN. It's been wonderful ever since! 4 months of sleeping has does wonders for my soul!

Thanks for the advice. I will google it and see what I find out about it.

CalinsBride · November 2010

-Finances

-Life situation (DH wants to finish school, I need to get established in my career, etc)

-DS is a handful and we just could not handle another right now. We want to wait until he's in kindergarten.

-I haven't slept in 17 months

Tabby2727 · November 2010

I couldn't imagine having 2 under 2. I'd like to build my leave back up. When I took off for Hannah I took 4 months off. I'd like to take at least that next time if not more. I held a baby last week and Hannah flipped out so jealousy would be a problem. We'd also like to finish both our houses (restoring 2 old homes) and sell at least one maybe both and buy our "forever" home.

makclair · November 2010

work is crazy and we need to hire another doc pronto but haven't been able to find anybody. my job seriously couldn't handle me being out potentially 4- 5 months at this point (i was on bedrest 9 weeks with DS).

daycare for 2 is pretty expensive,obviously.

I want our kids to be about 3 years apart, and I don't want a late fall/early winter baby this time for illness purposes and being able to pump at my job.

DS didn't sleep reasonably well till 17 months, so i'm enjoying sleeping (as much as I can)

haleymay18 · November 2010

Because I can barely handle the one I have

cbwm · November 2010

$$$

Also, we're trying to work through DS's speech issues and now potentially Sensory Processing Disorder. The thought of having a baby on top of juggling all of his therapy makes me very overwhelmed.

[To the OP, try the Sleep Easy Solution. It works miracles.]

Shayna0182 · November 2010

The main reason is because I had a csection in May, and had some horrible internal bleeding. None of my doctors felt it was a good idea to ttc for quite a while, and plus I would need to go to a high risk doctor. I'm not ready to go through all that yet. I need to make sure my reasons for another baby are right, and not just because I am missing dd.

I enjoy sleep, and ds sleeps 12 hours a night. The first 4 months of his life he woke up every 3 hours to sleep. I am so not ready for all of that again.

We need to pay off some college debt. We both have student loans that we need to make a dent in.

We also want to take a few vacations, and I want to finally wear a bikini again. I used to have a pretty good body, but the last 2 summers I have been pregnant. I'm ready to get in shape and stay that way for a few years.

The last reason, is because ds is finally getting easier to manage. I can throw a diaper and sippy in my bag and go. I'm really enjoying that.

madalynnsmommy09 · November 2010

It's our 5 year anniversary this Sept and we are going on a big vacation just the two of us, I don't want to be pregnant or have a new baby because I know I wont leave them. Once Sept comes we will be.

j+s · November 2010

Missy42807:
j+s:
DS started STTN around a year and right now, I am going to enjoy it. I couldn't imagine not being able to STTN again for awhile. DH and I want to wait until we have more money. I am also waiting until DS is potty-trained so that I don't have to buy or change twice as much diapers. Last but not least, I just want to enjoy being the three of us for right now.

TELL ME YOUR SECRET!! lol! I am desperate!

We used for the Ferber method because he was going to sleep but wouldn't stay asleep unless I (or DH) was holding him. Then as time went on, we let him CIO, if nothing was wrong. I still have to let him CIO at night sometimes but he doesn't cry for very long.

brideofscowboy · November 2010

$$$$

I don't want to be huge pregnant in the summer. I don't handle hot weather welld.

I need to get my sleeping issues in order.

DS is a busy handful as is.

I do have the fever though.

katie_cj · November 2010

I'm a single mom!

So I guess I'm waiting to meet the right guy, get to know him, get married, and all that jazz. It could take awhile.

emberlee3 · November 2010

I want to TTC in the spring/summer. DS was born in August, so he started DC right at the beginning of flu/cold/RSV season. It made for an awful first year.

Mrs.21 · November 2010

1. Money is tight with one, I don't think we could afford another right now. We need to wait until DH and I go through a few more raises and pay down debt before we could afford two in daycare.

2. I just don't want another one right now. DS is a handful, and I am exhausted as is caring for him and working full-time. I could not imagine adding a newborn to the mix.

3. I always wanted about 3 years age difference between my kids. Right after I had DS, I thought 2.5 years would be better (I was in new baby love) but now that he's an active 15 month old, I am back to wanting 3+ years difference. Hopefully he'll calm down by the time we want to TTC #2.

smilelari · November 2010

Because DH is in school and I need him to be done before we have 2 and we can't afford the fertility treatments right now

mattandbekah · November 2010

We are waiting til next fall to start TTC, mainly because two years between babies sounds good to both of us, and if possible we want to plan the next baby to be born when my H has off for the whole summer to ease all of us, especially Jack, into life as a family of four.

blushingbrideoct07 · November 2010

I do not want another fall baby cuz I felt very trapped in my own home due to flu season and the cold weather. Ideally I would love a spring baby, so we are either going to try this summer or next. We are also waiting to stop traveling for Dh's work.

sunandsand · November 2010

Waiting to get my short term disability back, which should happen in January. I was on bedrest for 5 weeks, so its totally necessary that I get paid for any time off work.

lwrigley2000 · November 2010

Because the thought of going through the newborn stage again still makes me want to throw up.

jenn_darrin1515 · November 2010

1. finances

2. finances

Mrs.21 · November 2010

katie_cj@hotmail.com:
I'm a single mom!
So I guess I'm waiting to meet the right guy, get to know him, get married, and all that jazz. It could take awhile.

Aw, I didn't know you and your FI broke up. I'm sorry to hear that.

katie_cj · November 2010

Mrs.21:
katie_cj@hotmail.com:
I'm a single mom!
So I guess I'm waiting to meet the right guy, get to know him, get married, and all that jazz. It could take awhile.

Aw, I didn't know you and your FI broke up. I'm sorry to hear that.

Thanks. I'm doing better now, it was really for the best.

I'm living in Germany for a year with my parents and brother, I'm really happy here. Plus, I get to SAHM.

tdalbey21 · November 2010

Still not 100% convinced we want a 2nd baby. We are very happy with 1 child. She was also a horrible newborn. Colic and acid reflux made the first 4 months awful. I honestly don't think I can live through that again. It's still fresh in my mind. Maybe in a year or so when all that fades we will start talking about it, but right now we are happy with 1.

Mrs.21 · November 2010

katie_cj@hotmail.com:
Mrs.21:
katie_cj@hotmail.com:
I'm a single mom!
So I guess I'm waiting to meet the right guy, get to know him, get married, and all that jazz. It could take awhile.

Aw, I didn't know you and your FI broke up. I'm sorry to hear that.
Thanks. I'm doing better now, it was really for the best.
I'm living in Germany for a year with my parents and brother, I'm really happy here. Plus, I get to SAHM.

Glad you are doing well with it! And that sounds so exciting, living in Germany and being a SAHM!

jessicaclare · November 2010

I am just plain not ready for a third. We think we want another, but its finally getting a little easier to have two and I want to enjoy that before I get pregnant again. We agreed to not even think about it until summer.

newguardwife · November 2010

It is really tempting to have another right now. My husband went active duty military for 2 years to attend a school which means that it would cost us next to nothing in medical bills.

However I am not sure that I want another and when he is done with this school we will be moving back to home to no jobs. Also, neither of us have finished our bachelors degrees. I have 1 semester left but I would like to go to grad school. I think that we want to wait until at least 1 of us has a career (vs. just a job) then we will think about having another. I would just it will be when DS is about 5 that we finally start discussing the possibility.

JennifernKevin4ever · November 2010

We are waiting till the spring. Trying to save up some money and we are planning on moving into a bigger place.

Leap08 · November 2010

We're waiting until January to TTC, because we want a late fall / winter baby. My husband is a wildland firefighter and is gone a lot during the summer and starts getting busier during the spring. It's important to us that he is home and has some time when the baby is born. So, we'll TTC from January - June. If it doesn't happen during that time frame, we'll wait to try again until the following January.

jennylynne_01 · November 2010

The main reason we are waiting to ttc #2 is because of DD #1. I just can't imagine splitting my time between two children yet. Especially the newborn stage where they need so much, I'd feel bad for not giving all of my attention to DD because she's still so young. Maybe once she's potty trained and is more independent to do things for herself then I'll think about ttc the next one. DH and I want to have more LO's just not this second. I'm loving this time with just DD and I. I want to enjoy her as much as possible before we decide to have another one.

rinny627 · November 2010

We are currently living paycheck to paycheck in a 2 bedroom apartment. I'm waiting until we either have a house or I get a new job so we can afford a 3 bedroom apartment.

rinny627 · November 2010

We are currently living paycheck to paycheck in a 2 bedroom apartment. I'm waiting until I get a new job so we can afford a house or a 3 bedroom apartment.

Sorry about the double post. My wording was wrong and it was bothering me.

tashacu02 · November 2010

j+s:
DS started STTN around a year and right now, I am going to enjoy it. I couldn't imagine not being able to STTN again for awhile. DH and I want to wait until we have more money. I am also waiting until DS is potty-trained so that I don't have to buy or change twice as much diapers. Last but not least, I just want to enjoy being the three of us for right now.

All of this minus the STTN, DD has been doing that since around 3 months.

easyBreezie · November 2010

1. I don't want 2 in diapers

2. NB stage was hard enough & I need a break.

3. DS has been sick 24/7 since he was born

4. I have not been able to accrue leave to take off 3 months for the next due to DS being sick all.the.time.

5. all that & I just couldn't handle another right now.

vab1216 · November 2010

financial reasons, DH will be done with school in a few weeks (YEAH!) and then after he gets a job we will TTC.

jnealet · November 2010

Insurance! It will cost us $3000 out of pocket per year - but that also means that we're starting to TTC next month. Eeek!!!

T&BMay142005 · November 2010

Financial reasons. We sold/bought a house this last year. We ended up using more savings than we wanted to sell our house (had to pay to get out). So we are trying to build our saving back up. I want to quit my job and be a SAHM (for a year) after the next baby. We also would ideally like a April/May baby, so we are waiting until August. Hopefully we get as lucky as we did with DD and conceive on the first try. I am going off the pill starting January and will chart to avoid until July/August.

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