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mistywhite400
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are you easily offended
mistywhite400
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So I was replying to the below post of PBJXXX (Can't remember the spelling sorry) and I originally put I love his chubb, but erased it & put I love his cuteness...b/c I would hate to offend someone by commenting on their LO's chubb....so many people on here seem to get their panties in a wad over someone calling their LO fat or chubby...
So my question is are you offended when someone comments on your baby being chubby or fatty McGee...IRL or on here
I'm not I love to see chubby babies & call Emerson Fatty McGee all the time. I am careful not to say that to other people's LO's b/c like I said before I'd hate to offend someone. Now when she's older I won't call her fat b/c of obvious reasons, but for now, she's a baby & they are supposed to be fatty McGee's
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Re: are you easily offended
Meh! I'm not a fan of people calling my daughter fat, but I wouldn't say that I am easily offended. In my opinion, chubby (or chub) is has a very different conotation than fat, especially when it comes to babies.
As far as myself, I am not easily offended at all. As a matter of fact, most of the time I don't realize I'm being insulted until later on and then it doesn't matter anyway, right? Unfortunately, because I am not easily offended and I am a very honest person with a "filter" problem, I end up offending others, even though I never meant to hurt any person's feelings.
I soooo don't get the rage that comes over some people when their babies are referred to as "fat." Babies are supposed to be fat/chubby/chunky!
A friend commented on one of DS's photos (when he was younger and much chunkier) on FB with this: "He's the fattest baby I've ever seen! Gilligan, did you eat the Skipper?!?" I thought it was hilarious, and it didn't even occur to me to be pissed or offended or anything of the sort.
But I'm like you -- I refrain from using the word fat when talking about/to other babies. But I'll call a baby chunky all day long.
We call our LO Chubber at home. He does now his real name though. It makes me happy when people call my LO fat and happy it means I'm taking good care of him.
Oscar's chubbiness is what makes him so cute.
I (sort of) have the opposite problem. My LO is barely 18lbs, and was in the 5th percentile for weight at 9months. I get comments about how "huge" and "big" he is and I'm just baffled. I'm not offended, but just very confused. I think it's because he has a REALLY big head. People have been saying it since birth (he weight 7lbs). I usually don't say anything.
If I had a baby who was chubby, I can totally see myself getting offended-depending on how a comment was worded. "Oh look at those rolls" "What a good chunker" things like that wouldn't bother me (I don't think). But I've read on here some comments that strangers make that I think are just rude "He/she doesn't look like she's missed any meals." "What do you FEED her/him?" "S/He's so fat! "
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
lol, people say that to Emmie all the time! I don't get offended but if they were actually being derrogatory then I'd be mad. I guess it's all in their tone...
Our little guy eats a ton but doesn't have a lot of rolls. The only comment like that I got on him was from a nurse giving him a shot once, and she saw the roll on his thigh and said "Aww, little chunky legs, that's what I like to see!"
It seemed to have a positive connotation to it so I didn't think anything of it.
I can't say how I would act because DS has never been chubby. I have the opposite problem. DS has always been small, he's not even 20lbs yet and he'll be 1 on Saturday.
Instead of people calling him chubber or whatever, people give me the eye and comment on how teeny he is. I've even had people joke that I must not be feeding him enough. A lot of the time while they say it they give me the look like I'm starving him or something.
Those things bother me, absolutely. I don't starve my baby, he's just small.
I'd never call another persons baby fat though. I'd never call a person fat, baby or adult, it's just NMS
Me: 37
DH: 36
Married: 08-25-07
DS: 11-20-09
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This...I don't mind the 'chubby' comments, but the fat comments just offend me. I guess it's because 'fat' is looked at as such a bad word in this society. For instance most people who are on the larger side are considered 'overweight' and not 'fat'. KWIM. This society makes the word 'fat' seem policitally incorrect.
I get that all the time, "Oh he's so huge" "Oh my, he's so fat"...
I don't mind chubby, or oh look at the rolls, but I hate when people say fat. I don't like that word at all, I hate when people call other people fat, ect. It's just an ugly word. So when they do say fat, I simply redirect to a nicer word! lol
I get a range of comments from "Wow, what are you feeding him?" to "He's a little guy, isn't he?"
Most comments about his weight/size I take w/ a grain of salt.
(c) Holly Aprecio Photography - Oct 2011
True, I should have clarified. If someone says anything about my baby with a nasty tone behind it, the claws are coming out! lol
THIS. I couldn't have typed it better myself. I have a huge filter problem too.
I don't get offended. My kid is BIG. And his fat rolls are the cutest things. I would be crazy to be offended by those. Babies are perfect - chubby or petite.
But on non-baby related issues, I don't get offended easily either. Things don't bother me that much - especially on a message board where I don't really know people. Things are said without having much of a background on the issue or knowing the full story. It's easy to get ruffled feathers, but I take most stuff with a grain of salt.
For me it's the tone that matters.
If they say, "aww look at those chubby legs, how cute."That is very different to, "OMG she's fat isn't she."
And even that doesn't bother me in the here and now. It bothers me when people like MIL who she will see regularly make comments because I never want my little girl to get a complex about her body because MIL is a dumbass.
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