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Alone @ an u/s ??

nikkilynn1985nikkilynn1985
in April 2011 Moms
Well i am going for my 20 wk u/s next Monday and i am very excited about it, but unfortunately i have to maybe go all by myself. My boyfriend was going to come and then his work today decided he cannot get the time off of work..........i am very emotional about the whole situation. I am trying not to get mad at him about it,because its not totally his fault. BUT the prego hormones kick in every time i think about it. I am so disappointed and i just feel like its going to be lonely seeing our baby and how much more he has developed!!!!  
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  • irelandsangel81irelandsangel81 member
    Can you call and see if you can get a later appointment?  Or even a different day?  If not ask BF if you can have your mom or his mom go with you. 
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  • Temp86398625009737Temp86398625009737
    Do you have a mom/ mother in law or close friend you could bring instead?
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  • BOH1025BOH1025 member

    I agree with the comments before mine.  I would try to reschedule, even if that means you have to wait a few more days.  I am sure your BF wants to be there just as much as you want him there.

     

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  • Scout05Scout05 member
    I wouldn't be mad at him, it doesn't sound like this is really his fault. Why not just reschedule?
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  • stephanie_shoestephanie_shoe member
    My husband couldn't go to our 19 week U/S, so I took my mom instead. He was pissed, but he works 12 hours a day, in a non-office setting, so getting a couple of hours off was impossible.
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  • hmtuthillhmtuthill
    I've had to go to a couple ultrasounds and appointments without my hubby. When my husband has to fly he isn't able to get off, which stinks. Have a friend go with you. I've gone to multiple friends ultrasounds because their hubbies couldn't get off work. Also, if you tell the ultrasound tech he couldn't come they always give you more pictures to show him. Hope this helps. Sorry he couldn't be there.
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  • grace782grace782 member

    If you asked him to be there, and said it was important to you, and he still won't go, then it's a problem. But if he was planning to go and his work screwed him over, then I would let it go. My DH can't be at all my ultrasounds (I've had like, a kajillion), and I know and am cool with that. I have never felt lonely or alone when I've been by myself (including the time i went in for an ultrasound because I had been bleeding heavily and we thought we lost the baby - I was alone when I found out that we hadn't and that he was fine. Did DH miss out on a very happy moment? Sure. But there will be tons more).

    Maybe you should see if a friend/your mom/your BF's mom can come with instead?

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  • weelass24weelass24 member

    Work is work.  Better to have a job to go to than not at all.  Call the place up and ask if they can record it on DVD for you to bring home or ask the tech when you get there to print off tons of pics.

     

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  • LuKeANdThEbEaNLuKeANdThEbEaN

    How disappointing for the 2 of you ! I don't know if funds will allow but could it be possible to find someone else to come with you and then go to another site for another u/s with him? Or reschedule? This is an exciting time - I hope you can find a way to include both of you. Remember it's not the end of the world, and like pp have said, it's better to have a job than make it to the u/s.

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  • vilarovilaro member
    If you can't reschedule, you should have a loved one join you and if they can't give you a DVD of the ultrasound, have the person that goes with you use their camera phone or a FLIP or whatever video device either of you have to record some of the ultrasound. The quality is a bit lessened but you can still see it and it will be special sharing it with him later...
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  • Mrs S 08Mrs S 08 member

    My husband is missing my whole pregnancy because he is deployed. I have had my sister come with me to my first appt and my mom and dad came with me for my anatomy scan. My dr and the tech knows of my situation so they always give me a ton of pictures and different shots instead of the 2 or 3 they normally give people. They wouldn't do a DVD of the anatomy scan, but maybe see if you can take some video yourself after they get the measurments?

    Also look at it this way, YOU get to surprise him in a cute way to tell him if it is a boy or a girl.

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  • nikkilynn1985nikkilynn1985
    Thank you ALL for the input :) I am going to have my Mom come with me, i know she will just love it because it is her first grandchild!! I guess i just got a bit emotional about it, because i was looking forward to him coming, but then again work is work and we need the money for our baby!!!!! Plus i know there are going to be more that he can attend. I will be excited to show him the pics too.
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