Are you an uptight-first time mom? If so, How?

sunny_brooke13@hotmail.com · November 2010

If you're a first time mom, or when you were a first-time mom, were you uptight and overbearing? Which things were you uptight about?

delg23 · November 2010

I am terrified of public outbursts!

cswatch · November 2010

DH was saying the other day that I'm actually not nearly as uptight/crazy first time mom as he thought I would be. However, I am a pretty uptight when it comes to safety issues. For instance, I'm rediculous when it comes to installation of the car seat bases. I will go into my MIL's car and make sure the base is secure (like even after several ppl have checked it)... that kind of thing. Also, I'm Captain Safety when it comes to anything like crib safety, etc. It's probably a little obnoxious, but I just get nervous b/c I'm a 1st timer.

doremi29 · November 2010

I would say that I am absolutely not uptight. I don't care if he cries in public (other than I just don't want him to cry in general), I'm not a germaphobe, and I'm not overbearing when it comes to him getting hurt- I am well aware of the fact that my son with end up with a lot of bumps and bruises along the way.

A good friend of mine is definately an uptight mom IMO and it's really funny when we get together with our LO's.....she carefully takes a paci out of a small tupperware container and promptly clips it to the LO's shirt. DS's paci (when he used one) would usually be shoved down in his carseat, I'd take a look at it to see if it was visibly dirty, and if not, pop it in his mouth. Her face ----> Surprise mine----> Big Smile But we just go with it- to each their own!

zeptattoo · November 2010

I was a control freak about everything regarding Snuggle. Then he started daycare (at 7 months) and I realized how rediculous I was, so I chilled out.

skiwic8 · November 2010

I am way, way more relaxed than I thought I would be. However, even at six months I HATE pass the baby! With Thanksgiving tomorrow and DS's baptism on Sunday I am already filled with anxiety. There are some people, like my IL's, that when I see them holding DS I want to crawl out of my skin. I have started leaving the room so I don't have to see it. (I have PPD and this anxiety is part of it). I am also pretty uptight about keeping him on his schedule. I don't like him to miss naps or stay up past his bedtime.

kalu10 · November 2010

I don't think I'm too uptight as much as I am just a little nervous at times. I get most nervous about safety issues, in particular about the way he sleeps. I worry so much about SIDS. I also feel some anxiety about him being at parties or get-togethers that seem loud and overwhelming. That's about it though.

MrsSR · November 2010

Not uptight, but paranoid about safety things.

My SIL gave me her old Bundle Me, but I don't want to use it because it messes with the straps. So I bought a cozy cover instead.

Dreamsicle23 · November 2010

Nope...I'm not uptight/paranoid at all. I often giggle at things people worry about.

Mrsmaybebaby · November 2010

I'm really uptight and I start to annoy myself. We don't go out during the day...i'm so nervous to take DS anywhere by myself. Hes a very fussy baby and every time I have taken him to a store (grocery store and walmart) hes had a HUGE fit with a ton of spit up while waiting in line at the cash register and I was stuck. I needed the items but he was highly upset and soppy with spit up (reflux can kiss my a$$). So i'm really uptight about leaving the house I just won't do it unless someone can go with me.

I also don't want anyone besides my, DH, and my mom feeding him. He has a lot of special feeding needs and every time someone else does it we have a terribly rough next few hours. It really pisses off MIL!

jasrun80 · November 2010

doremi29:
I would say that I am absolutely not uptight. I don't care if he cries in public (other than I just don't want him to cry in general), I'm not a germaphobe, and I'm not overbearing when it comes to him getting hurt- I am well aware of the fact that my son with end up with a lot of bumps and bruises along the way.

A good friend of mine is definately an uptight mom IMO and it's really funny when we get together with our LO's.....she carefully takes a paci out of a small tupperware container and promptly clips it to the LO's shirt. DS's paci (when he used one) would usually be shoved down in his carseat, I'd take a look at it to see if it was visibly dirty, and if not, pop it in his mouth. Her face ----> mine----> But we just go with it- to each their own!

so me ! except I never even look at the paci when u pull it out if tge carseat! I'm uptight about giving him food though, but that's cause he sleeps better if he gets his 40 oz of BM !

cg0112358 · November 2010

delg23:
I am terrified of public outbursts!

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shibby00 · November 2010

I really don't think I'm that uptight at all, I keep her pacifier clipped to her shirt just so I don't have to hunt for it when she's screaming, not really for hygenic reasons. I don't mind her crying/screaming in public, it's not like nobody in Target has never heard a baby cry before...But like a PP said I really hate pass the baby and I'm secretly very happy when she starts screaming so I 'have' to take her back!!

MWoodside · November 2010

I am uptight about lots of stuff, but I try to pick my battles. Mostly I'm uptight about what my mom does with DD when she watches her. For example, she said DD had a huge poop the other day so she bathed her in my kitchen sink. It really grossed me out. I mean we clean the sink all the time, but I have cleaned raw turkeys in that sink, etc. I was annoyed.

Edit: In terms of my interactions w/ DD I am super laid back & mellow. It's just enforcing what other people do with her where I become uptight/bossy.

adneskefi1 · November 2010

delg23:
I am terrified of public outbursts!

this is me! i am not uptight about germs, paci, or any of these things--but i am so nervous of her having a fit when i am out alone with DD

am369 · November 2010

Absolutely, but my son has special needs so maybe it doesn't count.

GreenieTA11 · November 2010

- I'm terrified of a public outbust when I'm alone. It's easy to 'play it cool' with DH but if I'm by myself, I might implode.

- I FREAK when sick people are around her ... or me, for that matter. Spread your germs to us ... I'll kill you. Seriously.

- I will NOT mess up her bedtime. Not for your wedding rehersal dinner (DH is in the wedding), not to hang out with my friends, not if the world was ending.

Ugh ...

AliciaCM · November 2010

Dreamsicle23:
Nope...I'm not uptight/paranoid at all. I often giggle at things people worry about.

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snansley · November 2010

I was really uptight for the first 6 weeks. Mostly because DS was kinda fussy and I was really stressed about BF and supply issues in addition to first time parent nerves. I have chilled out a lot since then and pretty much go with the flow. I don't freak about germs, I will let other people hold him whenever and I have no problem taking him out in public alone.

bellybaby · January 2011

I AM UPTIGHT ABOUGHT GERMS!! if I am out in public and someone sneezes near the baby I give them the stink eye and throw the shade up over the stroller. My husband gets sooo embarassed! LOL But I'm a pediatric nurse and I know what germs are flying around FLU, RSV, ETC.

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