I don't get early bedtimes

J+L2006 · November 2010

Why do so many people put their LOs down around 7? If the STTN that still puts them waking up in the middle of the night (i.e. a 9 hour stretch still gets them up at 4).

DS goes down between 9:30 and 10, and then I go straight to sleep with him. He usually wakes up at 7- which is right when he needs to so he can eat and then head to daycare.

What's the advantage of the early bedtime???

wifeandmama · November 2010

My kid is tired then.

Teagiedo · November 2010

my lo made his own bedtime before daylight savings time it was eight thirty and now its seven thirty. he sleeps til four thirty or five thirty in the am.

complex14 · November 2010

same here. shes exhausted by 7pm and goes to sleep on her own no matter where we are.

cg0112358 · November 2010

Sometimes you really don't get to choose when they go down. DS usually gets fed around 7 or 8 (we feed on demand but it is usually every 3-4 hours) We've tried keeping him up after that so he has a later bed time but he usually gets cranky when we do.

BlueRidge8 · November 2010

Cause she's sleepy.

When she goes down before 7:30, she sleeps much much better than she did when she was going down around 9. Each baby is different I suppose.

Dobie_Mama · November 2010

wifeandmama:
My kid is tired then.

lol - Exactly. If I keep her up later, she's a mess. So I put her to bed when she's tired.

DreadLoc · November 2010

Joy goes down at 7 and wakes up at 7.

That's just how she rolls.

txdaisygal · November 2010

I'll echo the PPs - if we try to keep the girls up past 8:00 all we have is two screaming, exhausted babies. They are usually ready to start their bed time routine around 7:30. They sleep until 6:30 or 7:00 the next morning. And, this way, DH and I get a couple hours to ourselves each night, which we were sorely needing when they were staying up later.

Mrs.B6302007 · November 2010

Babies need way more sleep because they're growing. At the 4 month mark, babies need about 14 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. 2-3 naps during the day and an early bedtime are necessary. If they go to bed too late, they'll be over tired.

GreenieTA11 · November 2010

She set her own bedtime. I created the routine around her schedule. Start at 7, asleep by 8. Today she didn't wake up until 6:45am. She nursed, was awake for a bit, then slept again until 10:30am.

I'm good with that ....

EDIT: On days I work, I'll feed her between 5-5:30am (sometimes I have to wake her) then she and DH sleep in until 8-9am.

Quizzle · November 2010

I have a screaming, freaking out baby if she's up past 7:30. Usually she wants to be in bed by 7. Believe me, my choice would be bed around 8 or 9!

She's in bed by 7 or 7:30 and up by 5 -- since the time change it's usually 4ish. She eats, is up for a bit, then goes back down.

The only times she makes it any later in the evening is if she has a really late nap (or if she's exhausted and goes down ridiculously early like she did before Thanksgiving.. I had to wake her up or else she'd have been up for the day at 2 am.)

AngelEyes06 · November 2010

My DD is exhausted by 7pm. There are some nights I'm lucky if I can keep her awake that late!

Fordlor · November 2010

We put both kids down around 7:30-8:00. The hubs and I want some quiet alone time. We need to recharge our batteries too. Plus, both DD's would be a mess if they stayed up any later.

OP- when do you have alone time with your DH/SO? If you go right to bed when your LO goes down.

eta: Both my kids sleep 11+ hours. so just because I'm putting DD2 down at 7:30 doesn't mean she is waking at 4am.

gdemars · November 2010

Dobie_Mama:

wifeandmama:
My kid is tired then.

lol - Exactly. If I keep her up later, she's a mess. So I put her to bed when she's tired.

Me too. He's miserable if we don't start bedtime at 615. And also, perhaps this sounds selfish, but then I get some times to myself before I have to go to bed too.

Ruthgers · November 2010

wifeandmama:
My kid is tired then.

This, haha! If he is up any later he sprouts horns. He wakes up 2-3 times a night, so regardless of when he goes down I'll be getting up a few times to nurse during the night.

jolynreed · November 2010

txdaisygal:
I'll echo the PPs - if we try to keep the girls up past 8:00 all we have is two screaming, exhausted babies. They are usually ready to start their bed time routine around 7:30. They sleep until 6:30 or 7:00 the next morning. And, this way, DH and I get a couple hours to ourselves each night, which we were sorely needing when they were staying up later.

This! Last night we were at a family dinner, and Atti stayed awake until 10 because he wanted to be around everyone. He went to sleep right when we got home and still woke up at his regular time (530). Keeping the baby up later doesn't always mean they will sleep in later.

MrsBalletStar05 · November 2010

I completely understand everyone when they say that is when the baby gets tired, so that is what time they put them to bed.....mine must be a night owl though!! He is NEVER ready for bed anywhere near that time. 9pm if I am lucky, sometimes as late as 10:30 or 11.

Tassie06 · November 2010

We work on thier scheduals, not our own. I wouldn't keep DS up until my bedtime so that he'll sleep until the morning so that i don't have to get up in the night with him. They need structure and a proper routine.. If they go to bed at 10 everynight they get used to that bedtime and will go to bed at that time when there 3 or 4 years old. kids need more sleep to function better throughout the day..

DS goes to bed around 7:30-8 and is up at 5 or 6 for a feed, then back down until around 9. works well, he gets plenty of sleep and doesn't go to bed over tired. It also gives DH and I plenty of alone time before our bedtime.

Mrs.LM625 · November 2010

wifeandmama:
My kid is tired then.

This, exactly. If I kept her up later than 7, she'd be a hot mess.

kimmyt09 · November 2010

MrsBalletStar05:
I completely understand everyone when they say that is when the baby gets tired, so that is what time they put them to bed.....mine must be a night owl though!! He is NEVER ready for bed anywhere near that time. 9pm if I am lucky, sometimes as late as 10:30 or 11.

Same here! He went to bed at 8 ONCE. He's usually down for the night between 10 and 10:30, up around 6, sometimes closer to 7.

monkeyqueen · November 2010

All of my kids go to bed between 7 - 8pm and get up between 7 - 8am. The advantage to this is that I have a couple of hours in the evening all to myself. But, really - the kids are too tired to stay up past those times... it's kind of what they've all dictated that their schedules be.

PinkPeony6210 · November 2010

Dobie_Mama:

wifeandmama:
My kid is tired then.

lol - Exactly. If I keep her up later, she's a mess. So I put her to bed when she's tired.

This. She can't make it much past 7:00 - 7:15 the latest. Plus, this may sound a bit selfish, but I like the quiet time that DH and I get to spend together.

abeer26 · November 2010

I find the earlier to bed the more she sleeps. I thought it was really weird but if we end up getting her to bed later we will be sorry. My LO likes her 7pm bedtime and as much as I wish she'd stay up just a little later it lets me eat dinner and get things done.

DMCinderella · November 2010

My LO goes to sleep when he is tired. This is usually around 6-7pm. He will then sleep until about 6-7 that next morning. Why would I want to change that?!?! If he goes to bed later he doesn't sleep any later in the morning so it's only hurting him in the end by not getting enough sleep.

Bride2bMO · November 2010

The "advantage" being that he's tired, and needs 11ish hour stretch overnight to be healthy. Now, when your baby is mobile, and eventually a toddler, and wearing you out all day, you may wish she was accustomed to an early bedtime.

7:30 - 10 is when I catch up on housework, spend time with DH, and watch any non-kid tv. When are you ever gonna watch a movie?

xxdreeaxx · November 2010

My kid "learned" his bedtime, and will not make it past 8. He'll start being fussy and won't let up until we give him his bath and put him to sleep. I think it'd be too cruel to make him wait to go to bed, so that I can sleep more. No matter what, he'll still wake up about 2 times, regardless of when I put him to bed.

Dreamsicle23 · November 2010

Same as everyone else. My kid set his own bedtime, which happens to be around 7:30. Sometimes he wakes around 4 to eat, but if he does he goes right back down until 6:30. I love having 3-4 hours of "grown up time" between his bedtime and mine.

susie985 · November 2010

DD is exhausted by 6 and is almost always asleep by 6:30. I cannot keep her up any later otherwise we are in for an overtired meltdown. She doesn't get up for the day until between 7 and 8 with 2 wakeups in between.

shanesfiance · November 2010

kimmyt09:
MrsBalletStar05:
I completely understand everyone when they say that is when the baby gets tired, so that is what time they put them to bed.....mine must be a night owl though!! He is NEVER ready for bed anywhere near that time. 9pm if I am lucky, sometimes as late as 10:30 or 11.
Same here! He went to bed at 8 ONCE. He's usually down for the night between 10 and 10:30, up around 6, sometimes closer to 7.

Same here. She is definitely a night owl and likes to sleep in in the morning. She wants to go to bed around 11 and gets up between 9-10 a.m. She still wakes up a couple of times at night and nurses. I just go with whatever comes naturally to her since I am a SAHM. She was waking up at 7:30 a.m. this summer but still going to bed at around 10.

Angela814 · November 2010

Annalise has always gone to bed between 8:30-9:30pm.

Charlotte is usually tired and ready for bed between 7:30-8:00pm. I can't exactly keep a baby up that is trying to go to sleep. She doesn't sttn anyway, so it really makes no difference to me what time she goes to bed for the night.

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