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My UO ... co-irkers
Even though I know that stay-at-home parents work just as hard as working-outside-the-home parents, I have less sympathy for SAHs than families with two parents working out side the home.
My boss and I had a "chat" last week where he 'accused' me of working less hours than my co-workers because I leave early or occasionally come in after 830am, (but never after 9am). I always make up the hours/work, sometimes it's at home/remotely, but I always get my work done. My boss then said, "A lot of people have kids/babies, and they still manage to be here, in the office, for 40 hours (unpaid lunch, so, technically 45 hours)."
Except that every co-irker that he 'implied' was in the office for 45 hours, has a SAH spouse. When both parents work outside the home, and you have to work around daycare while getting yourself and a baby ready for work in the morning, or pick up by a certain time at the end of the day, it's just more difficult and challenging than when there is a SAH spouse. (And I've noticed that A LOT of co-irkers 'only' work 40 hours, which, according to my boss' definition, they are only working 35 hours ... since he doesn't consider lunch (even though we're salaried) to be paid.)
So my unpopular opinion is that I have less sympathy for co-irkers who have a SAH spouse. If my husband was a SAH, of COURSE I could be here 10 hours a day!
(In all honesty, I just think that my boss and I just hit a 'perfect storm' of things that went wrong, and we just needed to have it out with each other.)
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Re: My UO ... co-irkers
I hope you can get something worked out with your boss. He sounds like a douche.
DH is always gone to work when I get me and Ds ready for work and grandmas. I'm late a lot including today. He got toilet water on his shirt. Got poop on his hand while I was trying to change him. He found a bowl icecream DH had left out, and got sticky cream all over his freshly washed hands. He took off chasing the cat that I was also chasing so it wouldnt get pawprints in the house. This all happened in 5 minutes, and I was 5 minutes late to work. The boss has Martha Stuart for a DIL who can dress and feed two kids and make it in early everyday. He compares everyone to her.
I share this UO with you. I agree!! They are def. logistical challenges regarding daycare when both spouses work full time. Something has to give.
However, I am SUPER lucky. Both of my bosses had babies 3 months after I did so we are all very flexible and understanding of schedule adjustments. All of our spouses also work full time.