Intro

Parzia74 · November 2010

Hi Ladies,

I just wanted to introduce myself- I had a spontaneous miscarriage on Monday at 9w3d. I'm still trying to come to terms with it all- next wk we were going to tell our families the good news, and now, well obviously, we can't. The inlaws have been bothering me for months asking "when am I going to get pregnant", and for a few weeks now I had that giddy feeling inside knowing that I can finally get a chance to spill the beans on Thanksgiving. They've been on our case for over a year.. it took us a while to get pregnant in the first place- I thought it was hard to listen to when ttc, then i thought it was hard to keep a secret when i was pregnant, but to listen to it after a loss...not sure how i'm gonna control myself this time around. But we'll see. I don't want to ruin the day by sharing bad news, but if it's going to keep them shut going forward, i may have no other choice but to.

But anyhow, i just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. My husband and I would like to try to conceive again right away... I've read that a women is actually very fertile after a m/c... not sure how valid that is, but I guess we'll see. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that my cycle gets on track by Christmas, so we can have a clean slate for 2011.

I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you. You'll be my only support group during this time, so I hope I can be some support back to you as well.

-Jenn

daisygrl8423 · November 2010

I'm so very sorry for your loss. The ladies here are great and provide so much encouragment!!! Here's to hoping your cycle gets back on track soon and you feel our love and support! ((HUGS))

RunSchwartzRun · November 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. I hope you find much entertainment and comfort here. ((hugs))

itsmegin · November 2010

I am so sorry for your loss, I hope you can start again soon and have good news for your family. It can be so hard when they pressure you and don't know what you're going through.

I would at least consider telling someone in the family who can discreetly inform the rest of them of your loss, and that you'd appreciate they not pester you with questions about it. You might face some dumb, hurtful comments but you'll also probably get sympathy and understanding, which can make it easier than trying to pretend everything is okay, IMO. Just a thought. The holidays are going to be tough for all of us.

martinimomma · November 2010

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the Board - the Ladies here are the best you'll find on TB (not that I'm biased or anything) and I hope you find it to be as helpful a resource as I have.

As for when to TTC, the only consensus here is to follow your Dr's orders. He or she can help guide you based on your particular facts and circumstances.

Hope to see you here often!

smallfry5909 · November 2010

I am so sorry for your loss

I hope your stay here is short!

camdenfaithful · November 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'd definitely tell DH to let your in laws know they need to back the fvck off. I understand if you don't feel comfortable telling them what happened, we didn't tell many people either, but they need to get off your case. I bet that's really hard especially given your circumstances.

ravenorchid · November 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss, but welcome to the board. I can imagine it must be difficult to deal with your IL's pressuring you when you've been TTC and then had a loss. We were trying for almost a year when we got our first BFP. I hope your cycle gets back on track soon and that your stay on this board is short!