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Holiday parties during the 2ww, if you don't plan on telling others that you are ttc.  I really do not want to tell anyone we are ttc, until we have a BFP.  I don't want the added pressure and the questions all the time.  DH and i have his family Thanksgiving this weekend and his family always expects me to have a few cocktails.  I will only be a few days DPO, but i really don't feel comfortable drinking during the 2ww.  Next week we will have the same issue again.  How are you all handling this? 

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  • Tell them you're counting liquid calories so you can splurge on pie.  
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    Tell them you're counting liquid calories so you can splurge on pie.  
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  • Ask DH to go get you a cocktail, but tell him ahead of time to make it without alcohol.
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  • If you really want to hide it, just carry around a glass of club soda with a garnish. It might fool them :)

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  • Agree with all the PP's. Make a "cocktail" without the alcohol, or tell people that you are wanting to splurge on pie. 

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  • Lie.

    This is totally not directed at you, OP (I promise), but I don't see what the big deal is with people giving themselves anxiety attacks over family seeing them not drinking.

    There are a million things you can do to hide it. My favourite is that I had a headache (or migraine which is common for me) so I took some advil before everyone arrived. I'm not comfortable mixing meds and alcohol so I'm going to skip the drinks tonight.

    You can always make yourself your own drinks. Gin and tonic? Skip the gin and no one will notice.

    Having a beer? Bring it to the bathroom with you and dump it out. Then fill the bottle back up with water. Works like a charm.

    You just have to get creative.

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  • If I get KU this cycle, I will find out 1 week before my work Christmas party, which is a huge drunk fest! I don't want to tell anyone at work for a while, so I'm planning on drinking craberry juice and sprite all night! They won't know the difference but I won't get questioned all night!
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  • I don't change my habits for the 2ww but the day I found out I was pregnant (ended in chemical pregnancy) we had a wedding to go to. I drank tonic water with lime all night - everyone assumed it was gin and tonics, which is my usual drink. Someone even commented to MH about how tipsy I was. I had a good laugh at that.
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  • I'm in the same boat.  Thanksgiving, my office holiday party, and Christmas are all during what will be my 2ww.  Of the three I'm more concerned about the office holiday party.  It's a huge beerfest and for the past 7 years, I've always partied til the end.  Do you think apple juice would be believable as beer?
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  • I have no problem with one drink sipped the whole night during the first half of the 2WW personally. 

    If you are going to a holiday party at a resturant tell the bartender just to give you cuba soda and cranberry or something of that nature in a fancy drink glass. They will always do it without asking any questions and you will fool everyone. If you have a private bartender for the party ask them to remember you and what you are drinking. I have done this before at holiday parties were I need to stay sober but the boss wants us to look like we are cutting loose so our clients feel comfortable ordering drinks.

    I LOVE the "counting liquid calories" idea. That's great for a home party!

    I am a big user of the "I have a migraine so one drink limit for me tonight"

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  • I also don't change my habits during the 2ww, but I can certainly understand and respect those that do. I am a BIG drinker, and people would def. talk if I chose not to drink on a holiday - so I might just play the hangover thing, or just simply say I'm not feeling it today, I dunno, and leave it at that. If they want to speculate (and they probably will) let them. I'll just reiterate what I choose to say - I just don't feel like it.
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  • DH almost never ever drinks. He just doesn't like alcohol. I drink on occasion, but not much. I am not too worried. And my immediate family will know right away. There is no way I could wait to tell them. But for those who are and who normally drink at holiday parties, I agree with the PP's. Make yourself a fake cocktail.
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  • Everything the PP said, plus you could also pull the designated driver card!

    Personally I don't have a problem with having a glass of wine or two, and after that I would just switch to perrier. If parties are that wild, people won't remember or notice anyway!

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