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So I need your opinions (fb and probie mentioned)

BallSoxBallSox member
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I know this may come as a shock to you guys, but I'm not a shy person.  

:waits for you guys to recover from the shock:

I've had a *lot* of people ask about coming to visit at the hospital/the house and while I have zero problem with visitors (errr, healthy visitors), I have 100% plans on breastfeeding and have very little modesty.  Esp when you consider that it's such a learning process, I don't plan on covering myself and him while I'm trying to figure out how to insert tab a into slot b.  

I've been debating on putting a note on FB asking people not to post pictures of Probie-won until we have (which, thanks to FB mobile and my husband, probably will be within minutes) and addressing the visitation questions that have arisen.  

Would you address the breastfeeding issue?  I honestly don't care if people see my girls but I also don't want to shock people who aren't expecting the full show.  If they want to stay, I'm cool with it.  If they want to excuse themselves, I'm cool with it.  I just don't want them to be all "wtf? those are your boobs!"  

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Re: So I need your opinions (fb and probie mentioned)

  • Tim'sWifeyTim'sWifey
    I'd put the note up and just say warn them, in a comedic way like only you can, that they may see your girls.  I wouldn't care if I saw them, hell, honestly- I'd expect it.  But I'm sure my great aunt wouldn't be expecting it.
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  • BallSoxBallSox member

    imageTim'sWifey:
    I wouldn't care if I saw them, hell, honestly- I'd expect it.  But I'm sure my great aunt wouldn't be expecting it.

     You'd expect it--and you'd like it :-P  Hell, I could see you buying a ticket just on the chance you'd see them.  :giggles: 

    Yeah, seriously though, when I go see a new mom, I kind of figure I'm going to see boobs, either directly or indirectly.  However, I know a lot of people aren't as casual as I am.  Hence the reason I've been debating it.  I've always been anti-fb note, but those are usually the detailed ones saying exactly how many visitors and having a sign-up chart and dictating that people can only come if they are wearing organic cotton clothing and can only come if they submit a request in triplicate three weeks before they want to come visit, ykwim? 

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  • Tim'sWifeyTim'sWifey
    imageBallSox:

    imageTim'sWifey:
    I wouldn't care if I saw them, hell, honestly- I'd expect it.  But I'm sure my great aunt wouldn't be expecting it.

     You'd expect it--and you'd like it :-P  Hell, I could see you buying a ticket just on the chance you'd see them.  :giggles: 

    Yeah, seriously though, when I go see a new mom, I kind of figure I'm going to see boobs, either directly or indirectly.  However, I know a lot of people aren't as casual as I am.  Hence the reason I've been debating it.  I've always been anti-fb note, but those are usually the detailed ones saying exactly how many visitors and having a sign-up chart and dictating that people can only come if they are wearing organic cotton clothing and can only come if they submit a request in triplicate three weeks before they want to come visit, ykwim? 

    I would like it indeed! 

    I think a note or post on fb would just make people aware because honestly, not all people are as open with their boobs as you are.  Stick out tongue

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  • kayashkayash

    I think a note is a good idea. I plan to nurse when we have a baby but no one I know has nursed their kid, so I think for one of my friends it would definitely be a shock. I don't know if your group is used to it more though but I think a heads up will be a must when we have kids.

    And I'm sure there is some totally perfect way that you'll be able to express "warning: boobs ahead" lol

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  • Emie28Emie28 member
    I am the same way, but I didn't feel a fb warning was necessary. If I had visitors when it was time to breastfeed I just said that it was time for a feeding and that I felt completely comfortable with them staying and visiting, but if they felt more comfortable stepping out while he ate I understood.
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  • swimrbrideswimrbride
    I wouldn't address it beforehand until people specifically ask when/if they can come. I would then address it individually. For the most part I would tell people when they were visiting, I am getting ready to feed/nurse Jake and the few people that were uncomfortable with it said goodbye and headed out.
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  • BallSoxBallSox member

    imageswimrbride:
    I wouldn't address it beforehand until people specifically ask when/if they can come. I would then address it individually. For the most part I would tell people when they were visiting, I am getting ready to feed/nurse Jake and the few people that were uncomfortable with it said goodbye and headed out.

    There's my other side of the debate, lol.  Now you know why I'm torn.  On one hand, I want to warn people, on the other, I don't want to create a problem where/when there might not be one.  

    I do appreciate all of the opinions! Seeing how divided people are makes me feel less crazy for not having come to a decision already. 

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  • bancbevbancbev member

    I wouldn't put up a note before hand.  When they are there visiting and you need to nurse just say, "I need to nurse the baby now, I am completely comfortable with you staying and getting a flash of my magnificent melons, but if your not DH can see you out."

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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    imagebancbev:

    .... I am completely comfortable with you staying and getting a flash of my magnificent melons......

    Um, that's awesome.  I might use that exact phrase, either direction I might choose to go on this issue.  

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  • pinkflipflops44pinkflipflops44 member
    My friends have just always said, hey you might get a shot of boob i am going to try to get him/her to latch and I just avert my eyes for a bit and we are good to go.  I also have had a friend who wasn't comfortable yet and just said excuse me and went into her bedroom for a bit.  I don't know about posting it on facebook, maybe just a heads up when they are there.  Some may get the wrong idea if they read it on facebook.
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