Surprise or not....

ntcarola · October 2008

My baby shower is this saturday and when some people found out that I knew when it would be they seemed mad that it wasnt a surprise. I didnt want a suprise and that why my sister and mom had told me when it was. Do you think its bad that its not going to be a suprise.

hbdpt · October 2008

I don't think it's bad. I didn't want a surprise either. Pretty much everyone knows they are going to have a shower so I think it's hard to surprise anyone anyway. Also, most people are busy and are trying to get ready for baby, at least I was, so my friends had to coordinate a date with me so that I could actually attend my own shower.

EastCoastBride · October 2008

No, it's not bad. For the most part, I find surprise showers silly. And in my group- there is NO WAY they could surprise me w/o me figuring out what was going on.

And once - ONCE - I tried to plan a surprise shower for a friend of mine who is just the type who like surprises. UGH- what a horrible experience. Found out she was SO upset that her friends weren't throwing her a shower, etc (we had her DH in on it). Finally I had to tell her "A shower is being planned. Have faith in your friends...." to shut her up!

They just take more energy than they are worth

RoxyLynn · October 2008

So far as I can tell, this surprise shower business only exists in the northeast - it's like a surprise birthday party, but a shower, right? I don't get how it works, personally, and it seems rather rude to me to not make sure the guest of honor is available that day and keeps the date open on her calendar.

ntcarola · October 2008

yeah I know right, and After being pregnant for 35 weeks I would like to know so I could be prepared, you know do my hair, put some makeup on and wear something I feel pretty in. Thats not such a bad thing.

MandC17 · October 2008

My shower wasn't a surprise and I'm happy about that. I don't get the whole surprise shower thing either.

mandabear324 · October 2008

Not at all! Some people really aren't into surprises! I hope you have a great time!

ntcarola · October 2008

Thanks Im looking foward to it!!

bmx4 · October 2008

RoxyLynn:
So far as I can tell, this surprise shower business only exists in the northeast - it's like a surprise birthday party, but a shower, right? I don't get how it works, personally, and it seems rather rude to me to not make sure the guest of honor is available that day and keeps the date open on her calendar.

While I am not a fan of suprise showers (or suprise parties, etc.) it isn't really that complicated - someone who is going to the shower makes plans with the Mom-to-be to ahead of time make sure she will be free that day. Just like any other suprise event. It isn't that hard to do....

But like I said, I personally don't like suprise events and I think it is especially dangerous to try and suprise a pregnant woman. As another poster said, I'd want to make sure my hair was done, I was dressed nicely, etc. (which doesn't always happen these days!) and I'm especially hormonal so I'd probably start hysterically crying if someone suprised me

neverblushed · October 2008

No -- most people I know are far to busy to risk trying to surprise with a shower. Plus, the guest of honor will be hauling a lot of stuff home. What hugely pregnant woman wants to deal with that without warning?

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