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patchen30
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Could You Be ANY More Insensitive?
patchen30
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I talk to a friend of mine daily about every detail of our IF journey. She happens to be 5 months pg.
She knew I was having a D&C today and she told me yesterday basically that my experience freaked her out so she made a Dr appt b/c she's been having weird pains.
I sent her a bbm last night asking if everything was ok. She writes me back TODAY, the day of my D&C, saying "Everything was ok yesterday-baby is doing great and moving and kicking a ton. ??The pains are prob from muscles stretching, sometimes the baby could hit a nerve too." REALLY? Do I need to know that level of detail? She could have just said "it went fine." F HER!! My D&C went ok but I'm feeling very angry and emotional now and basically want to hide under the covers and not talk to anyone for a long time.
TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN 
IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
Lap 7/21/10
IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!
James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!
Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!
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Re: Could You Be ANY More Insensitive?
People really suck. How totally insensitive of her.
I hope you are feeling okay. I slept for hours. Get some rest.
TTC since 2007
6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.
~Lauren~
**SAIF always welcome.**
After 2+ years, 3 losses, 3 surgeries, 2 IVFs and 1 FET our little girl is here.
my read shelf:
Read in 2011: 56/55
Read in 2012: 31/30
Read in 2013: 1/25
Wow, her response was uncalled for and absolutely insensitive. I'm sorry she said that to you !
I'm glad the D&C went well. Please get some rest and take care of yourself.
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
I'm so sorry dear...I don't want to do this to a PG lady but for you, I will!
::walks up to Patchen's PG friend and throat punches her::
I'm glad your D&C went smoothly. Take care of yourself. We're all here for you. ((HUGS)).
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012
Hmm...WOW.
((hugs))
History of IF and 2.5 years TTC. The day we were to start our first IUI we received a call that changed our lives forever and 10 month old Olivia joined our family. Shortly thereafter we got a surprise BFP and baby 2 is due July 5, 2012
You are absolutely right. Some people, friends even, are so insensitive. I have one too -- sending me US pictures from this immaculate conception baby she is now PG with - informing me of her every symptom. I have shut her off for a while. I, too, have shared every single detail, emotion, everything with her.
::hugs::
TTC #2 since June '08
~*DD 10.21.07*~
dx unexplained
IUI #1-4 BFN
IVF#1 June 2011 BFN
IVF#2 Dec 2011
Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634
EDD 8/25
*PAIFW/SAIFW*
"Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." Hebrews 11:1
{{big, big, hugs}}
Some people can really suck!!!
I am keeping you in my T&P.
Blythe Elizabeth is here March 27,2012
Ugh that is just so awful and so insensitive. ((hugs))
~Life After Infertility~
Im so sorry!!! Bump burp!!
Im so sorry about your D&C =( Just ignore your friend and tell her you need some time.
07/14/97 - Stillborn twins at 22 weeks
12/20/99 - Miscarriage #1 - 11 wks 4 days laproscopic surgery due to rupture of tube
07/01/01 - Divorced
05/30/09 - Re-married to a wonderful man!
11/11/09 - Miscarriage #2 - 10 wks 3 days, D&C
Dx: Unexplained
07/30/10 - 10/19/10 - IUI #1 - IUI #4 clomid cd2-6 + premarin cd7-13 + HCG Trigger=BFFN's
11/10/10 - IVF #1 Start stims ER#1 11/22, ER #2 11/24, ET 11/29=BFFN
03/14/11 - IVF #2 start stims, ER-03/26/11, ET-03/31/11, beta 04/08/11 = BFFN
05/16/11 - Hail Mary Cycle - Inj+TI =BFP!! 06/08/11 Beta #1 71.8, 06/10/11 Beta #2 201, U/S 6/20-1 sac. U/S 6/28 sac and hb of 118!!
PCOS, RPL, & Anti Cardiolipin Antibody
I'm so very sorry you are going through this. I'm sure there's little I can say to help. I went through a D&C a few months ago and it was very scary and emotional, but it did enable us to keep moving forward. (We waited a while for my body to do it with no success). I didn't want anyone but my husband and I dodged calls and such from the rest of the family. Take some time to heal and go easy on yourself.
Your friend is wrapped up in her world and probably doesn't mean to be rude, but damn,.... she is being rude in this case!
but my heart just breaks for you... no one really understands until they are in those terrible ugly shoes. Take care of yourself!!!!
TTC since October 2007 DX: MFI
#1 & #2: Fall 2009 - 2 rounds of Clomid - BFN's
#3: April 2010: IVF w/ ICSI - BFP but then....blighted ovum, D&C 5/26/10
#4: 8/27/10 - FET = BFN
#5: FET #2 - 10/28/10, 2 embryos... BFN
#6: IVF w/ ICSI & AH ER 3/5/2011; 6-day trx 2 blasts 3/11 BFP!!! HB @ 6weeks but it was gone a few days later. D&C 4/8/11
#7: IVF w/ ICSI & AH ER 8/29/11; 6 day trx 2 blasts, BFP!! (3 totsicles too) HB seen at 7 weeks, but was gone at 8.5 weeks. D&C 10/14/11 HEARTBROKEN!!
#8 FET - 4/6/12, 1 embryo.....
**** SAIFW ****
Currently pg with our 1st after 6.5 yrs of IF (thank you IVF)
My IF/Everything Blog
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***My posts are always SAIFW**
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
People really are clueless. I sit next to a pregnant woman due within two weeks of my EDD for my last loss and she comes in and complains every day abou ther swollen ankles and big belly. Honestly? The other day I actually told her that I would be happy to trade with her. That shut her up - for about five minutes.
Unfortunately, people just don't understand the incredible hurt and grief that come along with miscarriage, much less miscarriage plus infertility.
Huge hugs to you and go ahead and hide from the world, there's nothing wrong with that.
Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12
Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck. Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.
This Cluttered Life
Dx -Ute cancer, DOR from cancer treatments, and embryo quality issues. NOV 2010 CANCER FREE
2005-2011= 3 Rounds of Clomid, 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's- ALL BFN's
After 7yrs TTC, 5yrs of ute cancer, and 11 failed IF treatments, we got a surprise BFP! So thankful!
Gemma Grace born 09/30/12
Phillipians 4:6,7