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Increasing sex drive??
I know it sounds odd, and I'm probably divulging too much information, but I need help.
My DH has a much stronger drive than I do. I mean, we're talking a complete 180 from mine. I don't know why, but my sex drive is almost nonexistant...even with such a strong want for a child. I don't know what happened - I used to have a larger one, but something changed, and I don't know how to help it.
Any ideas? I understand if there aren't many ideas out there...I'm heading into work in a while to close down the madness (I work 12p-12a at a retail store on Black Friday!)...so I may not respond right away.
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Re: Increasing sex drive??
My sex drive is on the low end too. What helps me is to try to make sex a priority. I usually find once we start, I get into it. The hardest part is just initiating it.
During my fertile window, I go out of my way to make it hot (like putting on sexy outfits and freshing up my makeup). While I am getting "ready", I start to anticipate it more.
It's not always easy, I have to actually put effort into it, but it's worth it in the end. Plus, DH and I seem to get along so much better when we are intimate on a regular basis.
Good luck!
DS#1- Born August 2011
It's the same way for my DH and me. He's always wanting and I'm always saying no (well almost always unless it's in my best interest) Isn't that awful? I wish it wasn't that way:(
My biggest problem has always been getting to get too late - and then add sex on to that and it would be WAY too late and the morning would be looming ahead of me. It's really helped for us to get to bed earlier. If it's a decent hour I dont feel the need to turn down H just so I get enough sleep.
As a PP said - the more sex we have the better we get along and the better moods we are bath in.
FYI - this is pretty much impossible on this board so never be shy.... unless you are thinking of a PIP of CM or something. That would be over the line. LOL
I always ask for this to get in the mood, but in reality it makes me sleepy.
DS#1- Born August 2011
I can sympathize. My personal sex drive goes through phases- I will have surges where it's so up there it's all I can think about, and then I go through phases where really I could do without and be perfectly fine.
For me, it's kind of like a vicious cycle... if I fall out of it, then I don't want it as much. But once I get going on a regular basis, then I want it more. So it's really the getting going again that's the tough part...
I find my drive is more up when I'm feeling good about myself- even something as simple as a new haircut, some new underwear, new makeup, a new perfume, can make me feel nice and sexy. We have a very open line of communication about our sex life too- that helps so much. I just think for me it relieves the pressure off of me to know that we're on the same page and he understands how I'm feeling and vice versa. The other thing is we like to change things up a lot to keep them interesting in the bedroom- try new things. That tends to ignite the fire again.Not every couple is comfy with it, but we'll watch "movies" sometimes to get in the mood, etc.
This time of year is tough as it is because it's a stressful time, with the holidays, and it sounds like you have a VERY busy and stressful work environment during the holidays which can make things so much worse! Maybe take a day that you're not working and make it a nice romantic date for you and DH, even if you're just staying in, having a nice candlelit dinner with some wine (maybe with some of the aphrodisiac foods pp recommended
), take a shower or bath or something together... turn up the mood 
Good luck!
this exactly... DH gives wonderful back rubs, but if they are too good I just start falling asleep.
i've had this low sex drive problem for awhile now (even before ds). but likes others said, i have to make it a priority. i need to not fall asleep and on that days dh doesn't have to work, i try to get him to go to bed with me earlier (he usually doesnt get home from work until around 11pm).
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That is me exactly!! Sometimes it's actually starting it, but then if we actually do, I start all these things in my mind and I can't concentrate on the fun, relaxing part! UGH! I suppose I need to change my angle. Thanks to all the ladies for suggestions....I will see what we can do! hehe : )