I'm so mad at DH (long)

steff13914 · November 2010

Ok, I WAS so mad at him! As soon as I walked in the door he tells me he has to reschedule his appt. with the uro on Monday because he has something at work he has to do! UGH He has rescheduled every one his appts for work stuff. I was very very upset and starting crying because I just felt like if we keep moving appts we'll never figure what's wrong and never have a child!

Then, we start discussing why this next appt is so important...for b/w...to check testosterone...blah, blah, blah. DH: Well, I already know I have low T. YOU WHAT??? And you didn't think to tell me this 8 months ago when we started trying to get pregnant?? Crying Apparently, he had b/w done a while ago for some stomach issues and they told him his T was a little low. He didn't think about it until I mentioned it.

He called back and kept his appt for Monday and is figuring out his work thing this weekend. I am so glad he agreed to keep that appt because now I am more worried. We talked about it all, and I told him I wasn't mad at him because of his bad test results. I was just upset about the process and waiting to get answers. I could tell he was a little bit hurt by reactions, but I apologized and everything is ok now.

Thanks for reading if you got through all that!

branmuffin2112 · November 2010

sorry steff, this might upset me too {{big hugs}}

lmj8284 · November 2010

Oh Steff! I'm so sorry. I would have freaked and started crying too:( Ugh...Men. Why did he not think to tell you this info sooner?!?!

I'm glad he is keeping his appt and you guys worked everything out. Big hugs to you!!!

MrsTran021310 · November 2010

Awww man. Sorry Steff. I know all this stuff your going through has been hard and I'm sure that was just icing on the cake when you got home. Sometimes I think men just don't get it.

Well, I'm glad you got your feelings off your chest and that DH is keeping his appointment. The wait is hard, but that would have made it worse.

I'll be keeping you guys in my T&P's.

eesome · November 2010

Wow. I can't believe he kept that from you! I am so sorry.

I would be upset, too.

msmarsh · November 2010

Aw Steff, that would be upsetting to find out after so long. I'm glad that he is able to keep his appointment and who knows... maybe his numbers won't be too low. Wishing you lots of luck!

blackbird01 · November 2010

I would be so upset! I can't believe he didn't tell you about his low T before. Although it sounds like he just didn't think it was important. I'm glad he's keeping his appointment and I hope his tests go well.

Ricola · November 2010

Oh my goodness. I'm glad he remembered now, so the dr, can test for that specifically.

Pour yourself a big glass of wine, girl, you totally deserve it!

((hugs))

kjgilhoo · November 2010

Sorry Steff

I'm glad he's able to keep his Monday appt. I would have reacted the same way. Not mad at the test results, but more so at the situation and absent-mindedness.

steff13914 · November 2010

Thanks so much ladies for your kind words. He felt pretty bad about it, and that is why he called the Dr. back to keep the appt. I wish there was a book for men like TCOYF! That would help a great deal.

And Ricola, I am definitely having a glass of wine tonight! Maybe a whole bottle!

punkymama · November 2010

((hugs)) I would've been upset as well. I am happy to hear that you all talked everything through and he;s making his appointment a priority on top of work.

It was like pulling teeth to get MH to go for a SA, the men seem to be extra sensitive when it comes to these tests. GL on Monday!

SmlTownGirl87 · November 2010

Steff. *hugs* Glad he is going on Monday. Hope you get things worked out soon!

lynn0926 · November 2010

I would have initially been upset too, but he probably forgot and didn't think that his T level would affect TTC. Hang in there. Hopefully come early next week you will have answers! I am glad he kept the Monday appt.

MySweetBaboo · November 2010

AWww Steff! Big hugs!! Men are clueless sometimes! I'm glad he kept his appointment.

FyreFry5 · November 2010

Sorry. That would be frustrating for me also. I hope he is able to work it out and get in there on Monday, and that you get good news soon.

GL to you. Let us know how it goes!

Treasa · November 2010

Oh yes, I would be majorly upset by this too! So glad he kept Monday appt! GL!

alison2379 · November 2010

I would be so mad too!!

My husband also has low testosterone. We haven't gone through an SA yet, it was diagnosed before we started TTC and the suggestion was for us to give it a few months before going through all that. BUT, originally, a drug was prescribed to DH to help his levels that he took for a while, and didn't really discuss in detail with me. When we started TTC I found out that it can totally screw up sperm count if taken for an extended period of time, and I had a meltdown that he hadn't discussed going on a new med without me. He was only on it for like three weeks, but it was just a total drop in communication, it never occured to him to even ask the question. Men and women are really different in their approach, and thinking about the effects when it comes to TTC.

Anyways, your situation reminded me of what I went through a few months ago, so I just wanted to tell you I understand and they don't mean it, but husbands don't get it sometimes!!!

Feel free to PM me, I'm happy to chat more. Happy Thanksgiving! Smile

Kathy4678 · November 2010

DOH! Low T suuuucks. Boo Low T!

I'm glad you guys are on the same page now- I really hope the Uro gives you some good news/advice!

I always tell Alison- us Low T girls need to stick together!!

Rvnsgrl81 · November 2010

I am so sorry Steff! Sounds just like something my DH would do and say. He would try to claim he had told me that before though....umm I think I would remember that. So I totally understand your frustration! Men just don't get it!!! I hope all goes well with his appt on Monday!

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