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June 2011 Moms
MelanieAdam0707
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Non Baby related...opinions??
MelanieAdam0707
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OK gonna try to not be long winded...I recently took a job that maybe you all have heard me vent about in recent weeks...it's school based and 15 minutes from my house...I thought perfect! I hate it. I left an agency I loved working for and a job I cherished b/c it was late nights and an hour away. I tried to get a school based job through them at the time I applied for this one and was sad not to be able to so that.
Fast forward to today...I visited them b/c I needed signatures and reference forms filled out by my old supervisors so I can get my prof. license and it was heart breaking being there - it feels like home, like family. On my way out I popped in to see the director and she offered me a school based job. BUt still 1 hour commute...but with tons of support and positivity I am missing at my new place. ANd it wasnt an issue that I am preggers.
I feel like job satisfaction is really key to my happiness...but after the baby will I care more about being 15 mins from home...if I hate my job (my livelihood) or will it all be moot once I have a baby and I'll chop trees if it means i get to spend more time w my family.
The good part is that I could send baby to daycare near my work (if I changed jobs) so that hour commute would be spent w baby...and this job gives me 3 extra weeks of summer vacation?? and i'd be home at 4:30ish still before DH...
WWYD?? (i know its super personal but maybe you guys can bring to light the minuses or enhance my pluses )
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Re: Non Baby related...opinions??
I'd take the job. I'd make a lot of concessions to work an environment where I was comfortable and happy and if the baby is near you in case of emergency does it really matter if you are an hour away from home?
Once your baby is school age you may be more nervous being away from them (assuming the school is near your house not your job), but that's 5 years down the line. Plenty can happen before then.
You need to do what's best for your family. If you are unhappy where you are that can really affect your quality of life...and you don't want that while your preggy and you don't want that when the baby comes. Sounds like you should take the hour commute job...seems like you would get more out of it and be happy
But that's just my opinion...you gotta do whatcha gotta do. GL!
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Some things I would consider...
1. I think you will care a lot less about work once you have your baby...not that you won't care...but I just think it'll seem so much less important.
2. Being miserable at work sometimes = being miserable at home...taking work home with you and being angry and snippy with family members, etc.
3. When choosing daycare, keep in mind that there are days where your child will be sick and someone will have to leave work early and go pick him/her up. If it will ALWAYS be you, then having daycare close to your work would be find. But if your husband is going to have that duty sometimes, then you may want to consider a daycare closer to home so that either of you can conveniently pick up your child.
4. Add a whole bunch of time to that extra hour of travel for getting up much earlier to shower, get ready, wake baby up, feed baby, burp baby, change baby, get baby in car, drop baby off, etc. Your mornings will be a lot earlier either way.....and even more so with an additional 45 minute commute. Add on the time at the end of the day for pickup from daycare, etc.
With all that being said...I'd ideally try to find a job closer to home that I enjoy (if there's such a thing available)...even if I had to switch companies, etc. An hour commute just doesn't sound ideal to me with a baby...but that's just my opinion. I'm sure there's plenty of girls on here who will do that and don't have a problem with it. I'm spoiled and live 1.3 miles from work right now.
I would take the job. I left a situation that seems similar to yours and constantly second guess whether it was the right thing to do. It's been nearly 10 years since I left there and I still think about them nearly daily. When you are happy at work, the long commute doesn't feel nearly as long.
My neighbor next door is now commuting an hour each way and has her kids in preschool near her work. While it's a drive, she has her twins with her and has said that her job satisfaction and security are worth the commute.
Take the job. You are more comfortable and happy there. That is more rewarding in the long run than being somewhere close to home. Right now it seems like it is better for your baby but if you can take the baby to a daycare close to your work, do it. Your family and yourself will be used to the commute anyway. I wish you all the best.
Job satisfaction and happiness is key.
Thank you SO much ladies - as always your feedback and wisdom gives me lots to think about...
One thing I didnt mention about my current job - is a safety issue where my boss is trying to convince me into doing more home-visits...which is not something I have ever liked doing or really care to do much of...esp considering the location of my current job. A lot of our families have chronic mental health issues, drug and alcohol abuse and well...it's got a lot of poverty and what comes with it bed bugs, lice, some homes drug dealing etc. It's a little more than I thought I could handle...so that's really had a big impact on my not liking the work (plus that my sup doesnt give two ships about my safety and wants to drop by these homes unannounced! crazy lady!)