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BBColt78
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Donations, not favors
BBColt78
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Did anyone make a donation to March of Dimes as opposed to favors? We're doing this at my shower and I was just wondering how guests were informed 
Thanks!
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Re: Donations, not favors
Exactly.
If you want to make a donation, do it but don't AW it. Guests don't expect favors and they're not necessary.
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I've never done it, but I have heard of couples doing this for the wedding reception (charity donations in lieu of the bags of almonds and Hershey's kisses).
I wouldn't go as far as to call it tacky considering the money is going to a charity; and it's an appropriate charity considering the money is coming from a baby shower and the March of Dimes benefits babies.
Maybe make up a card for each person that says something along the lines of "In lieu of party favors, we have donated $__ in your name to the March of Dimes." Maybe include a little blurb about what the March of Dimes charity does just in case anyone is unfamiliar (there is always someone that doesn't know for certain).
ETA: Ok, good point about the OP receiving presents but going out of her way to make a charity donation on behalf of her guests. It was early... I didn't think about that part. Damn the minimal caffeine!
To the OP: Do your guests know that you'd rather have the money they would spend on presents donated to a charity of the guest's choice? Or are you expecting presents from them?
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If you want to make a donation to charity then do so but I wouldn't inform the guests that instead of a favor the money that would have been spent on it went to charity. They might be thinking to themselves, "hmmm...if she is so into this charity perhaps I should have just sent the money I spent on this gift to her chairty." Just don't give favors and don't mention why there are no favors.
BTW...I would not be one of those that appreciate money given to a charity I did not endorse. Even though it is a great charity as are all of them...it is not one of my 6 charities that we donate to. I guess if I knew my favor $ was going to one of MY chairties I might feel differently. kwim?
This if you want to give to charity have it be a gift on your end, meaning you receive less to give some to others. Not your guests receive less so you can feel good giving to charity.
I have seen this done at a couple of weddings. Both times, there was a card on the table to let people know.
Personally, I don't think this is appropriate for reasons that others have already mentioned. It does come off as AW-ing (though I think most of the time that is not the intention) and there is always a chance that someone won't like the chosen charity. I believe March of Dimes is a wonderful charity but there are others who may not feel the same way. Of course that doesn't mean they are bad people who hate children. Usually when I read about opposition to charities it doesn't have much to do with the cause, it is more about how the charity runs itself.
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I agree.
That being said, we did a donation for our wedding favors and attached it to a Christmas ornament. The tag said "The best gift we can give is the gift of helping others. In lieu of a traditional wedding favor a donation has been made in your name to the American Cancer Society." Then a little note thanking them for sharing in our special day.
DHs family had never seen wedding favors (maybe a cultural thing?) but I still wanted to give our guests a little something. This was our solution and we received several tearful thank yous from guests.
I think a donation is a nice idea. I considered it for my wedding, we were going to donate to Breast Cancer since my mom had recently finished her chemo treatments. I've seen people give out a cookie in the shape of a dog when they donated to animal shelter.
If you want to donate to March of dimes maybe do a small tulle bag with purple and white M&M's with a note/poem attached.
I have never even heard of giving favours at a baby shower!
Any time you can make a donation is a wonderful thing...?
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A favor is a small gift to your guests.
"I gave your gift to someone more deserving" is not a gift.
Um actually I didn't feel the need to reply. I read the ideas.
Not that it matters to you, but I feel more comfortable posting on IF. And if you look at my question posted above, I didn't ask whether I should do it or not, I asked how others may have worded placecards.