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Just saying hi and an update

Sunny1sSunny1s
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Hi everyone - I feel like I've been away for a while but have been catching up on everyone's posts this morning!  Such a great board here!

We are still moving ahead with BM for a baby coming about 4 weeks - eek!  Things have been going well, she is amazing and we feel really connected to her.  Loving how open she has been with us.  She knows about our failed match after having the baby with us for 4 weeks and has spoken to us about it a few times.  She wants to make sure we are excited and trust in her plan but we were honest and let her know that while excited and while we do trust her, it is still in the back of our minds but we are not letting it rule our lives.  It's just there and she seemed to understand that.

We've been blessed to meet her parents and are doing so again soon.  I feel good today that we are going to be blessed with a great adoption relationship.  And I'll for sure get to see her every week until the baby comes as I'm going to be her birthing coach and we are attending the classes together.  I wish I didn't have these bad memories holding me to the ground so I could just fly high but hopefully in about 8 weeks I'll feel that way (after WI's long wait to TPR).

Praying for you all and hoping you have a wonderful weekend!

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  • Honeydew1894Honeydew1894
    Wow, what a nice relationship you have. What you have described is what I dream of when I think about ideal BM relationships. I hope the next 12 weeks fly for you! Thanks for the update!
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  • Sunny1sSunny1s

    That's the problem -seems too good to be true!  But I do feel we are in line for something like that, right. Smile

    And it really should be about 8 weeks total - wow, that's crazy to think of.  4 weeks til baby and about another 4 before the TPR.  Sorry, I was rambling and that looked confusing! 

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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member

    that sounds so wonderful!

    Would you mind pming me where you are in WI? We are moving there in 6 months.

    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • kmkaull2kmkaull2 member

    So happy for you!  Big Smile

    We have a very similar relationship with Quinn's birth mom and her parents.  Our birth mom did hit a rough time after the birth.  But I really do believe that the time we put in to establish a relationship with her AND her family really helped her through that time.  She knew us, trusted us, and had great family support.  Those components were really critical in our adoption working out.

    So it sounds to me like things are going very well.  Exciting holiday season for you!

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  • jehnmjehnm
    I'm glad everything is going along so well at this point.  I hope the next 8 weeks fly and you can feel at peace that this baby will be yours!!
    TTC #1 since 12/07 SA 9/08=borderline normal HSG 1/09 found R tube blocked Multiple IUIs both with oral and injectible drugs from 2/09-2/11 Started domestic adoption process in 5/10, homestudy complete 9/10 Failed adoption after home with baby for 2 weeks 11/10 Blessed through the miracle of private adoption with a son, born 6/6/11 (his grandma's bday) 7lbs 9oz 20.5 inches long! So worth the wait!
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