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May 2011 Moms
WWYD? (vent, long, NBR)
Since my actual MIL lives in FL, I guess this is my "MIL" vent. I waited a week to post about this to see if my feelings came down about all this or not. I don't think they have.
Anyways, a little back story: FIL lives with us(we are able to afford to rent a bigger house this way, Cape Cod is absurdly expensive, but the only place DH and FIL can do what they do and charge a sane amount for their services) and has a girlfriend, Christine. She is definitely one you would consider a hippie; buys organic everything, peace signs everywhere, her house is a disaster, her kids wear hand me down clothes, she teaches with a masters +30, but still cant afford anything, she literally hugs non-corrugated cardboard(we can only recycle corrugated cardboard at our transfer stations) until I tell her to give it to me to throw away. Crazy woman. OK, on to the story.
Last week, she had Veteran's Day off, so she decided to come down to see FIL, ok, whatever, thats fine. The day started out terrible, just as I was about to take a nice, long relaxing shower, I got a call from DH saying "We need tools, grab Christine and have her help you." They were about an hour away, but what was going to make the trip worth it was a french bakery that I love. Long story short here, they didn't have anything I wanted. Boo. We get back to the house and I decide to go talk to someone at the GMC dealership(we are looking at getting a Terrain), she sucked. Then I had some business to attend to in the mall, total disappointment there, too. I was supposed to stop by BB&B for a new shower curtain, but decided against it(who knows what would have happened there, I want to keep liking BB&B).
So I get back home and Christine has taken it upon herself (didn't ask at all), because she "wanted to help" to clean DH and I's bathroom(there are 2 in the house), now, I will admit, it was a mess bc of the 1st tri energy crisis, but had I not been called upon for tools earlier that day I would have had cleaned it. She threw away a can of Febreeze claiming "It has Arsenic in it!!!" Ok, well, you could have told me that and let me decide for myself, instead of treating me like a 3 year-old, but whatever.
So our ceiling has MINOR mold issues, I clean it once every few months and we are in the process of installing a PVC covering over it to help prevent it. Apparently she had started SPRAYING our ceiling with bleach(instead of using a sponge an a bucket of bleach water like a normal person) before she took our light red towels out of the room. These being my favorite towels bc they were wedding gifts from my godparents, and I treasure all of my wedding gifts because I am so far away from home and can only go back once or twice a year, so our wedding gifts to me, are my connection to "home" and the known and well, sane, to be quite honest, the people here are a lot different than they are back home. And we don't have many nice things, I cherish the nice things we do have.
Anyway, I have 2 BRIGHT red floor mats that were really cheap, so they bleed and shed like crazy if you wash them, so I only pop them in the dryer to clean them, she tossed those, a red bath towel, a red hand towel, a CREAM washcloth and our SHOWER CURTAIN in the washer. Really? A plastic shower curtain in the washing machine? So now all 3 towels are ruined, the cream one is pink/red/cream tie dye and the 2 red towels are covered in bleach spots. When I showed her the washcloth(I didn't see the red towels till the next day bc she banned me from the bathroom), she made some unintelligible noises and then said "OK, I'm over it now!" in a cheerful voice. WTFH? You RUINED something of mine and you don't even apologize? The shower curtain was riddled with holes from being put in the washer, guess I should have gone to BB&B after all.
OK, thanks for sticking with me for this long, I'm sorry this is SO long! So I plan on replacing the towels she ruined and going about my life as if it never happened. IF that is, I can replace them, I wont know until I can get to a JCPenny's, as we do not have one on-cape, and the closest one is a little over an hour away. So my questions for you are:
1) Am I crazy for feeling this way?
2) I want to offer the ruined towels to her(she'll take anything if you give it a sad enough story), but I have passive aggressive tendencies(something I try not to do, but unfortunately happens sometimes) at times, so do you think she will take the offer as anything but an innocent try to find a new home for these towels(I'd hate to throw them out, bc they are so nice, but I cant stand the sight of them)?
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Re: WWYD? (vent, long, NBR)
Thank you, thank you, thank you for seeing things the way I see them!
I thought about buying online, but IDK if i would be buying the right shade, but I will look anyways!
As for the bleach, like I said, she is crazy, BSC!
Thanks for reading all of that as well!
I'd be mad enough to try to exact some juvenile revenge. Buy a ton of styrofoam plates & cups and throw them out, buy a (fake) fur stole and say "Don't you LOVE my new stole?! It's 100% clubbed baby seal"...and then I'd drench her room in Febreeze. Maybe add some *extra* arsenic, even...nah jk lol.
But seriously, what a c*nt. I'd at least make her pay for whatever needs to be replaced. That's absolutely a reasonable request.
Thank you all for your responses!
I personally wanted to strap her to a chair and make her watch DH play endless hours of Call of Duty: Black Ops (She got stupid and irritated at the commercial for COD that has regular people firing guns, nobody gets hit, blown up, hurt, etc, bc she teaches in the inner city and all of her students are gang bangers and shoot each other) and then while he was at work or sleeping I wanted to set two episodes of Penn and Teller Bullsh!t, the one on violence and video games and the one on organic food on an endless loop. Not like it would make her any saner, but It would have made me happy. I've made some progress on the food front and have gotten her and FIL away from soy(he used to drink Silk like water) bc I told her about all of the negatives about the stuff.
I think I will talk to FIL tonight or tomorrow before she gets here with her kids bc I also wanted to talk to him about her drinking all of our liquor(she is supposedly sober, even though she got a DUI memorial day weekend) because I'm sure he's unaware of it.
Thanks again, ladies!
The heck with that, I've always wanted a real fur stole(even though they arent really my style, I like them anyways), next time I see one at an estate sale, im getting one!
I had to laugh bc SIL was over and DH, SIL and I were talking about getting a Terrain and Christine completely interrupted our conversation to PSA about the Febreeze. After she walked away her dog was irritating SIL(damn dog isnt even trained to come when its called) so SIL asked the dog if it wanted to be sprayed with Febreeze! I wanted to laugh SO hard!