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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
ugh dh vent
need to get this off of my chest... ugh.
So I've asked DH to stay with DS longer than like a hour twice since he was born so that I could do something for myself... tonight was the 2nd night to go get a hair cut. Both times he's done something wayyyy different than what we normally do... the first time he didn't feed DS after 3 hours.... and wondered why he was screaming... um, really, we had been feeding DS every 3 hours since birth.... and this time, he's supposed to get DS fed (which I had to start of course because it'd be too much to ask for him to allow me to eat my meal), play for a bit, bath and then read to him. If I wasn't home by 7:30, he was to put him to bed.... I came home at 7:05 with DS in bed already.... um, since when does he go to bed at 7??? Oh wait since I asked DH to look after him for the evening.... he said DS was tired... I put DS to be every night at 7:30 and he had an awesome day of naps today and I know for a fact that he just used that as an excuse to go do whatever he wanted instead of hanging out with his son.... blah! I know he worked all day, but I stay home with DS all day and every Tuesday I'm completely alone all day... why couldn't I just have one evening!?!
And to top it off, I got my hair cut and I walk in the door, his response "Look at you." and I said, do you like it? he said, "well, it's short." nice.
thanks for listening. I feel better now and didn't take it out on him.
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Re: ugh dh vent
I don't mean to be snarky on the snark, but maybe SHE wants another baby and it doesn't matter what the H thinks
Anywho, I think it'll get better. My husband is kind of similar, and I've been trying lately to kind of ease him into the child-care thing. He just doesn't have much experience, and after asking around on here, I felt like it wasn't so out-of-the-ordinary for it to take a while for some guys to become 'good dads' I guess, for lack of a better word for it. So to all of you women who had all-star husband/dads immediately after your kid's birth: awesome for you! That is so cool and we all wish it could be like that. But for some of us, our husbands have other strengths and have to work harder at dealing with the newness and awkwardness of baby life.
Again, I'm in the same boat and really recently just trying to work at this too!
SO!
Let's see the haircut! I remember you asking about ideas!
Really? She's had a sh!tty day. Give her a break.
Sorry to hear about your hubby, I just think it takes guys awhile to figure out what to do with a baby (at least I know my hubby is this way). I just don't think they have the natural instincts like us women do.
At least you got out of the house solo, so jealous! How did the hair cut turn out? I too remember you asking for ideas for a new hair cut. By the way, my LO is almost 5 months old and I haven't had a hair cut since I was preggers. I'm just dying to get my hair cut!
I kind of agree.
I always wanted 2 kids, but I can barely handle the one by myself on the 2 days a week I'm not working, and DH does the same sort of things as your H, OP... tries to put him to bed to early, feeding him at weird times.
I'm done having kids.
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sorry you had a bad day, but I guess I don't see the big deal...
DH put LO to bed 30 min earlier than normal... Why does that matter? You got out of the house by yourself and had some awesome personal time, I'm jealous. I don't care what DH does with LO if he would be willing to keep her so I could go get a haircut...
that being said, perhaps this is just "the straw that broke the camel's back" at the end of a rough day?? That would make sense to me
I think lots of husbands are this way and I would let it go. When you are not there, you are not there-- you have to let him do stuff his way. I suggest going out for a longer period of time soon so he can do more. Nothing will be done the way you want it, but he will get the experience and you will get the break.
Good grief on the second kid comment. If we all waited for everything to be perfect before we had kids, there would be no kids.
Thanks for listening guys... it was just a bad day and had to vent... DH is very good with DS, but he has his moments, as I'm sure all do.... it was just a LONG day and had to get it out so I didn't snap at someone who didn't deserve it.
As for ttc, it was both our ideas. Yep, DH is still learning and that's why I didn't want to be all nasty to him... I need to actually get them alone more often so they get the hang of it.
It wasn't that he went to be 30 mins early.... I totally get that sometimes that needs to happen.... it just baffles me that it was when DH was home... especially since he napped until about 5pm. That rarely happens if at all. Like I said, bad day and to top it off that happened.
And I'll post my hair cut later, I have to get a pic of it when it's done (probably later today).
Thanks for listening ladies!
This! Thanks! I appreciate you standing up for me.
Thanks!!
I agree 100%. Just had to get it out, you know? I felt much better after I did!. 
I hadn't gotten my hair cut since I was pg too - it was just about 9 months actually. It felt great!! I totally suggest it - it felt like a literal weight off of my shoulders.
I think it turned out great!