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Scout05
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Am I the only one who doesn't mind a belly pat here and there?
Scout05
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Total strangers, sure, it's a little odd. Doesn't really bother me, but I can see why it's a bit iffy for others.
But when my mom or other family member comes up and touches my belly and says "hi sweet Wedge!" (our name for the LO right now), it just makes my heart swell.
I sort of love it, to be honest. I love that I'm showing a bit now, that s/he's kicking a little bit, that we're almost half way there. I don't know...pat away! We've all waited so long for this.
Maybe I'm just weird.
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Re: Am I the only one who doesn't mind a belly pat here and there?
I don't mind it now, but I did in the beginning because they were just really rubbing my bloat. I popped out really early already showing at about 9 weeks so I felt awkward about it.
My rule is, if I would let them hug me, I'll let them touch my belly. I love when my mom/sisters/dear friends do it.
yep, same here.
i don't mind it at all. and the funny thing is, i haven't gotten anyone touching my bump!!!! people will look at it and you can tell they are thinking of touching, but they don't:)
I don't mind if it's family or friends. As my stepdaughter says "it makes my heart happy" to have my belly rubbed by people I love.
But I will admit, if you're going to rub my belly, I'd prefer you rub where the baby is and not hnigher up where it's just my displaced fat.
Strangers haven't tried this with me at all. I'm not sure how I'd feel about that.
But as for people I know - it doesn't bother me at all!
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I'm in agreement with OP, I kind of love it when it's a close friend or family member, too.
I just have issues when complete strangers (other than little kids) at work come up to me and do it without asking. If they ask first I have no problem with it, but I can't get over how rude it is when they don't!
i don't mind if it's close friends or family. i'll even invite the childless friends to poke the belly, because we all think it's so weird that the uterus is so hard.
i just have issues with strangers touching me. i have some personal space issues, so if i don't know you, i prefer to be arm's length away from you.
Have you seen my monkey?
diagnosed with heterozygous Factor V Leiden 2008; m/c 11/09 @ 5 1/2 wks; m/c 5/10 @ 4 1/2 wks; RLP testing done, diagnosed with antiphospholipid syn. and low progesterone; 7/10 started on Heparin injections & progesterone supps @ 3 dpo, BFP 8/9/10!!!
Strangers would get their hand smacked if they touched my belly. But CLOSE friends and family can touch all they want.
If I am not in the mood for a belly rub, I usually try to cross my arms over my tummy or something.
DD2: February 2014
My issue is that I had gained some weight before getting pregnant, so I'm self-conscience about that. I have a bump, but right now its under my fat. If someone touchs my "bump", they'll be feeling my fat on top of it. I'm not cool with that. Once I'm further along, and the bump is bigger, I think I'll be more relaxed about it.
All that said, I would only be cool with close family doing it. If a stranger did it, we would have a problem. If the ILs did it, even then, without asking, that would not be cool with me. But I'm not close with my ILs, if I was, it would be a different story.
I never held you, but I always loved you.
Baby Squirt- September 2009
Baby Turtle- May 2010
Baby Surprise- August 2011
It doesn't bother me in the slightest as long as its someone I know.
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This! I'm not showing yet, but I've told people that I'm pregnant. Sometimes family members will reach out and rub, and I just feel strange about it because there's no bump to rub - my belly is still soft and jubbly to the touch, and since it's always been a sore spot for me, I don't really like it.
Off-topic - ambrandau, I'm SO excited to keep seeing your ticker climb up the weeks! Really happy for you and your family.
If it's my family or my friends, I don't mind at all. It's cute when DH says "hi" to the baby when he gets home from work.
My sister threw a small shower for me super-early since I live overseas and was back home for a visit when I was only 15 wks. One of her friends came and was patting my belly (I was totally not showing yet, I still had a flat stomach) and then proceeded to have a full one-sided conversation with the baby. Creep-tastic!