Should I invite them?

bella85 · November 2010

All my family lives 7.5 hours away from us. My MIL does too, but she is having our baby shower here b/c the rest of their family is here. Obviously I'm inviting my mom, but I'm not sure about the rest of my family. (Cousins, Aunts, & Uncles) I doubt any of them would come. We invited them all to our wedding up here and no one came. So my question is do I invite them knowing that they won't come? I'm just worried that they would get offended if they were not given the option to chose.

Em208 · November 2010

I absolutely would. I sent out invitations to friends from college who now live states away. They sent gifts eventhough they couldn't attend, which was very kind of them, but most of all I just wanted them to feel included.

Jules&Matt · November 2010

I would invite them and let them decide if they can go or not. Why risk hurt feelings? Someone may surprise you and show; you never know.

xoashleigh4ox · November 2010

yes invite them.. even though they may not come people still send a gift..

EastCoastBride · November 2010

As they didn't come to your wedding, I'm actually going to say "no". I don't get the impression you're all that close to them. I didn't invite distant family that are distant both physically and emotionally. I don't see showers as "invite all" events.

And really, MOST mature, rational, people dont' get their feelings hurt over being invited to a shower they can't realistically go to and perhaps is for someone they don't know well.

Also - are yo uinvited to all of their events? Are any of these cousins having babies and you aren't being invited to their showers? If not, use that as another indicator of how close you are to them.

bella85 · November 2010

I am close with some of them. The problem only exists b/c I moved away back in January to DH's hometown. The 7.5 hour drive is very inconvient, even more so b/c some of them have small children. I've still been invited to their events back home. So thats why I wonder. And if I invite 1, I have to invite them all. They are all close and then i would hurt feelings if I just invited my 1 cousin and aunt that I'm closest with.

rhubarb123 · November 2010

If you are close with them and they invite you to their showers then I would invite them. 7 1/2 hours is a long way in a car but we had people that drove 5 (several people matter of fact) so you never know. They may carpool and come in a big van. If you don't invite them at all I doubt they would get hurt feelings...I never have. I just sent a gift when I got the baby announcement.

aleana18 · November 2010

I think that since they are inviting you to events I would invite them.

afitz08 · November 2010

I had family far away and I invited them anyway so they didn't think i wasn't thinking of them and I got some gift cards from a few that didn't come because of the distance.

bella85 · November 2010

I sent my cousin an email and asked her advice. She said I should invite all of them, even though they can't come. She said they would be offended if I didn't. So, that solves that.

cherry_Blossum · November 2010

You really should. I agree, you would risk offending them is they were not invited. Plus, if you have guests RSVP, then you would know how many people to expect whether they come or not.

mmclaussen · November 2010

My family lives 8 hours away. I chose not to invite them because I knew they wouldnt be able to come and I didnt want to look like I was fishing for gifts. So my mom was the only one that I invited. No one had hurt feelings.

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