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May 2011 Moms
arom729
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No desire to BF
arom729
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Honestly. I understand the benefits and am considering EP'ing/supplementing with BM, but I truly have zero desire to BF my baby. I just don't get why I feel this way or why others feel the strong urge to BF. Since my time on these boards I've seen many posts about how devastated mothers have been when it's time to stop BF'ing and I just can't imagine ever feeling that way. I've been with a friend while she is nursing her son, and I'm comfortable with her doing that, but can't ever picture myself in that position.
Am I alone in this? *sigh*
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Re: No desire to BF
You arent the only one. I couldn't BF DD for health reasons, and honestly, I was glad. I don't plan to nurse the twins at all. I think it would just frustrate me.
To each their own!
Well said!
4/20/2011
Esma: I'll turn him into a flea. A harmless little flea. Then Ill put that flea in a box. And put that box inside another box. Mail that box to myself. And when it arrives. ILL SMASH IT WITH A HAMMER. Its brilliant, brilliant, brilliant I tell you. Genius I say.
Or to save on postage. Ill poison him with this.
That's the struggle! I know I'll be confident in my choice, but the guilt was setting in already.
I completely agree with this. If I want people to be supportive of my decision to BF, then the same should be said in the other direction. I would say do your research, and don't just make a gut decision. But after all that, if you still feel this is what is best for you family, go for it, girl.
Honestly, I am not really planning to either. My bro and I weren't and as far as it helping, my SIL has horrible allergies and her sis has learning issues...
Don't feel guilty. It is more important that you are caring and there for baby. I know someone who said it caused so much frustration that she didn't get to bond as well with her daughter until she had to go back to work. Sometimes its just not worth it.
Either way, you never know, we may all change our minds
I didn't Bf my ds and honestly he is as smart as a whip(doctors/nurses are amazed at how smart he is) and very healthy. He rarely gets sick....in fact his doctor didn't see him at all last winter. Was suprised when we went in for a wellness check and he hadn't seen him at all for 7 months(his last wellness check).
Dont let others guilt you into something you do or do not want to do...it's your lo
Honestly, I'm mostly BFing to save on dishes and $$ (fianc? is still in school and I'm basically supporting us both).
My bro and I weren't breast fed and the nurse for me actually supplied my mom with a TON of formula to help her out and sugested she NOT BF me (she had me at 17 and was a partier).
That being said. I think it's totally up to you and you should NOT feel guilty! I turned out just fine! My bro is another story (jk)
Nope, I have no interest in doing it and won't be. I am ok with my decision, and I think that is the most important part.
I bf DS for 4 months, which I am proud of, and I plan to with this one - for sure, no doubt about it. But I don't begrudge women who choose not to - for WHATEVER reason. No skin off my back what others choose to do!
My only thing is - and this is JMO - why don't ya wait til you actually have the baby to decide this? You could find that you have this strong urge, and surprise yourself.. or you could find that it's way easier than you anticipated. I'd plan to flexible and do what you feel is best at that time. That's all!
Thanks
I have already been asked a million times, I think. Thank goodness my MIL hasn't started in on me yet...
I also go back to work after 6 weeks, so it just isn't the most feasible option regardless of my personal feelings.
Don't ever feel guilty about choices you make about your baby. There is WAY too much mommy guilt nowadays and way too many women who feel free to dispense their opinions on your child rearing.
I BF'd DS and I knew I wanted to, but I just couldn't picture myself doing it before he was born. The thought of milk coming out of my nipples grossed me out. Once he was born, it all seemed totally natural and I LOVED bfing him and was sad to stop after 7 months.
I am just saying, if you are at all worried you will feel guilty, just stay open about it and try it for a couple days after LO is born. If it still isn't for you then just stop and never look back.
It is totally up to you how you are going to feed your baby. EP is a ton of work and kudos for you for considering it. For me BF is easier then EP.
I think this is really good advice. I take care of some mommas who say they don't want to breastfeed, but when their baby comes out and is rooting at the breast it changes their mind. If you are kind of on the fence, go into it openly and take it from there!
Married 6/6/09
DS 5/11/11
DD 9/13/13
I wouldn't make any decisions quite yet (esp. if it is your first). I have seen women who were completely anti-breastfeeding go on and BF for 2+ years. I have also seen the most militant of breastfeeding nazi's dry up at 2 weeks and go on to feed formula just fine. Any BM is good, but it isn't the end of the world if you don't do it.
Anecdotes about "I was formula fed and am just fine" are just that, anecdotes. They are not a study, and studies say that breast milk is best. That doesn't mean it is best for YOU to use. I had a gallbladder issue at 6 months that made my supply tank, so we started supplementing. Formula didn't kill him.
And please please pretty please can we get the "you have to do what is best for you and your family" thing stricken from this board? It is the worst cop-out excuse for poor parenting. In this case, yes, do what is right for you, but when I actually saw someone use that excuse for forward facing their 6 month old...it lost any and all meaning to me.
Exactly my thoughts!
No worries!! I was all for BFing and then now I feel the total opposite! I am still planning on doing it, though. And no, you're not alone!
I am planning on BF, but its a personal choice. When I was reading through the info about the BF from my hospital it said only around 60% of women BF. It didn't explain why 40% don't, but those can't all be medical reasons. Do what you feel confortable with, and don't let anyone else make you feel bad about it.
I wanted to BF for the health benefits and money savings. I had no desire to actually BF and, honestly, I was pretty miserable every time DS nursed for the first 5 weeks or so. It got better though, and over time it did become a bonding experience for us. I didn't feel that it was one when he was small and I was holding him all the time anyway, but when he started becoming more independent and would just sit and cuddle with me while he nursed, that was kind of awesome.
I was determined to BF while i was home on leave and figured I'd see what happened once I went back to work. We ended up EBFing (minus the intro of solids obviously) until some point in the first trimester of this pregnancy. I would have been happy to keep going, but my body couldn't keep up with being pregnant AND BFing in addition to having no appetite.
As for EPing, I have so much respect for women who are able to EP. I pumped during the day when I was back at work (5 months) and it was a major pain in the butt. And that would probably be the easiest scenario to pump in. Having to pump while taking care of the baby is a lot of work. I think EPers probably have it the hardest in comparison to BFers and FFers. If BFing doesn't work out this time I don't know that I'd have it in me to EP.