vent about pregnancy announcement

meg1974 · November 2010

I don't usually post things this personal on here, but I kind of need to get this out.

We announced to our families today that we are expecting our 2nd child. We had said a while back we were considering not having another one, but we changed our minds.

Well, I'd say they were less than enthused about it. My mom's reaction was "was it intentional?" When I said "yes" she said "oh" as if she was disappointed. Then, my mom told my grandma "she's pregnant" and my grandma said "is she happy?"

They were thrilled when we announced my first pregnancy. I guess I had just hoped for a little of the same enthusiasm this time around. I understand they were a little surprised b/c of our change of mind, but they could still be a little happy for us.

Liss_37 · November 2010

maybe they didn't know if they were supposed to be happy.. i know if you told me that you didn't want anymore kids and then told me you were pregnant, i wouldn't know how to react either..

I can see how you would be dissapointed though. I would have been too

CONGRATS though!! I'm slightly jealous lol

heatherlane · November 2010

Aw, without knowing your family dynamic I can't really say much, but I would be really disappointed if my mom reacted this way!

Hugs...don't worry, I am sure they will come around when things start to get more "real" for them.

Violet's Mommy · November 2010

I'm sorry, that would be upsetting. But Congrats

!

lynsef · November 2010

I'm sorry to hear that they were less than enthused. Hopefully they will get more excited as you get further along in your pregnancy.

I had a similar reaction when I told one of my best friends. She and her H have been trying for a few months and she told me that one of her friends is "already pregnant with her 2nd baby before I am pregnant with my first" She said she went home and cried. She then said you and Jeff are going to start trying again soon right? I guess the look on my face gave it away and she said you're pregnant aren't you? Guess I'm going to go home and cry again. I later got a congratulations card from her, but it still was a little weird.

EbethM0231 · November 2010

we got that kind of reaction when we announced our pregnancy. My OWN mother actually looked me in the face and said, "well, something will probably happen to it, so don't get too excited." My MIL let us know that we made a big mistake. Now that I look back, I think they were just in shock b/c we got married in October and I was pregnant in Feburary. They all love DS now and couldnt' imagine life without him. Do you think that they were just shocked since you had said that you weren't considering another child? I am not justifying their responses at all, but sometimes people don't realize what is coming out of their mouths when they are in shock about something.

I hope they do get excited about another grandchild!! and a healthy 9 months to you, momma!

kimthgrt · November 2010

EXACT same thing happened when we announced #2..granted, she wasn;t planned, but announced it with enthusiasm, as if to project we are excited...we also got "oh..wow.um..cool?" jokes on them because she is an awesome and gorgeous baby.

Shawnly82 · November 2010

I'm sorry they reacted that way. We just announced on Sunday to my mom and DH's parents and grandparents. My mom was thrilled, but my MIL didn't say much except "It wasn't unexpected." We announced with a cute t-shirt DD wore that said this princess is going to be a big sister and when we showed his grandma she looked at it said "is that true" and didn't say one other word just grabbed DD and loved on her. What the heck is up with them acting like that because all were so thrilled with the first. So anyway I understand, I kind of feel like I don't want to talk about it with them anymore. Also now I'm worried to announce to the rest of my family.

LindsE143 · November 2010

That's no good! My feelings would be hurt too. If it makes you feel any better, my MIL said she "just knew" I was pregnant because "my face has gotten so chubby." Um, thanks?? It ruined my whole day and put a damper on the whole announcement. Anyway, you have every right to be upset. GL!

meg1974 · November 2010

Shawnly82:
I'm sorry they reacted that way. We just announced on Sunday to my mom and DH's parents and grandparents. My mom was thrilled, but my MIL didn't say much except "It wasn't unexpected." We announced with a cute t-shirt DD wore that said this princess is going to be a big sister and when we showed his grandma she looked at it said "is that true" and didn't say one other word just grabbed DD and loved on her. What the heck is up with them acting like that because all were so thrilled with the first. So anyway I understand, I kind of feel like I don't want to talk about it with them anymore. Also now I'm worried to announce to the rest of my family.

I know exactly how you feel! I actually kind of anticipated this reaction and was nervous about telling them. I even made DH do it b/c I was so nervous. But it was still disappointing nonetheless.

Thanks, everyone, for your support and understanding!

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