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So frustrated, what do you do to keep your spirits up?
Hi all,
I just need a moment to vent. I am starting to really lose it. We've been TTC since March 2010. I had a micarriage with a DNC in July 2010 (7wks) and we started trying again in Sept based on drs okay. AF was 5 days late this month and I was really starting to get my hopes up and then today happened. AF arrived. And I just feel frustrated and sad and incredibly impatient.
I am trying not to get to down, but I am afraid of the very long process that is to come. What tricks or tips do you have to keep your spirits up? Any advice is appreciated.
Oh and please know, that I know some of you have been trying for much longer than we have and I by no means think my journey is "long" in the grand scheme. I am just afraid its going to get longer and longer and I am trying to keep myself from getting overwhelmed by the process.
Thanks.
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Re: So frustrated, what do you do to keep your spirits up?
I haven't been trying very long at all, but I just wanted to say that I feel for you and it is already frustrating to me. I think that we all have it in the back of our minds that it might never happen. I just keep telling myself that it will happen when it is supposed and meanwhile I am doing what I can (tracking O and charting).
I hope you get your BFP soon and if you are not already, you should sign up for Fertility Friend (click on my link below).
Good luck!
It's rather cliche, I know, but I always have to think... there's a reason it's not this month. I recently got a new job which I took a major pay cut, along with my maternity leave. Had I been pregnant, I would have never taken the job. Now that I have the job I'm kind of glad that I hadn't previously been pregnant/had a baby. I know this sounds kind of silly but I just believe so deeply in Gods plan for me.
-I understand that not every one believes in God but this is how I got through the previous months-
For me it's the "Everything happens for a reason".
I'm so sorry for your loss! TTC can be overwhelming at times and I know that feeling well. Honestly, what has gotten me through difficult times is my faith and sharing my worries/fears/frustrations with DH.
I wish I had some tips to offer, but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. I hope this cycle is the one! Best of luck!
DC #1 10/2008 TTC #2 since 1/2010
Natural miscarriage @ 5w3d 1/2011 Chemical pregnancy 4/2011
setting small goals helps a lot, even if it's only in your cycle.
AF means you get to start trying again soon and watch for O. I try not to think too far in advance and that helps a lot. try to be as "in the moment" as possible
I'm so sorry and completely understand your frustrations. We are coming up on 2 years TTC, and at times I feel completely hopeless. I always think, well if I haven't been pg in the last 2 years, what is going to make this cycle any different? We are finally starting treatments next cycle, which has lifted my spirits just a bit. Hopefully you never have to get that far.
When I'm feeling down, I constantly remind myself of how lucky I am in every other aspect of my life. Exercising helps keep my mind off things as well. Most importantly I talked to the amazing friends that I have made on this board over the last few years. I'm pretty sure they are what keep me sane
I completely understand your frustration. We've been TTC since December 2009 and had a m/c in October 2010 at 9wks. We get to start trying after my next AF (YAY!), but although I'll be nervous and excited, I think I'm going to be extremely impatient if I don't get a BFP.
I'm not super religious, but I believe that God has my life planned out for me and that when it's time, we'll be blessed with a LO. Believing in that gives me great comfort and helps me keep my spirits up.
I've never been one to POAS too early, but I definately will not be POAS earlier than 14 DPO, even though my average LP is 11 days. For me I would be more disappointed with a BFN than AF.
I'm taking this time to "prepare" myself and our life for when we do get blessed with a LO, so I'm trying to think about it in moderation so that it doesn't consume me, but it is really hard.
I think it's completely normal to feel the way that you do, regardless of how long you've been trying. I hope you get a BFP soon so you don't have to figure out how to keep your spirits up!