Speaking of big topics

Re: Speaking of big topics

• shellybell15

  November 2010

  Yes I do think people need to unplug a little more, including myself. I actually just saw a show about the affect it was having on children. It was really sad to hear the kids say they wish their parents would get off the phone and computer more to play with them. I don't think I am on the computer that much and it really made me think about how DS feels when he sees me using it.

  

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• GoombaGirl_79

  November 2010

  DS hates when I'm on the computer if he's around..he comes over and pulls at me and complains until I get off. I typically only use it when he's napping... though some days when I'm really tired I zone out a little on the net while he plays (if he doesn't mind haha)
  

  

  

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• AfterAll

  November 2010

  One hundred million percent, yes.  I literally laugh out loud when I hear people on here saying that they are better mothers because they are SAHMs than working moms.  Staying at home does not a better mother make.  There is a difference between being home with your child and actually "being present" with him/her. 

  One cannot simultaneously be on the computer, texting, watching TV, etc., and paying full attention to her child.  Humans cannot divide their attention that many ways, though we like to believe we can.  This can be proven by the fact that we have numerous conversations each day with people sitting next to us, while on the computer, and watching TV, and later we have no recollection of the conversation, or the promises we made.
  

  I am just making a general statement.  Sure I pop on and off here all day long.  And of course I do it when Jackson is around also when he is eating or playing independently or something.... but I have no delusions that I am mother of the year.  I do however make a conscious effort to spend some quiet, one on one, play time with him each day, and I hope that every mother does.

  I think that these social media outlets play an important role in our lives as mothers though.  A lot of times, in generations past, women defined themselves ONLY by their children, and often felt lost when their children left the nest.  Now we have the ability to simultaneously be SAHMs and have our own lives, and stay in touch, network, research, etc.  There just needs to be balance... in all things.
  

  

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• blushingbrideoct07

  November 2010

  This was one of my unpopular opinions a few months back.  Nothing is more rude then when you are out with other people (teens or adults) and they cannot put their dang phone away.  

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• GoombaGirl_79

  November 2010

  This subject's a little stale since I wrote it a couple days ago but yes, for sure balance is key! I always feel guilty if I have a day where I spend more time then I think is right zoning out on the internet or having my nose in a book when DS is awake. It happens sometimes, usually on the days I haven't had a good sleep or if my patience is really thin for whatever reason (DS having a tantrum day etc). But I also make a strong effort to have at least one really good long one-on-one play time with DS. Even if it means just sitting in his room with him in my rocker watching him and responding to him as he plays. I also aknowledge him any time he tries to get my attention; I never want to be one of those moms who's kid is sitting there saying "MOM MOM MOM" over and over as she yaks on a cell phone or something, totally ignoring him/her.
  

  I posted this more in regards to people in general, out in public on transit or out for walks etc.. it feels like everyone has some form of electronic distraction under their nose or plugged into their ears. I think this is why I took up photographing things.. I spend a lot of time taking pictures of just neat things I see day to day. Sunsets, neat plants, animals/bugs, DS doing cute things, funky buildings or hidden nooks and crannies.  Just to appreciate what's around me.
  

  

  

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