My 20 year old sister (vent)

amdraza · November 2010

I just went to visit my little sister (who is 20), and I saw a pregnancy test box on her coffee table. I didn't say anything because I felt that it was inappropriate to say anything without her brininging it up. Plus, her boyfriend was there and I didn't want to get emotional.

She is not in a good place in her life right now. Neither her or her boyfriend have jobs (they were struggling with drugs not long ago) and they are currently staying at my Grandma's house. To make matters worse, she was pregnant last year, and had an abortion.

This is all very personal, but I am just so upset I had to vent. I am currently in my 2WW and the thought of me not getting pregnant and her turning up pregnant, makes me want to scream.

I feel like a complete @sshole because a big part of the reason that I am upset is out of pure jealousy. I am 8 years older and have done everything right to get to the point that we are ready to start a family. Even if she were in a better situation, I still think that I might be upset (selfish, I know), but the fact that she is soooo not responsible makes it so much worse.

I don't even know if she is pregnant, it might just be a scare, but the way things end up happening, I wouldn't be suprised if she is.

Arggggggggg!

ETA: In case this come off as super selfish, I do want to say that I love my sister and if she were pregnant I would try to look at the bright side. I am just sharing the feelings that I probably would never share with anyone else (but maybe DH). I would never act jealous or better than her, if we ended up pregnant together.

tandb2010 · November 2010

Not much I can say to make you feel better. Just know that I am here if you need to vent or scream at someone.

JSRICH · November 2010

That really really sucks. Im so sorry. I know the jealousy thing, I totally deal with it on a daily basis. It sucks. hard.

Hugs, OP. I hope YOU get your BFP this month!!! Stay positive!

melissa721 · November 2010

Yikes. It seems like she is clearly not ready to be pregnant and not taking steps to protect herself. I'm sure it's really frustrating for you. Sorry girl =(

eesome · November 2010

You've got a PM.

FirefightersWife01 · November 2010

melissa721:
Yikes. It seems like she is clearly not ready to be pregnant and not taking steps to protect herself. I'm sure it's really frustrating for you. Sorry girl =(

This exactly. Hang in there!

msmarsh · November 2010

FWIW I don't think you sound selfish. You are understandably frustrated and worried about her choices. Hopefully it is just a scare and she can work on getting her life on the right track.

Jessiree · November 2010

I don't think you sound selfish - it sounds like you are a concerned sister and your little sister has had some struggles in the past. I hope this is just a scare and that she is making great strides towards being responsible. Hugs to you OP and I hope you get your BFP soon!

Tomsbabyboo · November 2010

Jessiree:
I don't think you sound selfish - it sounds like you are a concerned sister and your little sister has had some struggles in the past. I hope this is just a scare and that she is making great strides towards being responsible. Hugs to you OP and I hope you get your BFP soon!

This exactly. Chin up and hope that you feel better!

amdraza · November 2010

Thanks everyone! It's good to know that my feelings are not out of line.

kjgilhoo · November 2010

I agree with PP's. You don't sound selfish, just very concerned for her. Kudo's to her (and her bf) for getting off drugs and hopefully it is just a scare and they can continue on the right track. FWIW sounds like she's lucky she's got you as an older sister and that you'll help her if in fact she is pregnant.