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December 2010 Moms
My ILs are KILLING me
I get that the world does not revolve around me and the fact that I'm going to give birth in the next couple weeks. I do.
But seriously, people? I want to strangle my ILs. First there's the whole "Your Aunt will be in town on the 14th and will want to see the baby" thing (let's just ignore the fact that the baby might not even BE here by the 14th...).
Now? MIL and SIL have called saying that they don't want to get each other gifts this year and instead go out for a nice, fancy dinner and split the cost.
Uhm. I'm not taking a newborn to a fancy restaurant. I'm just not. And I won't be able to be away from him that long either, what with breastfeeding every 2 or so hours. Much less probably not being comfortable with the idea of leaving him with a babysitter (well, probably my sister) in the first place.
Outside of the fact that we've already bought people gifts! Hello! Not everyone waits until the last minute to Christmas shop!
Just...GAH! GAAAAAH!
At least DH is in agreement with me. He's going to talk with them tomorrow to set things straight.
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Re: My ILs are KILLING me
That sucks, sorry you have to deal with that. I know you said the world doesn't revolve around you, so can you just tell them what your plans are and let them do their own thing? If they want to see you then they can stop over your house.
We (I) told our families not to expect us for Christmas this year. I'll either have a NB, be in the hospital or ready to burst and am not going to want to go far from home. We said we were open to visitors but don't want to take a NB to a house with 20 people for the holidays.
First...I think the world should revolve around pregnant woman, this is hard work growing a baby especially during the holiday season!!!
Second...it's reassuring that I'm not the only one with a crazy MIL. I just finished telling DH that if our baby comes early I'm not taking her to family dinners, his sister lives out of town and probably won't meet LO until the summer if she isn't born between the 24-27! So yah that's been a struggle to make his side understand...
I just think we need to do what's best for our LO's, whether it pisses everyone off I'm sure my MIL would have done the same thing 28 years ago...
Sheesh. I'm glad DH is on your side & is dealing with it for you guys. Yeah, I don't know what people think half the time. Like you are going to wait to shop until the week before Christmas, or want to do much more than hang out at home or family's house with a newborn. I sure hope they get it through their thick skulls soon!
It is their first grandchild. And I know my MIL is more or less clueless about breastfeeding because she asked me what formula I was going to use. When I said "I'm planning on breastfeeding" she said "Well, yes but have you decided what brand of formula you're using?" Uhhhmmm....
And my SILs closest friend with a child is not exactly...hm. Let's just say she was going out drinking and partying a couple weeks postpartum, leaving her baby with her mom.
So.
It's uphill battles all around. I do trust DH to get this sorted, though perhaps not as bluntly as I would put it (which is possibly a good thing). He did think I was being a hormonal drama queen a couple weeks ago when I predicted Christmas would be a shitton of family drama. He admitted last night I was right.
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I'm just glad that he's going to deal with his family and not make you deal with it.
My MIL and SIL don't speak, so there are no family gatherings on DH's side of the family. We do all major holidays with my family and then see his mom and sister seperately, whenever it's convenient for everyone. It kind of makes me sad that their family isn't closer, but I LOVE that there are no fights over what holiday where, etc.