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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Are you letting your LO CIO?
I've seen several posts related to CIO? Are you for or against it & why?
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Re: Are you letting your LO CIO?
if they are crying just to be picked up then I think they should CIO to break the habit! I know a lot of parents just cant do it cause they feel bad. Luckily my LO doesnt do that at all hed rather sit in his chair or lay in his bed than have me hold him!!
But if he isnt feeling good then thats another story!
No I do not CIO. My baby is not in the military, so she doesn't need to be "trained" to do anything. When she cries, she needs something, even if it's just extra snuggles or attention, so I meet those needs.
There are some babies that need to fuss or even cry a bit (I am talking for a few minutes at max) in order to sleep, or whatever. I don't concider that CIO. Then there are those that when left to fuss or cry, get more and more upset to the point of hysterics.
People who let their babies cry endlessly, trying to "train" them or "break bad habits" make me angry to the point of feeling physically sick.
Dominic will literally not go to sleep unless he whines a bit before hand. I don't let him do an all out cry at this point, just whine. If it's his end of the world cry, he wouldn't go to sleep anyway!
For Natalie, she didn't even wine at all before sleeping, but she's a completely different kid! When she was around 9 - 12months, she did the whole 'crying' (it was more like whining) for attention and for me to pick her up during her nap...... I wouldn't pick her up and she would sleep well for her naps after doing her whine.
I'm not sure what my stance is, but every baby is different. I don't handle 'end of the world' crying well, so I guess I'm against CIO if it's a full out awful cry..... but, again, different babies are, well, different!
We have been letting him CIO (we've been lax about it the last few nights because he's been sick- in those cases, he doesn't feel good and he just wants him mommy/daddy and I understand that). We have gone for 2.5 months with him waking multiple times a night and needing to be rocked back to sleep. When I say multiple it could be anywhere from 3-7 times in a night. We use the magic sleep suit which has helped, but once he hit 5.5 months, it was time. He was just waking out of habit. He is not hungry until 1am so if he wakes before then, he CIO's (we do ferber, so we go in to soothe after the determined amount of time).
Honestly, what made me realize that we needed let him CIO was that none of us were getting good sleep. I felt like a zombie all day at work and wasn't a happy mommy when I got home. Then, my friend who is a nurse and works the night shift fell asleep at the wheel driving home and rear-ended someone going 40 mph. Everyone was fine, but it made me realize that I drive around with DS totally exhausted all the time and it's just not okay. We had to do what was best for us. It has worked well. Last week when we started was the best week of sleep we've had in a long time. I realize we're back tracking by picking him up this week due to him being sick, but I know we will get back on track.
Also, just wanted to add- if DS was only waking once or twice a night, we would be fine with that- its 3+ wakings that just didn't work for us!!!
I think CIO isn't necessary unless I have a 2 yr old that is pulling some foolishness on me, making me call Nanny Jo. Seriously, that or the poster above me with sleeping issues... then it's a different story. If my 5 month old is crying her brains out, I'm ok with assuming she needs something from my husband or myself. If it's just a snuggle, so be it.
Lilly will whine herself to sleep sometimes, but I don't consider that a cry. If she does wake up crying, sometimes she falls right back to sleep on her own in a minute or so.
Personally, I'm not a fan of training anything other than a trip to the potty.
It's not for us.
I really can't go in to why without saying a number of potentially inflamatory things so I'll just stick with that.
NO
shes too young and shes crying for a reason so I go to her and pick her up and comfort her.
We let DD fuss it out for sleeping only. If it turns into real crying then we assume she needs us. It's been great because she falls asleep so much faster than if I rock her into a deep sleep.
I let her get to the "end of the world" cry once- after 20 minutes, I had to go up and she was so upset that it made me cry too. It wasn't good for either of us.
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no way in HeIl
if she is crying it is b/c she needs something, and even if she just needs to be held then that is a genuine need.
I would rather look back on this time and no that I cuddled her every chance I got than wish I had let her scream b/c it was "inconvienent"for me to go hold her...
that being said, and i'm 99% sure I will get flamed for it, lol... I'm a SAHM with no older kids so I can nap when she does. If I had older kids or a job then I might be more tempted... Still can't see myself CIO, but perhaps more tempted to do something to remedy the situation...
Btw, I don't have an awesome sleeper. I got 2 weeks of her sleeping well, and now she needs to be with me to sleep, and nurses literally all night long...
When DS is tired, he often times whines/cries a bit before he falls asleep. However, if he starts crying for any other reason, and I can't fix what he wants right away, he will not stop, just gets worse...louder, more upset, like the world is ending! For example, if he starts crying in the car while I'm driving. I don't pull over unless it's a really long car ride, otherwise, he has to wait until we get home, etc. The longer he cries, the worse/more upset he gets, like it's so traumatic.
Our pedi recommended starting it. I ordered the book yesterday and am going to read it and then start. I do not see a problem with it if a baby is the right age and parents do it the right way.