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For those who will choose godparents...
1. Are you going to choose god parents in advance of the birth or will you wait until afterwards ?
2. How will you ask them ?
3. Anyone here planning to have two godmoms or two goddads instead of a godmother and godfather ?
How are you choosing ?
TIA!
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Re: For those who will choose godparents...
We knew 2 of them before the birth, one after (older child, and all kids will have same).
We called the long distance ones, and asked the local one at dinner.
We have a married couple, and a single girl - so 2 godmothers, and one godfather.
We are having one Godfather, and one Godmother.
We chose my brother in-law (my sister's husband) for the Godfather, and DH's sister for the Godmother. Both couples are involved but only 2 technical God parents.
These are not the same people we have chosen as guardians if something should happen to us. (neither of them are financially stable yet, and have very different views on parenting)
We are planning on asking each couple in person, after LO is here, with a letter stating why we have chosen them.( I stole this idea from a fellow bumpie)
We are not Catholic, so these titles are more of an honor, not so much a responsibility to guide our child spiritually.
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1. Are you going to choose god parents in advance of the birth or will you wait until afterwards ? We chose god parents for LO already and she's not here yet.
2. How will you ask them ? My sis kind of knew (I only have 1 sis), so I just kind of confirmed it by saying "You know you're the god mother, right?" lol As for the god father (that's DH's sis's husband), DH just came out and asked him and of course he said yes. DH is god father to their daughter.
3. Anyone here planning to have two godmoms or two goddads instead of a godmother and godfather ? Just 1 and 1 for us. I've never heard of or thought about having more than 1 before. But, to each their own...
How are you choosing ? We chose my sis as god mom due to her being my only sis and I'm pretty close with her. Being DH doesn't have any brother's and had his BIL as his best man at our wedding (known him since he was a little kid), he thought it would be nice to have him as the babies god father. I also have a brother and DH has a sis, so if we decided to have anymore children, they will be the god parents of him/her.
I looove your name for your daughter. Piper was my 2nd choice!!
Man we are having a hard time with this one! We are trying to choose ours in advance but there are all these complications that I never even thought of before now. Such as, we want his sister to be here godmother and primary caregiver if something happens to us. But we don't want to ask her husband to be godfather and would like to ask a close friend to be godfather but not his wife.
We also want his sister to share custody with his dad and stepmom and my mom. However we don't want to offend his mom and are not planning on asking any of the parents to be "god parents".
The whole thing is just complicated and has actually caused a few arguments. Ie, "I can't believe you think SHE is fit to raise Aspen"
But to answer the other question, we are planning on asking them the first time they hold her. My FI wants to say " how does it feel to be holding your goddaughter. We would be honored if you would be Aspen's godmother" I thought that was cute.
At this point it's mine and my husbands best friend as the god father, and probably my sister.
We just told our friend he was the god father, he got all excited. It was very funny and cute all at the same time. I'm not really sure how to ask my sister tho but it will be before I pop I hope. (she's stubborn doesn't always answer her phone LOL)
I'm not sure about anymore then that and I feel that godparents shouldn't have to be a couple.
I think it should be the people you feel are best suited to handle what you feel being a god parent means. If you want someone who can take them if anything happens to you then choose that way. Or if you want it to be a title of honor like stated about choose the people who you feel the closet too.
Hope this helps!
DH and I have chosen who we want, but haven't shared it with them or family members yet because its bound to stir up some trouble.
The Godfather will be DH's cousin. He is only 16, and is actually my DH's godson. This pick is fine, and shouldn't be a problem family wise.
The god-mother on the other hand may. DH and I had a friend who took his life on my Birthday, Feb. 13, of this year. It was very difficult for us as he lived right up the street and worked with DH as a police officer. It was a shock for us and others. This incident brought us particularly to his sister and parents who also live just a couple blocks away.
Anyhow, after Chris left us, I prayed to him, and others asking them to help my DH and I conceive. A couple days after finding out that I was pregnant I read a blog entry that Chris's sister wrote, she said Chris had come to her in a dream and if felt so real. Chris came to her house and had a baby with him, but we don't know who this baby belonged to, so I shared with her that DH and I were expecting, we felt there was a connection. On another occasion early in the pregnancy I had some spotting, and Chris came to another friend in a dream, asking them to reassure me that everything was going to be ok. In our eyes, it would mean something really special to his sister and family to have her stand as god-mother.