sh!t my mil says -ttgpr-

ChickenLittle2010 · November 2010

As ya'll know I'm cd2. Extra heavy crampy flow. At the moment. Last night I was getting ready for be and mil accidentally walked in to the bathroom. Well I had my make up bag open and some tampons were in there. She looked really shocked and then says "oh thank god you aren't pregnant again. That would be just dreadful". ::blankstare:: I had no words. So I guess she'll be less than thrilled when we finally get pregnant. I should have expected this. She was pissed when we announced our first pregnancy cause she didn't want to be called "grandma" ...... vent over. Would you be pissed off?

WeWearCombatBoots · November 2010

Haha, I would definitely be pissed. I have a feeling my in-laws are going to feel the same way. If we do get preg they are the people I am most nervous about telling. When we got married his dad tried to tell us when it would be ok for us to have kids. I am thinking about telling them it was an accident, lol.

emandbry522 · November 2010

Wow. What a b!tch!!!! I would totally be mad too.

liz_t · November 2010

I would be bothered by this. I would have asked her why she would say such a thing, but that's just me Smile .

Besides not liking to be called "Grandma", why is she so bothered by you and your H having kids? Please ignore me and don't feel pressured to answer if you feel that this question is too personal.

tandb2010 · November 2010

ChickenLittle2010:
As ya'll know I'm cd2. Extra heavy crampy flow. At the moment. Last night I was getting ready for be and mil accidentally walked in to the bathroom. Well I had my make up bag open and some tampons were in there. She looked really shocked and then says "oh thank god you aren't pregnant again. That would be just dreadful". ::blankstare:: I had no words. So I guess she'll be less than thrilled when we finally get pregnant. I should have expected this. She was pissed when we announced our first pregnancy cause she didn't want to be called "grandma" ...... vent over. Would you be pissed off?

I don't think I will have this issue. My MIL found out on our wedding day that I was KU and that was the first time in 5 years that she smiled at me. But she did tell me to back off the "active" ttc after my M/C.

FyreFry5 · November 2010

Yikes. WTH is wrong with people? My initial reaction to this is "Screw her!"

I'm with Brianna, I would have asked her what the hell her issue was. I feel for all of you who have to deal with crazy families and in-laws. We definitely have some crazies in ours, but none of them would ever say anything like this to either of us. I can't even imagine...

I'm sorry you were treated that way

ChickenLittle2010 · November 2010

_Brianna_H:
I would be bothered by this. I would have asked her why she would say such a thing, but that's just me .
Besides not liking to be called "Grandma", why is she so bothered by you and your H having kids? Please ignore me and don't feel pressured to answer if you feel that this question is too personal.

She doesn't like me in general. She is divorced and lives alone and had been pressuring dh to move back to his home town and live there. Then we met and got engaged and got married, had ds bought a home and cemented our lives in a city 8 hours away from her. She haaaates that I "stole" her baby. She also thinks I'm a pervert for breastfeeding and told me once that we were going to wake up with a dead baby in our bed for bedsharing. She also doesn't like that I don't take her bull sh!t. We can get along. If we talk about the weather, or other lite fluff. but it gets ugly quick. She's just a mega biznatch. I would write more but the formatting sucks

FyreFry5 · November 2010

ChickenLittle2010:
_Brianna_H:
I would be bothered by this. I would have asked her why she would say such a thing, but that's just me .
Besides not liking to be called "Grandma", why is she so bothered by you and your H having kids? Please ignore me and don't feel pressured to answer if you feel that this question is too personal.
She doesn't like me in general. She is divorced and lives alone and had been pressuring dh to move back to his home town and live there. Then we met and got engaged and got married, had ds bought a home and cemented our lives in a city 8 hours away from her. She haaaates that I "stole" her baby. She also thinks I'm a pervert for breastfeeding and told me once that we were going to wake up with a dead baby in our bed for bedsharing. She also doesn't like that I don't take her bull sh!t. We can get along. If we talk about the weather, or other lite fluff. but it gets ugly quick. She's just a mega biznatch. I would write more but the formatting sucks

That's awful! I'm sorry

liz_t · November 2010

ChickenLittle2010:
_Brianna_H:
I would be bothered by this. I would have asked her why she would say such a thing, but that's just me .
Besides not liking to be called "Grandma", why is she so bothered by you and your H having kids? Please ignore me and don't feel pressured to answer if you feel that this question is too personal.
She doesn't like me in general. She is divorced and lives alone and had been pressuring dh to move back to his home town and live there. Then we met and got engaged and got married, had ds bought a home and cemented our lives in a city 8 hours away from her. She haaaates that I "stole" her baby. She also thinks I'm a pervert for breastfeeding and told me once that we were going to wake up with a dead baby in our bed for bedsharing. She also doesn't like that I don't take her bull sh!t. We can get along. If we talk about the weather, or other lite fluff. but it gets ugly quick. She's just a mega biznatch. I would write more but the formatting sucks

She sounds exhausting. I am sorry that you have to deal with her antics. I hope that you are able to enjoy Thanksgiving despite her.

ChickenLittle2010 · November 2010

I just ignore her sh!t but dh and I will be having words about not telling her about baby2 for a while

GrneyedItalian · November 2010

I just can't believe someone would actually say that! I'm sorry you have yo deal with that. What a biitch

Treasa · November 2010

What a ***! It is none of her business & she does not have the right to make such negative comments!

JuneButterfly85 · November 2010

Wow, I would be SO mad! Do you have lots of wine at your In laws at least!? lol.

Trishie143 · November 2010

I had a bad experience with my MIL yesterday...

We havent been on speaking terms for about a year now. She started her psycho crap about 2 months after me and DH got married.

Anyway, we had a thanksgiving dinner over at her house last night with everyone- both SILs and their boyfriends. So we are sitting there and she just blabs out "so you pregnant yet?" in a very crude tone. It was so embarrassing and awkward since my one SIL is the only one that knows we are TTC. She then proceeded to tell me I should take those tests to see when we should do it. My SIL then tried to make a joke about BBT to break the awkwardness. At that point MIL said something about me obviously not being ready yet. I was embarrassed and infuriated but then again I guess I shouldnt have expected anything else. Of course DH was outside smoking a cigar while all this was going on.

tink7227 · November 2010

ChickenLittle2010:
_Brianna_H:

I would be bothered by this. I would have asked her why she would say such a thing, but that's just me .

Besides not liking to be called "Grandma", why is she so bothered by you and your H having kids? Please ignore me and don't feel pressured to answer if you feel that this question is too personal.

She doesn't like me in general. She is divorced and lives alone and had been pressuring dh to move back to his home town and live there. Then we met and got engaged and got married, had ds bought a home and cemented our lives in a city 8 hours away from her. She haaaates that I "stole" her baby. She also thinks I'm a pervert for breastfeeding and told me once that we were going to wake up with a dead baby in our bed for bedsharing. She also doesn't like that I don't take her bull sh!t. We can get along. If we talk about the weather, or other lite fluff. but it gets ugly quick. She's just a mega biznatch. I would write more but the formatting sucks

In this case I wouldn't worry about it too much. She clearly has issues of her own. That said, I understand how you feel. I was KU and didn't know it yet, but we were trying for #1 when a close family friend asked if we were having kids soon. Before I could even answer my mom said, "OH, she's not stupid enough to do that right now!" Imagine her surprise one week later when she got a phone call from us!

Just know that you and your H are the only ones that can determine what is best for your family and everyone else be damned! (did I mention I'm in a mood today? Tongue Tied )

JuneButterfly85 · November 2010

ChickenLittle2010:
_Brianna_H:
I would be bothered by this. I would have asked her why she would say such a thing, but that's just me .
Besides not liking to be called "Grandma", why is she so bothered by you and your H having kids? Please ignore me and don't feel pressured to answer if you feel that this question is too personal.
She doesn't like me in general. She is divorced and lives alone and had been pressuring dh to move back to his home town and live there. Then we met and got engaged and got married, had ds bought a home and cemented our lives in a city 8 hours away from her. She haaaates that I "stole" her baby. She also thinks I'm a pervert for breastfeeding and told me once that we were going to wake up with a dead baby in our bed for bedsharing. She also doesn't like that I don't take her bull sh!t. We can get along. If we talk about the weather, or other lite fluff. but it gets ugly quick. She's just a mega biznatch. I would write more but the formatting sucks

Oh so she is one of THOSE MIL's. Thats like the MIL you dream you never have, the "stealing your baby" type.

And how the F*&@ is breastfeeding perverted!?

megd06 · November 2010

Mother's Day 2008 H bought his mom a mother's day card that said "To the Best Grandma Ever" (we had no kids). I could see the blood drain from her face when she saw it, and before she saw the inside where H wrote "Just Kidding. Hahaha!" She then proceeded along with her mother to stand there and tell me how horrible it would be if I "actually WAS pregnant" etc etc...we found out 4 wks later I was pregnant. That was really awkward to tell her.

All that to say...I feel your pain.

NNGnome · November 2010

I have similar MIL issues, the first (yes first!) time I met her, (DH and I had been dating for about 3 months) she told me that she wanted 6 grandchildren, and my only BIL had one son, so we would have to have 5 children. Apart from the obvious Hmm , at the time by BIL had two children, one is not "biologically" his though, so apparently he didn't count Indifferent .

Then 4 yrs ago (7 yrs later) we moved from England to Canada as my DH was headhunted. On our first return visit, she told me she had been looking for a new wife for my DH, as I had taken him to far away... apparently the fact the HE was headhunted slipped her mind!

On the plus side though she doesn't travel, so she can't visit and DH only calls her about twice a year, so I am lucky I hardly ever speak to her , although god knows what will happen when we get PG.

PDXGal7868 · November 2010

Oh my and yes I would be pissed off.

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