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Rudest. Thing. Ever.
So DH and I were out to dinner tonight with a bunch of our friends enjoying the night, talking about how well my HSG went, and about how happy we will be when we get pregnant. My friend (who has a two year old) said "I cant wait for you to be pregnant! your going to be such a b!tch" (which is ok because she was jokin, and i thought it was funny) and I said, Im hoping to be on the sweeter side! So DH's cousins GF (whom i LOATHE) says, and I quote, "I've been on the sweeter side...."
Yup. thats how shes announces her pregnancy. After I say how excited I am to eventualy get pregnant since weve been trying for a year. And they go on to explain about how they werent trying, but werent preventing either.
I cried on the way home. If I do get pregnant this cycle, or any near this one, I will always be behind her. I didnt want to share my "glory" with anyone in either of our family, and now this.
I knew I hated her for a reason.
/vent.
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Re: Rudest. Thing. Ever.
Yea, not really the rudest thing ever.
You didn't want to share your "glory"? Ridiculous.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
The way she said it was rude, I guess it would have been a have to be there thing. And no, I didn't really want to share my first pregnancy glory with someone else. Sorry.
Ovarian cancer survivor
DH= low motility
2/9/11 lap & hysteroscopy- uterine polyp & scar tissue removed
3/25/11 IUI#1= BFP m/c; D&C at 7w3d (Trisomy 16)
IUIs #2, #3, #4 and #5= BFNs
Onto IVF #1= BFN
FET 4/6/12= 2 extended blasts transferred, with one hatching
Beta 1= 607; Beta 2= 1,564; Beta 3= 24,439; Beta 4= over 64,000
First u/s on 5/10= TWINS! Heartbeats 158 and 160!
It's a boy and a girl!
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Huge congrats to my beautiful BFPB lmj8284, due June 2012!
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." -FDR
It wasn't that shes pregnant, it was that she interupted me talking about how we've been trying for so long, and how were excited about when it will happen, to tell me SHES pregnant.
Thanks! I hope she has a H & H pregnancy, and I wish she would have told me first before she announced it. Or maybe waited until after I was done talking.
BFP #1 EDD 08/07/11 DS born 07/27/11 Welcome Mr. Smiley!
BFP #2 05/28/12 EDD 02/03/13 Natural M/C 07/14/12 10w6d
BFP #3 10/02/12 EDD 06/11/13 Please stick baby! Stick!
I am a tad confused, and just want to clarify.
Aww cheer up Charlie!
And I know what you mean about sharing the glory thing. Dh has a sister who kind of "steals" the spot light. She is 100x's better now, but we have had our outs! For example: She hosted a house warming party for us..but also told people it was an anniversary party for her and her ExDH. So I was sitting there opening presents addressed to my SIL going "WTF!?"
Had she waited and announced it at some other time there would have been a reason that it was the rudest thing ever then as well.
And I'm sorry but the world will not stop when you get pregnant- to expect everyone around you to wait until you have your moment in the sum is just silly.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Im not upset that shes pregnant. Im upset that she interuppted me talking about my HSG, and how were excited to be pregnant eventually (hopefully sooner rather then later) to tell everyone SHES pregnant. and about the glory, yeah. It would have been ok if i liked her in the first place, i guess LOL shes always been a biitch to everyone. theres nothing i can do, it just super irritated me and had to vent.
Gotcha.
I hate when people interrupt me. It doesn't matter what I'm talking about...if you interupt me mid-sentence, I am not a happy camper.
Sorry she was acting like that.
Hopefully you get your BFP soon. GL!
I have to admit:
I don't think this was close to the rudest.thing.ever. You were on the subject, and talking positively about getting pregnant. It sounds kinda witty, and it's not like she knows what it's like to not get pregnant when trying. Maybe she didn't want to make a big deal about telling you, so she just threw it out there.
Wouldn't you have been mad if you were talking to her about your deepest concerns about pregnancy and she DIDN'T tell you?
Thanks. It was such a good day because I got good news with my HSG then it was kinda like ooohh...Oh well, Thanksgiving is tomorrow, so family time (without her) will be very nice.
I'm not usually one to argue with others on here, but I think you are missing the point of her post. Can you honestly say that your feelings wouldn't be hurt if you were talking about your struggle and sharing that you finally are optimistic and out of no where someone announces their pregnancy? That is very tacky in my opinion. Maybe the original posters is exaggerating a little about it being the rudest thing ever, but I don't think she literally meant that.
Ovarian cancer survivor
DH= low motility
2/9/11 lap & hysteroscopy- uterine polyp & scar tissue removed
3/25/11 IUI#1= BFP m/c; D&C at 7w3d (Trisomy 16)
IUIs #2, #3, #4 and #5= BFNs
Onto IVF #1= BFN
FET 4/6/12= 2 extended blasts transferred, with one hatching
Beta 1= 607; Beta 2= 1,564; Beta 3= 24,439; Beta 4= over 64,000
First u/s on 5/10= TWINS! Heartbeats 158 and 160!
It's a boy and a girl!
My Blog
Huge congrats to my beautiful BFPB lmj8284, due June 2012!
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." -FDR
This is what I was thinking. And the fact that she interrupted her talking about TTC to announce her own pregnancy. Rude much?
Didn't miss the point at all.
And yes in the many moons I've been ttc there have been plenty of people who have announced they were pregnant, even amidst discussion of my own struggles- not the end of the world.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Some people are just so insensitive. My friend who just got married was telling me and another friend that she is going off BCP right away because she has always had it in the back of her mind that she will have difficulty getting pregnant. Well, the other friend who is KU with twins (and succeeded on her very first try) said "well obviously I don't have any issues!"
yeah, we know.
rude
::giggles::
wow, aren't you a special case. HOW DARE SHE? steal your thunder on your phantom pregnancy.
wow.
No Rotty- how dare ANYONE steal her phantom thunder.
"It's a child, not a cheeto" Thanks mmariluh!
"Ew. I've read all of two posts from you, and you stink like rotting garbage."
Ok, I see where you are coming from now. Great for you for having a thick skin. I still don't agree with you, but I do respect your opinion. I think if you had said it this way in the beginning it would have gone over much nicer.
Ovarian cancer survivor
DH= low motility
2/9/11 lap & hysteroscopy- uterine polyp & scar tissue removed
3/25/11 IUI#1= BFP m/c; D&C at 7w3d (Trisomy 16)
IUIs #2, #3, #4 and #5= BFNs
Onto IVF #1= BFN
FET 4/6/12= 2 extended blasts transferred, with one hatching
Beta 1= 607; Beta 2= 1,564; Beta 3= 24,439; Beta 4= over 64,000
First u/s on 5/10= TWINS! Heartbeats 158 and 160!
It's a boy and a girl!
My Blog
Huge congrats to my beautiful BFPB lmj8284, due June 2012!
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." -FDR
lol
This. It sounds like you would have been mad either way. I get that it's annoying that someone you don't like is pregnant, and that maybe her announcement lacked some tact, but at some point, you'll have to find a way to just let that crap slide. If there's anything I've learned in all this time trying to get pregnant it's that people have the WORST timing in announcing such things... They just don't get it, so instead of expecting them to change, I try to just tune it out... smile... congratulate.
This. Did she really feel it was necessary to announce it in front of a group of friends like that when she knows you've been having difficulty? Don't get me wrong, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't expect every person to consider me first before announcing their PG, however... I just feel she could have been more tactful. It was almost like she was waiting for the perfect opportunity to sneak it into a conversation that was about you and she wanted to make it about her.
I'd be pissed. Well, just know that you're your own person, and DH and you are going to have a wonderful, amazing child someday. She has no effect on that. It's hard, but you gotta let it roll off your back. Unfortunately there are a lot of insensitive people in this world that really don't think, or care to think, about what anyone else is going through at the moment.
Exactly the bolded. I can understand being upset at her somewhat insensitive timing, but you really lost me with glory thing. Then again, I've never understood that, whether it's for a wedding, a pregnancy, or whatever. I hope you do get your BFP very soon, but the reality is that you can't control what anyone else does, or the timetable of when anyone else gets pregnant. While it may feel like it, I'm pretty sure she didn't do it to spite you.
My one thing is, if this cousin was there and you know you don't like her, why talk about something so personal in front of her? I'm not blaming you at all, but if you brought it up, you unfortunately opened the door for her to jump in and ruin your day.
This.
And to OP, I'm sorry that she upset you with her random comment and the poor timing of it. GL to you, I hope that you get a nice BFP soon.
Corbin | born 4.19.12
Baby boy #2 | due 4.13.15