I hope this doesn't come back to bite me on the arse...

ermaderma · November 2010

So, I've been conflicted as to what to do this cycle. Last cycle's BFN was pretty hard on me. It was pretty much the first cycle where I O'ed and had an awesome temp shift, pretty good timing, EWCM and nothing to show for it. I've been toying with the idea of not temping and "relaxing" this cycle and I think I'm going to do it! I keep forgetting to temp anyways, lol.

I just feel that my obsessing over my temps and negative OPKS, etc. is doing more harm than good. Maybe I'll be one of those gals that get pregnant by "relaxing" and "letting it happen." And maybe I won't. I'm just sick of trying so hard. This board has taught me so much about listening to my body that I think I have a pretty good idea of when I O, so I'm not completely clueless.

Hopefully this doesn't come back to bite me in the arse when it's January and I keep getting BFNs and no AF, LOL

Oh and after typing all of this out, I feel like a weight has been lifted. It's weird!!!

WI-mommy-hopeful · November 2010

I think a break from temping and opks would be a nice change. With the holidays and everything, the less stress on you the better!!! I think it would be worth a shot :-)

mego36 · November 2010

If you think that it's what you need then go for it. ?It would def. be nice to do around the holidays. ?Live it up!! ?Good luck!

DaniSev · November 2010

I know exactly how you feel. When I got the BFP last December, it happened to be a cycle that we decided to take a break from all the charting and OPKs. DH swears it's because I didn't put so much pressure on myself, but I don't know. After the m/c and we decided to start TTC again, DH requested that I not chart or use OPKs again. I'm respecting him now but if we don't get a BFP within the next couple cycles, I'm having a talk with him. It drives me nuts not having any information and each cycle being a big guessing game.

With all that said, I wish you the best of luck. I hope relaxing works for you and you get your BFP.

red1976 · November 2010

Hey erma -

I take breaks here and there from temping or OPKs or both. It's good to help rejuvenate yourself. Once you have a pretty good idea as to what your body is doing -- why not take a break???

I'm hoping the break is just what your body needs

tblauvelt · November 2010

Take a load off and relax like you said. I wish you lots of luck!

ccam · November 2010

I took a break from temping this cycle and it's been kind of nice. I don't have to worry about remembering to temp or obsess over my temps in the 2ww. The only thing is that I don't know exactly when I O'ed, but we've been having sex EOD just so we're covered! Good luck!!

macy42 · November 2010

I may be wrong, but I THINK that rxy was taking a break from temping and got her BFP.

(someone can correct me if im wrong)

lmj8284 · November 2010

I think a break is a great idea! GL to you:)

gina&dave07 · November 2010

Today is CD1 for me. DH & I decided that I would take a break from temping/charting. I hope it will help me to relax too, plus with the holidays coming I hope that I am too distracted to think about it all. Stick out tongue

I agree with you about hoping that it does not come back to bit me in the a**. Good luck to you!

gina&dave07 · November 2010

Bump Burp

MySweetBaboo · November 2010

The cycles I took temping breaks, I did do OPKs. I think it is a great idea! I personally enjoyed not temping, it was free-ing. The only reason I am temping now is to have some recent charts if I have to make the big appointment in January.

This month will be busy anyway and you will have too much on your mind to think twice about it! Good luck!!!!

ermaderma · November 2010

DaniSev:

I know exactly how you feel. When I got the BFP last December, it happened to be a cycle that we decided to take a break from all the charting and OPKs. DH swears it's because I didn't put so much pressure on myself, but I don't know. After the m/c and we decided to start TTC again, DH requested that I not chart or use OPKs again. I'm respecting him now but if we don't get a BFP within the next couple cycles, I'm having a talk with him. It drives me nuts not having any information and each cycle being a big guessing game.

With all that said, I wish you the best of luck. I hope relaxing works for you and you get your BFP.

DH is of this mindset now, too. At first he was all for it once I actually started ovulating (due to metformin and actos). But last cycle was hard on him, too. That and everyone we know IRL that is KU didn't temp and most of them were oops babies.

Thanks everyone for the well wishes! I do want to say thanks to everyone on this board (gee, I sound like I'm writing a farewell post haha). Without the information, knowledge and support I've gained from being on the boards, I probably never would have pushed to get tested for IR or went around my OB to an endo for metformin. And I definitely would have been clueless about looking for the signs that my body is shows when I'm ovulating. It definitely helps that I don't feel as if I'm going into this blindly.

steff13914 · November 2010

We all need a break sometimes, and I really hope that you are one of those lucky girls who relaxes and gets KU! Best of luck to you.

gammage20 · November 2010

If it feels stressful enough that you're this excited about the idea of taking a break, I think it's a good idea, even if it's just for one cycle (or however long you decide to break from charting/temping, etc.). It will be good for your relationship too, give you a chance to reconnect romantically instead of feeling like a human petri dish!

DestinedtobeDomestic · November 2010

Erma, I think I may be joining you. DH and I talked last night, and he told me it is totally up to me, but that it seems like I could benefit from a break.

I just really don't want to end up like you said, no AF and no BFP. That'd be really frustrating.

GL to you in your break! Hope it brings you a BFP

punkymama · November 2010

I don't think temping breaks are bad, everyone needs a break especially if you've been doing this for a while.

Holidays are coming up and you could sleep in and snuggle with YH. I say go for it, put up the BBT for a month!

tosh24 · November 2010

I'm taking a temping break this cycle. Already, I feel so much less stressed out. I'm glad that I've learned so much from this board and that I have a year of charting behind me because now I am fairly confident in my pattern, but I think I am due for a break.

Now that the RE is monitoring me this cycle, I don't have to be obsessed with when I'm going to ovulate - the doctor will tell me! And I have a fairly good idea of my pattern by now anyway. I am still going to do OPKs though, and maybe check for CM every now and then.

I really hope I don't kick myself toward the end of the 2WW though!

GL

TanyaKM · November 2010

You should definitely do what you think is right for your personal situation. Sounds like you are relieved already, so that's good! Like others said, since it's the holidays, it is a good time to relax and take things easy. Good luck!

Nicoley22 · November 2010

Sometimes it helps to just be able to vent. I think if that is what you need to do then give it a try! Best of luck to you.

jennyhazz · November 2010

I think a break is healthy if you're feeling like it's doing harm on you mentally. I took a break a couple of months back, and it was quite refreshing. I hope you do end up being one of the lucky "relaxers' :-) Good luck, and still stick around here!

pinkflipflops44 · November 2010

My last cycle I had that exact same thought. I maybe temped like 10 total times and it was all so over the place and I attemped to use opk's when i thought, and none ever really truly showed positive and we only had sex 3 times that entire cycle. Then my period never came. It was a wierd wtf moment in a good way, because I was contemplating just breaking for awhile.

Do it and see how you feel. If you start to get stressed just start temping and using opks when you feel like it.

amor_eterno · November 2010

There's nothing wrong with taking a break when you feel stressed. Sometimes we all need to take time to regroup and decide how we want to do things. GL!

Ricola · November 2010

I will be doing this next cycle, too, erma. We are going on a one week vacation in December and I don't want to temp during that time, so I decided to just skip it all together next month. I'm looking forward to it!

Good luck to you!

youngin12 · November 2010

I think everyone needs a break every once in a while. I wish you the best, erma. I really hope this works for you. I want you off this freakin' board!

((hugs)) <------ because I love hugs just for the helll of it.

Ya Never Know · November 2010

ermaderma:
So, I've been conflicted as to what to do this cycle. Last cycle's BFN was pretty hard on me. It was pretty much the first cycle where I O'ed and had an awesome temp shift, pretty good timing, EWCM and nothing to show for it. I've been toying with the idea of not temping and "relaxing" this cycle and I think I'm going to do it! I keep forgetting to temp anyways, lol.
I just feel that my obsessing over my temps and negative OPKS, etc. is doing more harm than good. Maybe I'll be one of those gals that get pregnant by "relaxing" and "letting it happen." And maybe I won't. I'm just sick of trying so hard. This board has taught me so much about listening to my body that I think I have a pretty good idea of when I O, so I'm not completely clueless.
Hopefully this doesn't come back to bite me in the arse when it's January and I keep getting BFNs and no AF, LOL
Oh and after typing all of this out, I feel like a weight has been lifted. It's weird!!!

I'm right there with ya. Our new plan is not to see the RE, not take meds, and not chart/temp, or even opk. We reverted to whatever happens happens after the last cycle, which was particularly hard on me. I'll resume the RE etc.. if I'm not pregnant in another 6 months or so, but for now, not obsessing about ttc has been really good for me.

NDGOIRISH · November 2010

mego36:
If you think that it's what you need then go for it. It would def. be nice to do around the holidays. Live it up!! Good luck!

Just wanted to say I love your siggy pics! Your dog is so cute! Mine is a shihpoo and is quite a handful!

melissa721 · November 2010

In addition to listening to your body, listen to your heart and do what it tells you. :-)

msmarsh · November 2010

Hey Erma- I completely understand what you mean and respect your decision. I hope that you are "one of those women" who get KU after relaxing Big Smile

Best of luck to you and hope you have a great Turkey day!

megd06 · November 2010

This last cycle was my first to not temp (I just got AF yesterday, so it was a bust)--but, it was nice to have sex "for fun' again. I don't plan to temp this next one either.

liz_t · November 2010

Good luck, Erma. I think that taking a break during the holiday season is not a bad idea. Best wishes!

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